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*uan
writes:HI,I'm in love with my sister. Not my own sister, but she's is grandmom's sister's granddaughter. And our grandmom's had broken their relation long time back before we were born. I first meet her when I was 16 years old, and she is half year younger than me.. It was the first time I met her, and also met her as a friend, not as sister, as I really didnt have a clue we were related. I had a crush from the first time I saw her.. When later I knew we were related, I gave up those feelings... and made new girlfriend. Still I was close with her, and more than my gf, she knew everything about me.Later I broke up with my girlfriend, and that is when I was more close with her. And the feelings I had grew up more and more. I didnt tell her about my feelings, but one day, we both just jokingly told each other we loved each other. We both knew we were joking. Later, she messaged me that she really loves me. She loved me from the time we met, and didnt tell anything coz of our relation. But cant hide anymore...... And that made me love her more and more..Sometimes, feeling it wrong, we parted and also made relations with some other person, but still couldnt deny our feelings. I love her and she too the same. Nowadays, I try to be contactless with her, but I cant stop thinkin about her.. Just her and only Her.. Nothing is able to stop me from me loving her... and same is happening to herI dont know what to do.. I cant even tell anyone about this.. Is there any possibility that I can LIVE with her forever in my life?? I really want to be with her all my life... :(
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reader, Luan +, writes (7 January 2012):
Luan is verified as being by the original poster of the questiongoldie22 and bernard, thanks for your concern in my problem. And as you told, family interruptions might be the only obstacle for me to have her in my life.. And its the truth. I've been thinking of the same. Want to talk it out with my family, but scared for their disagreement. Sometimes, I just feel to get the hell out of the country and take her too with me.. But I cant even HURT the family who had loved and cared me from all those years from my birth...
I am just a LOSER... :( Feeling so sorry for myself. Cant stop thinking of her.. ONly HER... :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2011): Sound like you're getting good input. You might get some criticism of course. If so, you might like to have this article:A. Helgason et al., Science 319 813 (2008).You can go to Sciencemag.org and download it for a few bucks. It's about marrying cousins and having children and grandchildren. Read it carefully. They do not define cousins the way the rest of us do. For one thing when they say "second cousin or closer" they mean essentially first cousin once removed. And they calculate cousins by going back 10 generations and couting shared ancestors. These two things sort of balance each other out. But the bottom line is that in terms of marrying and having children, and if you are talking love you have to think about chidren, second cousins look like a good bet, far better than total strangers. Best of luck.
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reader, goldie22  +, writes (18 December 2011):
she is NOT your sister she is your 2nd cousin so dont worry about that, as far as i no its not illegal, the only issues u may come across will be with family objecting.
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