Sports Car or SUV?
Q. I'm a few days late on my period. I've been putting off taking a pregnancy test. I keep hoping it's just stress related. My boyfriend is thinking of buying a 'classic' car. He's very excited..having a mechanic check-out the car. And us test-driv...
A. 18 May 2009: Well now is better than in a couple of months when he notices you can't get in the car because of a large bump.
Find out asap and then have a serious chat about the future with him.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He's more interested in food than sex
Q. My husband does not want sex at all. No matter how I try to initiate it - sexy lingerie, romantic meal, kissing passionately - he just refuses sex. I know why - he's more interested in eating. He eats almost anything - from pizza to curry to a fi...
A. 18 May 2009: It sounds like he has some serious issues here and possibly an eating disorder.
The fact he's simply told you to bugger off and have sex with someone else says to me he has some real self esteem issues too.
What has happened to make him change ... (read in full...)
Bi-sexual? Bi-curious?
Q. Heyy! I just want to find out what the difference between bi-sexual and bi-curious is?? Any ideas?? Thanks =)...
A. 18 May 2009: If you are bi-curious it means you might like people of the same sex but you haven't had a serious think about it or experimented.
If you are bi-sexual, it means you know you are attracted to both boys and girls and plan to act on both.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Why did my wife ask my opinion and then do the exact opposite?
Q. A few weeks ago, I got an email from my wife asking if it was all right with me to have my 18 year old stepdaughter's 20-year-old boy friend move in with us -- because he was kicked out of his house (his parents are going through a divorce). I ...
A. 18 May 2009: So what has your wife said when you've told her all this?
It doesn't sound like you've spoken to her about it at all.
You say this is a dealbreaker, so you are threatening to divorce her over this, but then you say this happens a lot and you ha... (read in full...)
We don't have to get back together but I don't want him to hate me
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me recently when we argued in a club, saying we argue too often, and it's not working He does this alot and we always get back together, but this time, I told a friend of mine that he used to make himself sick for ...
A. 18 May 2009: He won't hate you.
He's just following his usual pattern of doing something to make you panic and feel bad so you'll take him back when he decides he wants to get back with you.
Leave him to it. He's clearly not a good guy to be in a relation... (read in full...)
What should be the next step?
Q. I need to know what to do next in a potential relationship. (I am in uni btw) It has taken me a while to realise how much she really does like me. We met five months ago and have been meeting semi-regularly or regularly for nearly 4 months. ...
A. 18 May 2009: Hey again.
You need to get on with this and ask her out.
She was not stroking a bottle phallicly that is just silly.
But just get on and ask her out before she decides that you are not interested and puts you in the friend zone.
If you w... (read in full...)
My husband told me he's gay but he wants to be "ex-gay"
Q. My husband told me yesterday that he was gay. It wasn't a big announcement, he just said to me "I have something to tell you, it's important!" so I sat down and listened. He admitted he was gay, and said tearfully "I DON'T want to be this way! I ...
A. 18 May 2009: It's pretty much impossible to change a person's sexuality.
If he is gay then he is gay. If he is sexually attracted to you then it could be that he is bi-sexual.
What this means for your marriage is another thing.
He doesn't HAVE to go... (read in full...)
I would love to swap roles with my wife for the day!
Q. My greatest fantasy is to dress up as a woman in my wife's clothes. I want to go all out on this. Like shave my legs and armpits, bra stuffers, blonde wig, makeup... the works... and have my wife become the man for a day. Any advice?...
A. 18 May 2009: Wow mate, you want to do an awful lot of things with your poor wife.
You've asked about 19 questions so far today all on strange sexual stuff.
You might want to chill out a bit.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Commitment phobic...?
Q. Hi I’d like your advice, about 4 weeks ago I met a guy on an internet dating website who I was initially extremely forward with me. I saw his pics on line and we chatted online for a while and he seemed really nice and intelligent as he has his own ...
A. 18 May 2009: Sounds like he is one of those guys that falls in love within 2 minutes and talks about marriage and kids and wants massisve amounts of sex.
And then when they figure that you have some kind of imperfection (eg. not willing to have sex straight... (read in full...)
Is this an STD? I'm scared... help!
Q. Ok basically im 18. i was having oral fun with my boyfriend (my 1st) and then his semen was like white/water (maybe precum?) then dark yellow. he even said oh its dark yellow lol... he's only had a sex with some girls and always used protection ...
A. 18 May 2009: It could be an infection and it could be an sti and it could be there is a problem with him meaning his urine is getting through and into his sperm.
He should see a doctor.
Until he does and gets the all clear then you should always use condo... (read in full...)
Any ideas for bringing this relationship back from the grave?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for nearly 3 years and the last few months he has been completely withdrawn from our relationship, he hardly talks to me, he is all the time saying mean things to me and so on and so forth. Last night i finally ...
A. 18 May 2009: Well you need to get your finals over with before you do anything else. So just bury all this at the back of your mind and agree to deal with it next week.
Then next week when it is all over you need to sit down and talk openly about your feelings... (read in full...)
I didn't think I wanted children, but now I'm rushing into relationships because my friend has a baby!
Q. im 21 and ive only really been in one serious relationship, when i was in that relationship (from i was 14 to i was 18) we had talked about having children and i really wanted kids because i was settled and living in my own home with my partner but ...
A. 18 May 2009: I think a new baby can look great as they have a new house and all the new baby stuff and everyone is happy for them and she's off her face on hormones so you get a warped picture.
A few of my friends have done the whole marriage and kids thing re... (read in full...)
What is the ideal penis size ?
Q. My wife and I have talked about me getting a penis enlargement. I'm already just under 8 inches, so what is the ideal penis length for women?...
A. 18 May 2009: Well I think if you are any bigger than 8 inches then you'll hit her cervix.
The biggest guy I've ever been with was also the worst in bed so why not just try some new things and get your wife to do some squeezes so she stays tight.
Surgery... (read in full...)
He is in a relationship but wanted to sleep with me...what is he thinking?
Q. im still madly in love with my ex and cant seem to get over him at all no matter what i do hes always in my thoughts... we slept together on a few occasions i only slept with him because im still really in love with him and thinking he might be ...
A. 18 May 2009: He's saying "I don't like you enough to make effort with you and be your boyfriend. But you are still just about attractive enough for me to have sex with."
He's being an arrogant pig.
Get your stuff. Tell him you would not have sex with hi... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he keep in touch he appears to really like me?
Q. Hi guys, I'm new to this, never really posted a question before. Basically i've known this guy for many many years.. i used to fancy him LOADS about 5 years ago when i met him but let's just say, i was too young and hadn't got my looks then! Ho...
A. 18 May 2009: It sounds like he's just a bit useless.
Guys often won't respond to texts unless there is a specific question in it.
Here is an article with the male perspective on it.
http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me where to find a decent man!
Q. Hi, im just wondering if anyone can give me any advice on where to meet decent down to earth men. It seems to me that men can't be faithful to one woman. Perhaps that's nature, i don't know but if a woman behaves like that then she's branded ...
A. 18 May 2009: Other starfish is right.
You don't have to go to night clubs.
There are a million things that men are doing all over the place right now. Figure out what kind of hobbies and things your ideal man would have and then go hunting for him there.
... (read in full...)
He has two children, am I being selfish and can this relationship ever work?
Q. Ok im 22 nearly 23, and just started dating a new guy who's 29, 30 next year....we got on so great then we had a heart to heart and i found out he has two kids from his last relationship aged 6 and 10.....im confused now! How could this ever wor...
A. 18 May 2009: Well if you want to take on 2 kids then go out with him.
He and his kids now come as a package and you have to accept that they will always come first to him.
His choice was to have kids so he has to live with the fact that not all women will w... (read in full...)
Was he trying to brush me off?
Q. Always good answers on this site. I broke up with my partner of 12 years three years ago and a year ago he starting calling me. I flew to where he had relocated to test the waters only to discover that there was someone else he had been seeing. I ...
A. 18 May 2009: So...... what's your question?
You're over. It was years ago. He's found someone new and so should you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I feel I can't hold in how I feel about him much longer.
Q. Okay so I really like this boy, he has a girlfriend, who he has been with for 5 months. They have broken up a few times, and whenever they have he came to me and I listened to him. He complained about her several times to me, but then goes and makes ...
A. 18 May 2009: Sweetie, he keeps going back to his girlfriend.
If you really don't think it will work between them then tell him to stop coming and moaning to you all the time and make his mind up.
He's either with her faults and all or he has to end it an... (read in full...)
He thinks he can change but is it fair for me to ask that of him?
Q. I was in an online relationship for nearly 4 years until i met and made a friend. Through this new friendship i realised wanted i really wanted from a relationship. It made me realise that my online relation wasn't the "great" thing that i had ...
A. 18 May 2009: No it's not fair to ask him to change.
Plus, why would you want to date someone who is playing a character out of desperation rather than being themselves.
Your online ex AND you need to get out in the real world and meet some new people.
G... (read in full...)
How do I get along with my dad we always falling out?
Q. Hey, okay so my dad is a douche bag, this is the story. I just moved in with my dad in December, and i've been alright, then he started calling me a liar, and he just never lets me do anything, i have been thinking it's because of my step mom who...
A. 18 May 2009: So he said you had to be home by 4pm, and you made no effort to do that and climbed a mountain instead, knowing it would take you all day?
Well it's no wonder he's angry with you.
Yes he over reacted but you have to admit some fault here rathe... (read in full...)
How do I change my own behavior in regards to his actions?
Q. Currently I'm dating a man I find somewhat challenging, and that is part of the reason I'm dating him. He's very flirtatious with other women, and since he is very attractive and lavish with his attention to them, they give him a lot of attention ...
A. 18 May 2009: Personally I couldn't deal with it. I don't get why you think you should.
I'm all for flirting and having friends and having fun. But it should not be such a big thing that your partner sees it / knows about it.
I would never flirt in front o... (read in full...)
Divorce and dating.....
Q. How long should a person expect someone to wait on them if they are in the process of a divorce? Is it fair for the one waiting to date someone else?...
A. 18 May 2009: We have so many girls on here who are dating married men and waiting YEARS for them to "finalise their divorce.... he just can't see me yet as it will mess things up and blah blah blah blah.... he says he loves me."
Yeah, never happens.
So my a... (read in full...)
Am I making a big mess of my life or do I just need to let fate decide for me?
Q. My life is going through a pretty turbulent patch at the moment and I would like to get some opinions on what direction I should be going in and whether I am making a big mess of things at the moment! Basically I have just found out I am losing ...
A. 18 May 2009: Your love life and your career life are separate.
Do not mix them up and let one influence the other.
I'm not going to advise you on which guy to pick. Personally if you have just come out of a break up then I would be single for a bit and ge... (read in full...)
Help me please
Q. help I am so unhappy in my marriage i no longer trust my husband and cannot get over his cheating he wont talk about what he has done and gets violent and throws things and he crabs me hits me i know i should leave but have no where to go an...
A. 18 May 2009: You sound depressed and you need to see your doctor about it. You need professional help to get emotionally and mentally stable.
After that you can start to think practically.
You say you have no where to go. Get on rightmove.co.uk.... (read in full...)
Why are we not together?
Q. okay I've been confused for sometime and it's hard not talking about it we'll i was pretty young when I met this guy his name was jose we met through his cousins which is along story but we went to the straw berry festival in Florida and he want ...
A. 18 May 2009: It's hard to get over someone when they won't tell you why they are ending it.
Why not try writing him a letter (or email) and ask him to write back and explain the truth to you, no matter how painful.
All you can do is look back on your tim... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman sits on your lap?
Q. I was sitting on a chair recently at a ramp party, and this girl sits on my lap. And she said she did it because her feet hurts. There are a few chairs. She proceeds to give a compliment like "your hair is hot." So, instead of trying to 'agree...
A. 18 May 2009: So why did you play games with her?
Why not just get chatting and then ask her out?
By sitting on your lap and giving you compliments she is clearly letting you know that she likes you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can he be so heartless?
Q. I dont know what to do. I had a guy play with my head and heart for 2 years. He never said he didn't care about me but he never said he did. God I can almost say i love him. Anyway, after 2 years of being "friends with benefits" (i never wanted ...
A. 18 May 2009: Oh sweetie I know this is horrible.
All you can do from this is learn.
You do NOT get into a FWB relationship with a guy you actually like / want more from.
You do not lie down and write welcome across your face and then get upset when peop... (read in full...)
He built up my hopes for nothing?
Q. ok so i met this really amazing guy he was so sweet and stuff calling me all the things i've always wanted to hear in my life and i thought finally!!! i'm going to have the relationship i've always wanted! so i wanted to meet up with him Satur...
A. 18 May 2009: Well you've learned that just because a guy says the right things, it doesn't mean he's not a complete idiot.
Yes you should be annoyed.
But don't waste time on being annoyed too long. Just delete his number cut contact and move on.
He's... (read in full...)
Why has he lost sexual interest in me?
Q. What are the causes for a husband to lose sexual interest with his wife? Any opinion is appreciated....
A. 18 May 2009: The main reason for men to go off sex is actually nothing to do with their wife.
Stress and depression kills their sex drive dead.
What else is going on in his life?
If you sort the stress out then his sex drive will return.
Why not do so... (read in full...)
I want to lose 50 pounds by the end of the summer
Q. please help me. I need to lose weight so bad. I need to know the best excercise routines I can do at home (not run around the neighborhood, that's embarrassing) and the best foods to eat and times. and just be really specific. This boy I'm in love ...
A. 18 May 2009: There is no specific magic formula to losing weight. It's not about doing set things at set times. Sorry but your body is just not that exact.
Cut out things with high fat and high sugar. (read the label)
Eat LOTS AND LOTS of healthy stuff so... (read in full...)
Why am I having trouble leaving him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half, and at first he was really great, but now I have noticed somethings that don't set right with me. I keep thinking that it would be good for me to get away from him but again I hate to leave hi...
A. 18 May 2009: Well it's not a very nice task to say "Look you are lovely but several small things have indicated to me that you are not worth pursuing in a long term venture so I'm off to try elsewhere."
Especially if you think he's going to be hurt and say ... (read in full...)
Guilt after son's death...
Q. My son has committed suicide today. Not only am I devastated to lose him but in some ways, I had already lost him. I feel guilty cos he lived with his dad after our acrimonious divorce, his dad turned him against me and I have tried and tried to ...
A. 17 May 2009: I am so sorry for this.
Just remember that if he was ill enough to kill himself then that illness must have taken over him.
He will have said and done things that weren't coming from him... it was his illness talking.
I think you need more... (read in full...)
Was that her period? Or is she pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend and I avoided having sex around her fertile time and she hasn't had any pregnancy symptoms. Her periods are usually really short with heavy cramps and a relatively light flow. She hadn't started on the day she was supposed to so we ...
A. 17 May 2009: I have never EVER heard of not drinking enough delaying a period.
It's more likely that she is stressed about something... probably the fact that her boyfriend doesn't care about her enough to use a condom and would prefer to use a method of contr... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this tight situation with my mom?
Q. My mum is really mad at me, i went to a gig yeterday in a city 200 miles away staying on the street over night. my brother told my mum and now shes really really mad, she wants to tell my mates parents but i cannot let her, my mate parents are so ...
A. 17 May 2009: We warned you.
You did the crime, so now you do the time.
Sorry hun, probably should have listened to all the people who told you that you'd get found out.
You took a risk that should have KILLED you or got you RAPED so you are going to have... (read in full...)
Was that her period? Or is she pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend and I avoided having sex around her fertile time and she hasn't had any pregnancy symptoms. Her periods are usually really short with heavy cramps and a relatively light flow. She hadn't started on the day she was supposed to so we ...
A. 17 May 2009: Take a pregnancy test and find out.
And for the future, although this method of contraception was great in the Victorian times, there have been several leaps forward in contraception since then.
These things called CONDOMS have been invented.
... (read in full...)
I love him, I cheat, why?
Q. my problem will probably appear very mixed up and contradictory. But i'm saying this from my own experience from my boyfriend of 15months. Since around 4 months ago, me and my boyfriends relationship deteriorated slightly, many arguments came and...
A. 17 May 2009: Sometimes you just have to accept that things are dead.
You KNOW this relationship is not going to get back to what it was. You KNOW that.
That is why you feel like you need to move on and go to other people.
Some relationships just don't... (read in full...)
He made it clear he won't commit! So why is he questioning me?
Q. We have been going out for years, he moved away for a job, he told me to do what I need relationship wise regardless of what he does. We still meet up every couple weeks. We still have great sex, fun, very compatible. I know he's trying or is going ...
A. 17 May 2009: He has massive double standards.
There are a lot of guys out there who think they are too cool for just one women.
So his idea is that he goes round have sex with lots of women, and you sit at home and have pillow fights with your friends and... (read in full...)
In love with my band teacher's wife
Q. i fell in love with my band teachers wife. me and him are sorta close. should i tell him how i feel? or should i tell her how i feel? or should i keep it to myself...
A. 17 May 2009: Keep it to yourself.
What possible positive outcome could their be by telling him or her?
Do band teachers not get any training about dealing with teens in America? We get an awful lot of problems with them getting too cuddly with their stude... (read in full...)
Best masturbation toys - any advice greatly received please?
Q. What are the best anal masturbation toys and teqniques i could use pls any advice would be most app. ...
A. 15 May 2009: Have a look at any adult toy website and see what takes your fancy.
As for techniques, just do what feels good.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I reading the signs right re this guy who shows interest in me?
Q. This guy that I work with started flirting with me out of the blue one day. We have a very strong physical attraction. But he told me from start he doesn't want a relationship right now. But, lately he has given me gifts and we have been hanging out ...
A. 15 May 2009: You have to take him at his word.
If you are going to fall for him and get hurt then just tell him that you are getting these feelings and you know he doesn't want a girlfriend so you are going to have to stop seeing him.
He's just happy with ... (read in full...)
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