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writes:Hello.Im just wondering, how many of the uncles and aunts on this site married their first love, or the person they were dating at 18? I hear of stories about people who married the person they dated at 18, but how often does this actual happen....So yeah, tell me your love story :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): married 1st bf. he's a great hb (well most of the time).
regrets - NO
is the sex still good - nealy 18 yrs later, ITS GREAT, better than when we first started. learnt many, many tricks over the years.
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reader, calabarguy  +, writes (4 May 2009):
 I wish I could marry my first love. But we broke up exactly a year ago (I was 22). The main reason being that she was older, and I was not sure when I was going to be ready for marriage, and didn't want her to wait indefinitely and miss out on an early marriage.Besides, I had my own share of personal problems; and she had hers too at the time, and we were no longer happy individually, and that meant collectively. I'm still not dating...Today, we are still best of friends.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (4 May 2009):
The link posted by "anonymous girl" should be [ http://www.handbag.com/relationships/27-love-facts-marrying-first-love/gallery ]
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reader, daletom +, writes (4 May 2009):
I count among my acquaintances several couples who first became attached during High School and now have been married for decades. I suspect most of them would agree that the love they now have is different in character from the love they had as adolescents. Many teen relationships are based on a need for personal affirmation, or social status, rather than real commitment to each other. But when you're actually in that kind of relationship I don't know how to reliably tell the difference.
I have had only two girlfriends, and loved both of them. The first started when I was just a few weeks short of turning 18 and continued for about 6 months. She was my first kiss and our lovemaking never went beyond some pretty passionate kissing - which I'm glad for. To this day I think we could have had a satisfying and successful marriage. Although the love we shared at 18 was NOT the same kind of love that would have sustained us through decades of marriage, I think we could have developed a long-term married love. Although breaking up was painful, I have no regrets from loving her, no animosity toward her, and sincerely hope she has found love and fulfillment in her life. (Patty, I wish I could tell you that in person.)
I met my second girlfriend after I graduated from college. We married about a year after meeting and are still married (to each other!) over 30 years later. We were each others' first sex partner, at age 23. I can now see that my second girlfriend was a better match for me as a wife than the first girl - but I wonder how much of that is simply because the first relationship happened at 18, but I didn't meet my wife until I was 22?
So don't dismiss or deprecate the relationships you have now because you are "only 18". They may, indeed, be the basis for something very long-term. And even if they aren't, I think you can enjoy, appreciate, and learn from them. Keep in mind that they will need to go through a process of change and maturation before they become anything like "true love" that lasts for decades. On the other hand, don't automatically assume that every guy you date will be "the one". I don't believe that there is only one "right person". Rather, there are many people who can become "the one" but it takes mutual effort, commitment, and BEING "the right person" as well as FINDING "the right person".
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I'm a romantic at heart so I do believe in first loves being the ones to last forever.. But without romantizing it, it's still quite possible. When you've known someone that long, you grow with them and they know you like no other.. I'm married to my first love. I am 28 and I knew him from when I was just 16 years old.. But it's never that simple. We had a lot of ups and downs, broke up for a couple of years and dated other people. I stupidly even married someone else and was married to him for 8 months. But I couldn't get my first love out of my mind or heart and when I divorced I found him again and although it was rocky, we worked it out fine. People go on and on about how you can't really know love at such a young age. But I don't think love is what you can't understand, I thnk it's the relationship that you can't understand. When you're young, you feel the need to explore and even if you have the perfect person at your side, logic tells you it can't be real at such an age, so most couples break up and seek experience else where. And I think its good because it's only when you've been through a few experiences that you realise the one person you can't forget is your first love. That's what happened to me and it was great.. I wouldn't change a thing. I beleive true love can last forever even in a world as cynical as the one we live in..
Hope I helped..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): There was a study done into this and apparently 2 out of 5 marry their first loves. And also, by the time you're 21-years-old you're likely to have met the person you will eventually marry! There are also some other really interesting facts about love on this website-http://www.handbag.com/relationships/27-love-facts-fall-in-love-seven-times-before-marriage/gallery.
Check it out...!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 May 2009):
I think it happens a lot. Especially in places where no sex before marriage is common. That forces people into marriage using hormones rather than judgement.
A lot of the aunts on here married their first love at 18 and then divorced him at 22.
Good Luck!! xx
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