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writes:I've recently started dating a girl. We've been on 3 dates in two weeks. Currently in the 4th week. Shes been busy this week. (Thats not a fob of story).In the first two weeks we would text a few times aday, a few days a week. Since we've not seen each other we text a lot more. I have a job where i can text more then her. (She's a teacher, I'm a IT guy). Generally she will respond to most of my texts.However i've just found myself texting her asking if shes around for a phone call later. And realise i will send 4 or 5 text to her a day. She will send 3ish.Am i texting her to much? I fear I am and will scare her away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses.
I life with some very pessimistic woman, who tell me all kinds of horror stories. So its nice to hear some different views.
Thanks
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (7 May 2009):
 Most girls like it if you text them offen though, it shows you are intrested.
But don't text 24/7 because she could get annoyed..
Good luck though
Livia
xoxox
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (7 May 2009):
You can text to much but 5 a day isn't much at all.
I'm a bit of a text addict and send about 150 texts a day which is abit to much but my boyfriend has a job where he can text back.
If shes a teacher, she has a very busy job and little free time. Try texting her after shes finished work when she has the time to text back.
Livia
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (7 May 2009):
 5 is not bad at all...Me and my man can send 50-100 a day (im a bit of a text addict you see!) she would tell you and you would probably texting too much
5600 texts in 3 months is too much :) (thats not only to him though)
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (7 May 2009):
Eh, i think you're in the "Honeymoon" period of the relationship right now, where you can't get enough of each other. I don't think you have to worry about chasing her away at this point..
The only thing i would insure is that all this texting isn't costing her any extra money.
The thing to be aware of is that, at some point in the relationship, one or the both of you will probably slow down completely on the texting. It's natural. Just don't be surprised or overreact to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): You don't sound like you're texting too much, i think that's quite a normal amount when you've just started seeing someone. The only thing i would say is definately don't text her again if she hasn't yet replied to your first message even if it's only once because I think that could be seen as a bit needy if she's just been too busy to reply to the first! But I think you're fine and I hope it keeps going well! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): All good answers below, but in answer to the headline question - OH YES! You should see my granddaughter. I'm only surprised that she doesn't walk into a lot more lamp posts than she does!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): Three times a day isn't really a lot, so don't worry
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 5 texts? Man you are getting off light!The lady I am currently seeing sends me 20 to 30 a Day. Just whatever comes into her head. I'm glad she's not a surgeon or there would be patients dying on operating tables all over her town because I swear to god she cant possibly have a job.Of course it does get annoying sometimes because I am not really into having the same person ask my what I am doing 15 times a day...lol...but I wouldnt be too worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi. Thanks for the Mighty quick responses. .
I'm not worried shes not interested, because unless she is lying in the text, its obvious that she does. I know that sounds big headed but i dont mean it that way. And i appreciate that she has a busy job unlike me.
I was just more worried that i would scare her off, by making her think i was needy. Which isn't the case i just when i'm bored or have a quite moment i text or talk to people. She just happens to be the person i want to talk to the most.
I do text then wait for a reply, mostly. Sometimes i may send two with out a reply, but no more than that. As you can tell i may be over thinging thinks here :P
I think i'm going to try (again) what kelly said. Text in the morning and leave it. I've been trying to do that. But sometimes i forget.
Thanks again for your responses.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 May 2009):
Yes you can text too much.
If she is a teacher then she will only be able to text you back at breaktime / lunchtime.
Send her a text by all means but don't text and text and text. Wait for her reply.
Also, don't just send boring "hi how are you today?" every single day.
Give it a bit of variation in when you text and what you text.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (7 May 2009):
 I'd love it if my boyfriend texted as much as you! I'm like you, I'll just text whenever and hardly ever get replies. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it shows you are interested. Why don't you give her a text in the morning and then don't txt all day unless she texts you, this should show whether she Is interested! If she is interested then she will message you back as soon as she can, x
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