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writes:Hey.I live in a shared house with 4 other people.A few months ago the latest flat mate moved in. From the first moment i saw her i thought she was gorgeous, but i didn't do anything about it, as i just thought my feelings where down to her being a new and exciting addition to the at the time all male flat.Almost 6 months on. My feeling for her have only gotten stronger. We hang out together all the time either with the other flat mates, but mainly just the two of us.We talk a lot, I help her out alot with a lot of small things, when i do she always says i'm fab, that i'm the best flat mate shes ever lived with, even one time she said she loved me. (I know she didnt' mean it like love love) But it still made my day.My problem is i'm rubbish at picking up signals. If there are any at all. Plus everybody says you shouldnt date a flat mate. I have no fear of being turned down. But i am worried that if she does turn me down ie doesnt feel the same as i do. She will no longer want to hang out and it will ruin our friendship
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 May 2009):
Cool, as long as you are ok with each other that is the main thing.
Friends are excellent to have. You make some of your best ones at uni.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk So its simply friends for us. Never mentioned my feelings to her. Pretty much went away with time
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): Your friendship seems to have come far in a few months, so to me it sounds like she likes you too.
You should go for it, but I do agree it could turn in to a disaster being the whole room-mate situation so you have to be absolutely sure that she is special and worth the risk.
Just make sure if the relationship does start to turn the wrong way (assuming you get with her that is) that you are prepared to move out and spare the poor other guys any of the grief and drama that they may get caught up in if you end up arguing / breaking up etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers.Emily. That very thought has crossed my mind a few times :pHotpink. I guess your right. I'm going to just have to play the waiting game i guess. See if i can pick up one signal to find out how she feels one way or the other. Which to be honest unless its her jumping me, i doubt i'll notice. lol
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 December 2008):
It's sad but I have to agree with hotpinkgirl. It's not worth the risk of
a) it ruining your friendship
b) the breakup causing misery for the whole house.
She's probably in the same puzzle as you are if she likes you too.
Wait till one of you moves out and then go for broke and tell her how you feel and snog her face off. You may still get a slap and lose a friend but at least you would know.
Good Luck!! xx
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