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writes:Hi, im just wondering if anyone can give me any advice on where to meet decent down to earth men. It seems to me that men can't be faithful to one woman. Perhaps that's nature, i don't know but if a woman behaves like that then she's branded a slut. I'm tired of being used. I want to meet guys who know what they want and who are mature. They all seem to behave like children. Where can i find men with my mind set. I'm down to earth. Im decent and loyal and faithful so i'm not prepared to be with anyone who doesn't have all those qualities. I'm not a big drinker or party girl anymore so i dont really go to clubs, so how do i meet men. Where do i meet them. Im a bit shy. I just want someone i can trust. Someone who is a gentleman. Though i suppose that's what most women want. Any advice appreciated. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): You know stop complaining. Just go out and do something else for yourself.
There are so many jerks and so many good men out there. When you are looking for someone you can pick a wrong man to be with. Because you feel lonely and put too much pressure on yourself, so you easily make a big mistake. When you are relaxed and doing something for yourself you are more attractive and a good man can find you. You don't need to find him. He will come to you.
Just stop complaining. It's a waste of your time.
If you stay at home you can't meet anyone. Just also wasting your time. Just go out!!!!!
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 "It seems to me that men can't be faithful to one woman. Perhaps that's nature, i don't know but if a woman behaves like that then she's branded a slut"
Woooooah hang on a minute. Speaking as a bloke who's been messed about by girls it would be easy for me to tar all women with the same brush. However, I'm not put off by it. There are decents guys and girls out there it's just you haven't met the right one yet.
"I'm tired of being used. I want to meet guys who know what they want and who are mature. They all seem to behave like children. Where can i find men with my mind set. I'm down to earth. Im decent and loyal and faithful so i'm not prepared to be with anyone who doesn't have all those qualities"
Join a club or take up a hobby you're interested in. Just get out there and try new things and you never know where he might be. The likelihood is, if you do what you want and participate in activities you're intersted in you'll meet likeminded people. Get yourself out there... He could be a friend of a friend or something. Open up your social circle! I've met loads of new people recently having been going down the gym every morning, running club once a week and I'm going to start doing a cooking course (as I'm fed up with living on curry and spaghetti bolognaise). Just pick something and go with it.
I met my first serious gf in a supermarket!
"I'm not a big drinker or party girl anymore so i dont really go to clubs, so how do i meet men. Where do i meet them"
Well, you might be lucky and meet someone in a bar or club but in my experience this isn't likely. I am a bit of a party animal... I love dancing. BUT... I have yet to meet a worthwhile woman in a bar/club in the last 7 years! NOT really a great place to start. I go to these places to blow off some steam and enjoy the music.
Sounds like you want to meet someone a bit more settled and bars/clubs are not likely to be the best places.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): dear 26-29,
before you do anything ,,,it would be a good idea ..to check on your self esteem...what issues are at hand when it comes to how you feel about yourself..take care of that and you will run into feeling better about yourself. then connect spirituality and you will find what your looking for....mr.right..
you see if your ok with excepting guys who just want to hang out and dont have an idea how to treat a women ..other
than taking her to bed and leaving and going back to their drab life..then you need a change. everybody wants a life that you can spend with someone special,even me..but its not going to happen unless you care about you..your special.
if you allow the same ole, same ole. then thats what you deserve..change your mind set ..for get the rest and start going with the best...meaning their is only one best..if your looking for a night in the sack..remember you may end up getting something you cant give back. and not only that
we all want that mr or ms right, i know i dont want my partners sexual parts all misused and abused..keep your best for the right one..take care ..i hope this helps you,
you seem like a nice girl,who wants to enjoy life..signed..
jj.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 Not sure about the loyalty of Labradors, if you ask the owners of most the mutts around here they always say "It's a Lab-mix". ha ha
However I do agree on the hobby idea. It's very important to get out there and be seen and involved. Join a hobby club, do some volunteer work, just be visible.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 May 2009):
Other starfish is right.
You don't have to go to night clubs.
There are a million things that men are doing all over the place right now. Figure out what kind of hobbies and things your ideal man would have and then go hunting for him there.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): ssshh don't tell her where we hide guys(he he he) ....
What hobbies do you have- if you think about it, you want someone similar to you... so explore your hobbies - if you read books join a book club - that kind of thing. go to a gym, join a walking club.... these things open up more opportunities and start you with a similarity.
if all else fails and you just want someone descent and loyal what about a Labrador?
star.x.
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