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writes:This guy that I work with started flirting with me out of the blue one day. We have a very strong physical attraction. But he told me from start he doesn't want a relationship right now. But, lately he has given me gifts and we have been hanging out without doing anything sexual. So..I don't get it. I'm confused. He kisses me and touches me with passion. I can feel it. But..what about what he said?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 May 2009):
You have to take him at his word.
If you are going to fall for him and get hurt then just tell him that you are getting these feelings and you know he doesn't want a girlfriend so you are going to have to stop seeing him.
He's just happy with things the way they are. So if you aren't then tell him and back away.
DO NOT hang in there hoping that he'll just announce that he wants you to be his girlfriend. It never ever happens.
The only way you might get him is if you tell him you want him as a boyfriend so you are cutting contact. After that he might just realise that he's going to miss out and get in touch to ask you to make a go of it.
He may also not but then you will have the space to get over it.
Good Luck!! xx
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