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writes:Me and my fiance have been together for nearly 3 years and the last few months he has been completely withdrawn from our relationship, he hardly talks to me, he is all the time saying mean things to me and so on and so forth. Last night i finally put the pieces together and realized he is no longer emotionally attached to me and I asked him if he was trying to leave me and he couldn't answer. He doesn't want to do it this week because I'm in college and its finals week but it has me so scared that I have lost every chance I have with him. Any ideas for bringing this relationship back from the grave because I do not want to lose him and he feels the same way but his emotions are telling him otherwise.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 I know this isn't what you want to hear but the main reason we have relationships is to see if we're both compatible with one another. It seems to me that your relationship seems to have burned itself out and from your fiance's viewpoint at least is one of habit more than anything else. For the last "few months" his feelings towards this relationship have changed, he just doesn't want to hurt you so sticks with it even although he's unhappy.The best thing to do is to have a talk and agree to give one another space for a while and NOT to see each other or make any contact for at least a few weeks. This will give your fiance time to see if he actually misses you! Don't pressure him into staying with you if he's not happy. It's imperative he gets time on his own to sort out his own feelings.Get together again for a coffee after an agreed period of time and talk things over again. If he has missed you, great! If he still feels the same way then it's best you both move on.~Eve~
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 May 2009):
Well you need to get your finals over with before you do anything else. So just bury all this at the back of your mind and agree to deal with it next week.
Then next week when it is all over you need to sit down and talk openly about your feelings.
He needs to figure out if he has fallen out of love with you and whether that is a permanent thing or whether he wants to give it one last go.
If he does then the both of you should put some extra effort in and spend time together and be romantic. If he can't change his feelings though then you may have to accept he was not the one for you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, unique-angel +, writes (18 May 2009):
be kinky in the bed roomsurprise him..send him loving message and naughty ones. i know sex isn't everythin but it livens things upromantic meals as soon as finals finsh get him out the house go clubbin etcimagine its the begining of your relationship..just go 4 itbut babe if it doesn't work then its not meant to be and well done for him thinking it now instead of when your married best of luck!xx
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