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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I know this must get asked a lot and considering i am mid twenties i should be over this sort of thing but i am and have always been concerned about my testicles. I read that each testicle should be about the size of a golf ball....! mine are that size put together if lucky! I know everyone will say it doesn't matter, everyone is different and that i am still normal but i really wanted to know if i am the same as other guys here or as the ladies' fellas? they are 4.5 cm by 2.5 cm. Whenever i feel them i just think there is practically nothing there. and when i see them i thinkthey look so pathetic and pointless. They are horrid - they hang ridiculously low and are nasty and saggy and when they hang really low (sometimes 6 inches down) they look thin and practically unnoticable. It has made me so anxious and unwilling to undress and be with women.I've been to the doc who said they were normal and my hormone levels were normal (but he is a rubbish doctor so i think he would say anything to get me out quickly)(i'm sure i rememeber them shrinking when i was about 15 but there is nothing i can do to prove this) I do have a gf (my first) but she is unable to have penetrative sex due to vaginismus and is unwilling to do anything else (not even passionately kiss)! so this keeps my confidence down as i have no reassurance and i don't think she'd reassure me even if we did. She often says how disgusting blokes bits are and how pathetic some men look naked (not helpful) but she also talks about all the blokes she sees naked due to her job. She does x-rays and always comments on how mens balls will fall out and how she can see how big some men are on x-ray. I hate being this insecure and really have developed a complex about things which irritates me as shallowness and judging others is the worst thing in my opinion and i hate to think i am being controlled by my feelings of inadequacy.please help! thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): I think you have become so fixated on this part of your body that you're I am a girl who has had a few boyfriends and I can honestly say that I have never particularly looked at the size of their balls of even cared about their size or appearance. If my boyfriend was in your posistion I would do everything I could to make you feel better about it and her comments are completely unhelpful, I mean would it help her condition if you started going on about how ugly her bits were, its just immature!
I agree that you can find someone much better than this who can help you overcome your anxiety, it would probably just take the reassurance of one person but i dont think youre going to find that in her x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 June 2009):
Your girlfriend is not your girlfriend if she does not even want to kiss you.
This relationship is not working. No sex due to a medical condition is one thing but she is unwilling to even try and be more than friends, and is not being a good friend by being so insensitive.
As for your balls..... sweetie, as a woman, please please please listen to me when we say that NO WOMAN IS INTERESTED IN WHAT YOUR BALLS LOOK LIKE!!!
All men's testicles are a bit strange looking. We are not as visual as you and we are far more interested in your face, and body than anything down there. Your penis is interesting to us because...well for obvious reasons, but the bits underneath are really just not on our radar.
Get rid of your girlfriend, stop worrying and find someone new who I guarantee will make you forget all about this.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 June 2009):
 If a doctor says you're normal then you're normal, you don't have to spend a lot of time looking at them! And your girlfriend needs to go, she's not doing anything for you, I'm sure you can find someone else! X
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