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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Boyfriend asks for a 6 week break and won't meet to talk about the definition of it or to talk about our feelings. Is it over? Should I date?He says he is much too emotionally sad and is feeling that our relationship doesn't work for him, especially during this time in his life.Should I start dating? He does this all over the phone as he's doing an errand at the local market. His teenaged kids are over at his place and he says he can't talk to me in front of them.The disagreement that triggers this incident is triggered by my being a bit upset about him meeting his ex for coffee to talk about finances, but he bumps into a woman he has had coffee with regularly to talk about having been involved with an alcoholic ex. He says she is the only one that understands him in this regard. Then while he's at coffee, I bump into a sexy business associate of his that I find out lives a few doors down in his building. He just moved here about 2 weeks ago. It was a bad day so I asked questions about the woman he has coffee with regularly as well as the woman who lives a few doors down. Yes...a bit of a jealousy flare. My bad.HEre is the background. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. His ex is alcoholic, and his teen daughter won't go attend school and is seeing a counselor.We are both having stressful times at home. We stopped being in tune with one another. He would be insensitive and i would react. This pattern kept cycling around, as we found ourselves preoccupied with other life challenges. This cycle of drama kept coming up. Are we just overstressed ? Is this relationship salvageable? Is it over? Should I date and just move on?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 June 2009):
It doesn't look good does it.
I personally don't believe in breaks. They are always just a wishy washy way to prolong a break up.
Tell him that you don't want to be on a break and you will take it that it it over.
Don't date straight away. You need to get your head straight and work on getting over him.
Plus, just because I don't believe in breaks, doesn't mean I don't think reconciliation are possible.
Break up but tell him you love him and once he gets his head straight you would love to give it another go with a fresh start.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, sashana  +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Iam sorry to hear this,guess you both are going through one of life's obstacles.by what you wrote i strongly think he really needs a little space and adding would just make it much more stressing,please dont get me wrong i'm not saying your the cause but you both need time to clear things.
Him asking you for space doesn't necessarily mean its over,even though its possible but dont judge his decision,its better to wait and see what happends.I wish you the best:)
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