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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have had ongoing issues for the full term of our relationship. We have been together for almost 8 years and have a beautiful daughter. The way he is behaving towards me is causing doubts in my heart as to whether he really loves me? When I tell him this, it doesn't even seem to concern him to greatly. I had left him in the past as he was being emotionally abusive towards me. After he attended anger management we were able to let go of the past and start again. Everything was great until recently. His level of respect for me is minimal and his lack of consideration is very apparent. When I say maybe he will never truly love me he says he will...but if he doesn't yet...I'm almost certain you can't force yourself to love someone. I believe he really wants to, but I think that maybe he just isn't capable of doing so...Any advice that can be offered would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
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reader, Cyg79  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 I sympathizes with his issues, however I'm more concerned with you. I think the real question is what do you want from a relationship and are you getting these things? If not what can be done to fix the situation? I understand that every relationship have there issues to work out but typically those are done in form of compromises. Are you ready to compromise your respect for his possible incapability? If you wish to pursue the relationship, I think you need to talk with him and get some sort of commitment to try and make things better. Then these words need to be followed by some action. But ultimately it comes down to you and what you want from life. Best of luck and I hope everything works out for the best.
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