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writes:hey i been thinkin alot recently and its about an old girlfriend of mine that i broke up with bout a year ago now n she has a new boyfriend now but i hav heard from my best mate.. hu is also her best mate that she still has strong feelings for me n i do really still like her... im jus lookin for an outsiders perspective really... if u dated a girl from the time u were 15-17 1/2 n realised a yr l8r tht u likedd her again would u go bk there or just leave it... i mean she was my first proper girlfriend n whether anything was to happen i kno there'd always be a spark there im just confused bout whether to act on my feeling or not?Little help please!!
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Ive been in the same state.
And its hard looking back on your first love.
You wont always have feelings for her.
But there will always be that something special.
It may seem the easy thing to do right now.
Since you still like each other.
But remeber you broke up for a reason. And she has a new guy.
The best thing to do is to move on.
Look forward to meeting new girls. Finding new love. And Having them special moments with a new person.
She will always be special. But things will never be the same. Even if you did get back together.
Best thing to do is turn to a new page, and get on with your life.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Your first love will always be special.
Just be careful you're not looking back with rose tinted spectacles, you broke up for a reason and more than likely that reaosn will still be there.
If you still have strong feelings, you probably didn't get closure on the relationsip. If you both want to, give it another go. Just be aware of the reasons you broke up over before, and learn from them.
If it's meant to be, it will be.
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reader, Cyg79  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 First of I would review why you broke up in the first place. Second i would say that if you really cared about her you would not put her in a situation where she needs to decided between you or her boyfriend. Honestly i feel like timing is a big part of relationships, and considering she has a boyfriend it does not sound like the right timing. If she where not involved with someone else then it would be more about how you feel and what you want in life or right now in life. But she is involved so i would say be the bigger person and let her go. If its not meant to be with her and her boyfriend then so be it, but don't be the reason for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): It's normal to always feel strongly in some way or another towards a person you loved romantically [or otherwise]. Whether or not these are valid, 'let's-base-a-relationship-on-this,' feelings, it's hard to tell...
If she has a boyfriend, leave it/don't act on these feelings, she's trying to move on. If she breaks up with him, (DON'T encourage her to), then talk to her about getting back together.
Your feelings towards her may be magnified at this point because you're single and have no one around...
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