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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Theres this boy in my class and he says i have to have sex withhim, but i dont feel ready. Its horrible though because he says stuff that makes me feel uncomfortable and he's started putting his hands down my shirt and once down my skirt i told him i'm not interested. but i'm now to scared to say no please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Cyg79  +, writes (11 October 2008):
 That is sexual assault and harassment.
You need to tell your parents, a teacher, or a councilor now. You have done nothing wrong, but you need to be responsible in doing the right thing and that is by getting authoritative help. If you keep silent he will continue, and there is a good chance he is doing the same things to others.
If he does it again, be loud and draw attention to his inappropriate behavior by telling him "Do not talk to me" or "get away from me" and most of all "No". If he touches you, you need to say "Get your hands off me." You need to get other peoples attention. You need to be loud, people will help you, the law will help you. But you must help yourself before things escalate any more.
I beg you, please tell someone in your life that can help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Please do.I've been through a similar situation like yours,
but I hardly knew him,which made it 1000 times more uncomfortable.Tell someone now.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (11 October 2008):
 I absolutely agree with Fade 878. You should take action immediately tell your parents, police and teachers this is not something you should accept. He is putting your well being at risk. IN NO circumstances let him bully you into having sex with you. I would advise you to be confident and tell him that you allready went to the police to make a statement, that should scare him off!.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): This guy is a bully, and if you don't stop him for good, he will continue to grope you, he might even go far enough to get you alone and force you to have sex with him.
He wants to have sex, you don't. You have told him no, so he should go away. If he keeps bothering you, that is harassment and I suggest you report him to a school teacher. If he touches you and grabs you then this is assault, again I suggest you tell a school teacher, He's doing this already, what will he do next. Babes I am frightened for you, you must tell somebody before he goes too far and hurts you.
This guy is a bully, he dose this to you because he knows you are scared. He keeps harassing you and touching you because he knows you are too scared to tell. He won't stop until you tell somebody, so you must tell. Be brave, he's nothing to you, he has no right to touch you. Tell an adult, tell your parents, tell the teachers, they will put a stop to this for good. SPEAK UP, BREAK THE SILENCE, YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG....
PS: Please come back and update your situation, I am worried that this guy will hurt you one day. Take care, and be brave. Blessings, my thoughts are with you, good luck.
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reader, kapowski  +, writes (11 October 2008):
Tell him to get lost. If he does it again, report him for sexual assault. Do NOT let him get near your self esteem. Bullies will try anything from flattery to emotional abuse to convince you. That's because destabilising peoples self esteem (flattery or cruelty) makes people more compliant to requests.You should be furious. If you're not, imagine you are. And then they could just be physically abusive. If you told him no, then it's non consensual. If this guy's one this to you, he could do it to other girls too. You have the power to tell him to fuck off, otherwise, report it and don't for a minute feel guilty about it. You shouldn't be treated like that. Your well being is worth much more than his sexual satisfaction
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reader, Deftones +, writes (11 October 2008):
He sounds like a real creep.Dont take this kind of pressure of anyone.Keep telling him your not interested and your sorry if he got the wrong impression, and if he doesnt stop you'll be forced to either tell your parents or tell someone in school.if he carries on Do tell someone about it a teacher your parents maybe a friend could help get it into his thick skull your not interested.and if this all fails and he carries on doin it go straight to your head teacher.this is a big deal, he needs to learn he cant manipulate or take advatage of people like this.hope that helped you.
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