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writes:I'm just 17 years old and had to do this for an English class i've read many other peoples articles on whether they think it is or not so I wanted to submit mine. You may not agree with anything in this article but it is just my opinion I am not trying to change your mind about anything and you may like what you read or think it's aload of rubbish but like I said it's just my opinion.Thank you for taking a look.Is love selfish?Is love selfish? I can't answer this question with a simple 'yes' or 'no' but lets just think for a minute...In many cases when two people fall for one another and are at the stage of just getting to know one another where everything is going really well they may get a sudden feeling which takes over their whole body where they just want to shout out to the world that they love this person.They can't get them out of their head, they want to spend every second, minute and hour of the day with this person, they want to fall asleep with them, wake up with them and if they were ever to be apart for more than a day then their whole world would just collapse.Come on we've all been there!But - all of sudden things start going wrong.You feel trapped, claustrophobic and just want to get away.Things start to bug you about one another and they end up driving you crazy then you realise that you don't love them afterall.Maybe you genuinely thought you did, maybe you really wanted to so you tried to convince yourself that you did or maybe you were just lonely so you lied to them aswell as yourself about how you felt.And you end up thinking you made a huge mistake getting together in the first place, you just can't wait to get this person out of your life.You end up wishing you'd seperated when things were good atleast that way you could walk past them in the street without wanting to kill them, right?But why would you leave when things are going good?You just wouldn't because obviously you think you love them.So you end up stringing the relationship along until you realise you really can't stand this person and all you want to do is ruin each other's life.You have nothing in common, you don't know what you ever saw in one another in the first place and you just want to hurt themIs that selfish?!What about unrequited love...You get with somebody and you don't want things to get too serious but you end up falling deeper and deeper for this person but it's all moving so fast you don't realise just how you feel the relationship may not even be that good but it's just something about this person thats got you hooked.Then one day they just don't want anything to do with you.They don't love you and they make it obvious.Now they've gone you realise not only that you love them but just how much and you know it's love you can't explain how you know you just do!But they don't want you...They have broken your heart and left you to pick up the pieces.No matter what you do or where you go they are constantly on your mind you just can't get them out of your head and it hurts. You know you will never get over them and there will always be an empty space in your heart where they once were.You can't eat, you can't sleep, you don't want to go out your whole life has just come crashing down. You move on and try to block them out but one day you see them again and once again your life comes crashing down.A life ruined.Is that selfish?!Death...Okay what about losing someone you love because they passed away.You know you will never see them again, you wont get to touch them again, hold them again or look into their eyes.You have so much to say and you will never get the chance to say it.You're left heartbroken.You feel guilty if you move on, lonely if you don't.You miss them more than anything and we all know what it feels like to miss someone so much it hurts.You feel empty and numb, like you no longer have a reason for living.You may end up drinking your life away, going into self destruction mode or you may be able to get on with your life but even if you were able to get on with things you will still feel that intense pain shoot right through your chest everytime you hear their favourite song, everytime someone mentions their name and right before you go to sleep when you remember how they used to hold you, kiss you and love you.Your life is empty.Is that selfish?!Personally, I do think love is selfish but only because of what I have seen or experience in relationships.I do understand that there are some people out there who find their soulmates and spend their whole lives together and every second spent with each other is treasured.I also understand that two people can fall in love and nothing can ever come in between it and that they have no doubts about one another and they truly are happy together.Maybe if I was to experience this in the future my view on love being selfish would change but too many people in this world suffer from a broken heart no one said love was easy but I think we all wish it was.
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reader, Cyg79  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I'm not sure if love is selfish. I think that within love there can be selfishness but i don't think love is selfish. Love is a feeling, and it can manifest itself in many ways; such as to a friend, family, pet, or a significant other. Focusing on the last of the few; I have seen the light and dark sides of such love and it truly makes me wonder. For the most part I think people can lose there perspective when there in love, which can lead to various emotional outcomes. In the end I believe that love is a term used to describe an emotional attachment we feel to someone and the degree of attachment can very and change with time.
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