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writes:Well.. It all started two and half years ago.. We got to know each other really well, her BF who met her after me who she really loves - they shared PW's on every account they have.. FaceBook, Xfire, MSN and so on, well to cut to the question..He the BF asked her for all of the logs, she has given him them before and well.. I can get carried away and talk about random stuff.. Rude stuff.. But nothing aimed at her and her BF I promised I will never take her from him.. And I actually doubt she 'loves' me like she loves him, he can be very Jealous about people and I am not sure why over me.. I already stated several times I wont to him, and that she feels more like a sister to me.I admit I do.. Or did.. I don't know to be honest.The BF saw all the logs and told her to either cut it off with me.. Like not being friends or make sure I do not say any rude 'perverted' things he said.. She relayed to me. And if I want to keep the friendship I would agree.. I do agree.. I understand but the thing I do not understand is why does he do it.. To her.. It makes her feel bad then I go mental when she says that stuff. I asked friends about it.. They don't know. And I don't know what to do now..I do not know if she checks this place.... So I will remain annoymous as I really due not want to cause more hassle for her or me.I just want our friendship to go back like it was.. Where I could share stuff without her BF looking over what the fuck I share and then disagree saying that is too much and so on..Her BF has already made me feel like shit before saying why did I cry when my dog died.. I mean what the fuck? Are boys not allowed to cry when a beloved animal dies who stuck by you for the main part of your life?...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know but.. I do tend to create drama out of nothing, I guess I just realised that what you're saying is true I do like the drama but hate the feelings after.
Thank you for your help BimBim.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Step back
You have admitted you are being annoying and frustrated and taking your bad moods out on other people.
I am starting to suspect you may actually like all the drama .... me, I wont be reading or responding to any more of your posts, maybe your family and former friend are also getting tired of your diatribes, or as we used to say in the old days, its time to change the record!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's the thing... I do not know if she cares or does not.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (20 October 2010):
If she clearly doesnt give a flying fig it's time to walk away, wishing for the past is not condusive to facing the future.
Time to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBimBim.. I see where you are coming from but.. I worry a lot about things its how I am.. Even she said that and I should not change.. Before all of this happened... Of course.
She is 20, I am 17 and her BF is 17.. The matter of the fact is, sure, me and him are the same age.. But hell with all of my problems and more problems coming ahead. I still cant see how he can think I am able to take her away.. She stuck by him TWO times now... Yes this has happened before.. But not as big as this, last time.. I asked one friend and I thought about it, this time I asked so far 4 people and thought and thought and thought about it before posting all of this.... I am young I understand that.. And I am not really good in these type of situations anyway seeing as I do tend to go overboard on my emotions she even knows this and the BF of her.. I think does a bit, I am not sure if he does this to spite me while getting her to bend over backwards and hurt her deep inside.
This reply is a bit long and I can get like that and to be honest I want to write more and more about it and how annoying and frustrating and pissed off I can be at times..... I am taking it out on my family I hate myself for it but I got no way to vent all of this, a good cry gets the sad emotions away..... But I got no way to vent my anger, frustration and annoyance about it all.
I hate myself for feeling like this when she clearly does not give a flying shit about my feelings or is hiding it so well that its hurting me more I don't know.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (19 October 2010):
it seems that for the time being at least, she has made a choice, and you weren't it!
Her relationship with her boyfriend does not sound healthy and if you are only 16 or 17 I assume you are the same age.
She certainly isnt helping matters by blythly handing over logs of chats she has with other people, it might be best if you just step back for a few weeks to give you both some breathing space ... if there are no chat logs she cant hand them over each night.
Just step back, you may be letting this issue overwhelm your thoughts and a little bit of distance for a few weeks will help you view the situation with a little more clarity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot just that.. I am really not sure if she hates me.. Scared to talk to me due to it all... Of what he would say, so far I think she is giving him logs every night of our Convo's.. And to be honest I find it sad he has to do that to trust her.... Really sad... They say the number 1 thing in a relationship is trust right?... He seems to not show it.. And he even said he does not trust her which is fucking stupid.. Sorry for my language.. I am really fed up and I want it to be normal again. I worry each day on what I will say even more, scared of I say hi she will ignore me, scared she will end contact for being myself.. Worrying that her BF will threaten to cut the relationship off between them two if we continue to talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey.. The writer here, she enjoys the rude stuff from what I have seen.. Only like saying rude things and discussing it.. Not doing anything or implying anything bad.. I see no reason for him to find it disrespectful as he does it all the time publicly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): He sounds like a very jealous and insecure person who may see you as a threat. He's probably scared she'll go with you instead of him once she realises his true colours. I would probably give them a wee bit of space but of course still keep in touch and do things with them etc. Maybe be careful about the comments etc but otherwise stand up to him if he's being a prat. Good luck!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (18 October 2010):
He may see the rude stuff as being disrespectful to her.
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