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writes:Is honesty really the best policy when it comes to one's life partner? I hear people say that it's better to live with one's guilt rather than tell one's partner if there has been a one time betrayal. But wont guilt over lying eventually take a toll on the relationship? Is it better to work through the issues in the relationship and make the relationship an honest one, or can a relationship survive long term when there are lies involved...even lies that are intended to avoid immediate problems and prevent causing pain to one's partner? Everytime my partner tells me they love me, I wonder if they will still love me "if they knew" a secret I've been keeping from them, but I don't want to cause any pain with my secret. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, whiteelephant +, writes (17 October 2010):
but if you can bury that skeleton and not let it affect you nor ever repeat those actions again, then don't.
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reader, whiteelephant +, writes (17 October 2010):
let me ask you something, do you really want the partial experience the rest of your relationship?
if its affecting your ability to love, its affecting your relationship. disclose to her and be prepared to accept the consequences.
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reader, cheannryl  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Love is kind,it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the thruth,it always protects,always trust.
Hmm..if she truly loves you then she'll understand,and for you,isn't it wonderful when you love without lies?
Don't be afraid to be honest,God will be glad if you tell the truth.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Quite simply relationships are built on trust .... all relationships .....
Business relationships, relationship between parent and school teacher, relationships between preacher and congregation etc etc etc
And romantic relationships. If you are not being truthful with your partner she is in love with the person she beleives you to be, not who you really are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): If you care for her, tell her.
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reader, LavanderGirl  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 sometimes it is ok to lie, eg. you'd lie to your partner saying that you had a grade of 100% on a test, but you actually had 10.3%. So lieing a bit doesn't matter much. It's best to be 100% honest in a love relationship thought. beacause that's how it work's! ^_^
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