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*breez5
writes:My boyfriend and I broke up a while ago and I found someone new who makes me happy and my ex is keep calling and texting me all the time I don't respond to any of it but when he first did this I told him to stop and leave me alone but obviously it didn't work he wants to be friends with me and then he wants to get back in a relationship with me after college I said absolutley not and I don't want to be with him and I don't want any contact with him. What should I do cuz he's ruining my new relationship I don't know what to do, any advice would be helpful
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): Simple. Stop telling him anything. Completely. Don't respond at all to his texts. No matter what he says. Or else this can go on forever. And you will have trouble finding a good guy
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Turkishsabre: Yes, being dumped is never easy to take for the one who is given the bad news......unless of course he also felt it really wasn't working and basically wanted it to end anyway......
It's always best to talk over any problems in a relationship to try to resolve them - hopefully in a calm, non-judgmental way, where both listen and get to say how they feel........sometimes it works, sometimes not.
Interesting example of East and West Turkey!
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reader, marymomnwife +, writes (21 October 2010):
maybe change ur phone number but make sure to let ur phone provider know about this guy and 4 them not to answer any questions bout ur new number and make them flag ur info to know if anyone calls wanting ur phone info even if they know ur social birthday or fav color/lol/ to deny access for them. and that anyone who u want 2 have ur number will get it from u.
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reader, jbear765 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Change your phone number. Block him off of everything. Don't even give him the chance to contact you, he will get it eventually.
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reader, soconfusedhelp +, writes (21 October 2010):
 i had the same problem. just delete him from your life. block him on facebook/myspace. change your number. and you can even get a restraining order against him. i know that sounds harsh, BUT THEY WORK. im pretty sure theyre free, but maybe theyre not. just tell your parents, and when you do, say it calmly. dont just go "MY EX IS CRAZY AND HES STALKING ME!" just calmly say something like "mom, dad, my ex boyfriend ____ keeps calling me and texting me and its getting really annoying. im afraid he could ruin my relationship with my current boyfriend. i know he wont stop, so can we talk about getting a retraining order?"
i hope this helped!
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reader, Kat_M_2011 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 So I am in this spot, well just getting out of it. I broke up with my ex 2 months ago, it was a brutal breakup, and I ended it for the reason he was too possessive and didn't treat me with respect. I got into another relationship 3 weeks later with my best friend J. he makes me happy. D. (my ex) found out I was dating someone and started calling me a whore and a bitch and all that negative stuff. I wouldn't reply. I ignored his texts, ignored him in person, and it got worse. It got to the point where I even had my mom call him and explain that he needs to leave me alone. Even my boyfriend is getting in on this like and told him to back off and leave me alone. So it came down to me blocking his number and blocking him online. However his friends then set in on me and all and it's been two months, I'm happy, I've moved on, and i don't care about what my ex does and I've said as much to him, the guy just doesnt get it.
Sometimes they dont. Guys want what they ultimately can't have, and it drives their male ego crazy to know they can't have you or you don't want to be with them. Ask your boyfriend of current if he minds saying a few words to the jealous ex, and asking him to back off. Or block him. cut off ALL access to him. Tell him you've moved on and he needs to also. That's how life goes and a clean break is the easiest.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Talk to your Dad, or an older brother, or a male cousin, or a trusted older male friend.
Let them just have a quiet word with him, please note, I am not advocating violence, a quiet word is often enough, let the quiet word include words like "stalking, harrassment, legal action" and if that doesnt work take out a restraining order.
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reader, turkishsabre  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 i think you broke up suddenly..and he couldnt overcome this situation..i recommend you; when you want to finish a relationship..dont do it suddenly..this is a shock for the one you left behind..and this is very sad, that relations start by two but finished by one..this is the main point..the best way to break up with someone is to decide together..but if this chance has passed you have to face him and tell the situation with no lies..if you left him for another guy, you mustnt tell him stupid lies..be brave and tell all the truth by this way.. his heart may be broken and your reputation becomes bad in his eyes but at least he will not try anything about you i think..
in our country..there is a story..
for the east parts of Turkey and for the west parts of Turkey..
they say east and west..two brothers.. one is blind the other one is deaf..when deaf do something blind dont see him..when blind tell something deaf do not hear anything...
and you will ask how they will communicate?
there is only one answer..they must touch..to tell what they want to..
so in your situation..ignoring is not a solution..you must tell exactly to his face what you want to tell..
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reader, KaileyLove  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Say, "Leave me alone. You had your chance, you blew it. I'm moving on to better things, accept that, because if you can't then you're not the man I thought you were. I'm deleting your number, delete mine and forget about "us". We're over for good and I, honestly, don't want to be in a relationship with you. Ever."
Just make sure you're absolutely positive of that.
Good luck! =]
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