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writes:i know this is a strange one for most of you out there but hear it goes. im scared to meet my daughter. we have been estranged for 2 1/2 yrs not through any fault of ours. her dad came up one saturday afternoon had her for the weekend and neva brought her home.i neva knew where he took her, we (me and my mom and friends) tracked her to a place in london but when we got there they had gone. we tried all the avenues open to us social services police etc but because i didnt have her as a residential order in my home as i never thought he would do such a thing, there was nothing i could do as he had full rights to have her with him. i tried everythin i could to find her but it all failed. then 3 months ago she got in touch. she had ran away from her dad 8 times and put herself in voluntery care. i had to move home and so she couldnt find me but a call out of the blue to my mom from her did it all. we speak on the phone everyday at least 3 times a day and its her b-day on the 18th im goin down on sat the 16th as a suprise (she thinks im going down on the sunday 17th) but i dont no wot to say to her. im scared that she will think i didnt care although weve talked about it, im sure she will blame me for not doing more but i dont no wot i could have done more. please help with any advise cause it a big thing Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just want to say to aunty bimbim ur response made me cry and i will show tash (my daughter) just how much ive missed her and what she means to us all, im not scared now thank you with lots of love and light xxxx
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Your question made me cry. She obviously has no thoughts of blaming you in her head, you are speaking each day, she found YOU, she cared enough to track you down, she ran away from her father multiple times .....
Sure, it is going to be a difficult and a little awkward for both of you, you might not even get to talk much, you could be too busy crying, just stay positive, if the conversation does veer off just come back to the fact you love her very, very much.
Because you can show her how often and how hard you searched for her, she has no reason to beleive you didn't care.
I send the very best of wishes and hopes to you both for her birthday and for ever more from then on!
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?]  +, writes (15 October 2010):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) Tbh, I do not think she will hold a grudge on you.. you did cry, you do care, and you do love her. She will be appreciative of that, and I know she will be so excited to see you. Make her feel like the angel she is, and that you missed her so much, and you TRIED to find her, and couldn't stop thinking about her through 2 1/2 years. I'm sure you'll share tears but as long as you're both re united and together, you'll be so happy, and relieved.
Take care sweetie, xoxo.
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