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female
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41-50,
*llieb19
writes:I have been with my fiance for almost 7 years. He cheated a few yrs ago when we were on again/off again and we both moved on together...or so I thought. In the meantime I started my own business, my mother became terminally ill and my fiance and I have a business and many properties together. He had matured, was more attentive, wanted to get married and everything seemed perfect until this week. I found out that he has been cheating on me again with the same girl! He says he loves me but is not 'in love.' He seems confused! He wants to live with me, put a front on that we're together in front of family, friends ets, still do business together but be 'separated.' I love him to death, want it to work and am so financially entangled with him. Help! What do I do?? I am a nervous wreck adn am in so much shock and pain!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 He says he says....As if you can trust a repeated cheater. Who is prepared to "put a front " 24/7 for family and friends. Very sincere indeed...
It would be funny it if it weren't so sad.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 We always have choices, you don't need to make big choices if you find them too confronting, you can make a series of little choices .... first little choice would be, do I pick up the phone and make an appointment to see a lawyer or don't I.
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reader, allieb19 +, writes (13 October 2010):
allieb19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe also says he doesn't want to hurt me anymore and wants to better himself and doesn't want to see other people. Am I stupid for staying? It's just so hard to give up on him after all this time!
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reader, allieb19 +, writes (13 October 2010):
allieb19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right. It is all about him, but I feel like I have no choice..and if I left it would be even more stressful and emotionally and financially draining and lonely.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 October 2010):
What in the hell is the point in being some guy's toy!? What you do is dump his ass. There is no way this can work. He's offering you nothing at all. No children, no future of happiness, no commitment. Nothing. You're just going to end up a very lonely women dancing to his tune while he has a great time with other women and mocks you.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (13 October 2010):
You would be taking on a 24/7 acting job. Stressing,nerve wrecking and ,ultimately, humiliating. Why would you want to do that ???
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (13 October 2010):
Seems to me this arrangement is all about him. Ask him what's in it for you.
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