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*06rider
writes:My girlfriend and I have very different libido's and come from opposite sides of the fence. I feel like neither of us are getting what we want out of our sex life. Is this something that will get better or is sexual incompatibility enough to end a relationship?
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (21 October 2008):
 I guess I'm more concerned with the fact that you can't talk about it either. You deserve to have sexual contact more than 1x/month. If you can't reach a compromise you will both be very unhappy, and that doesn't bode well for the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Dear Poster
Vow, that is very sad and must be very frustrating. You have only two options that I can suggest. You need to both try counseling or you will have to move on. You cannot consider getting married or building a future with this incompatibility.
I am sorry, I wish there was an easy solution. Try counseling it might be beneficial.
Best wishes and keep me posted.
Try to keep SMILING.
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reader, 406rider +, writes (21 October 2008):
406rider is verified as being by the original poster of the question I guess what it breaks down to is that she would be perfectly happy only fooling around maybe once a month. I don't just mean sex either, sexual activity in any form. My parents raised me to be a very sexual person, while hers raised her to believe that sex is something to be afraid of. Whenever the topic is brought up it ends up in a fight with one or both of us upset. It is a very serious relationship and I fear that this is a foreshadowing of our relationship in the future. I've been patient for over a year and a half and its beginning to run thin. What do I do?
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 hi their,
talk to your partner how you feel about sex and try to come to an arrangment that suits both of you.. but i would agree with smiles their isnt enough info to give a good piece of advice. but i think the most problems with relationships are we dont talk enough with our partners of what bothers us or what we want but dont think they want.. hope this helps aphexy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Dear Poster
Unfortunately you are not really giving enough information to be able to give you more informed advice; however, if you have tried all the possibilities to enhance your sexual compatibility and are not successful; well then I suggest you should consider moving on.
BUT, I would suggest you also consider all the other aspects that are important in a relationship and if it is only the sexual compatibility that is worrying you, well,don't give up if you have not tried to work on the sexual compatibility.
Good luck.
Always keep SMILING.
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