A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've got this really good friend, she's 14 going on 15, and I'm 16, 17 next year. We are both virgins. I've done kissing, and dry sex and she's done pretty much nothing, she's never had a boyfriend either. We tell each other everything because we understand each other so well. Recently she's taken a great interest in sex and so have I. Would it be a good idea to mention friendly sex? No relationship behind it, just friendly sex. Would it create any strange feelings or put our friendship in jeopardy?
View related questions:
both virgins, dry sex, kissing, never had a boyfriend Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, it's made me look at things from a different perspective now :)
And another reason I thought sex would be appropriate is because I'm quite protective of her and I don't want her getting hurt and i'm the the kind of person to hurt friends.
Thanks a lot.
A
female
reader, A Cappella  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Yeah, it would. Girls and boys are different in more than just physical ways. Girls tend to fall for the guys they're having sex with, even if they don't mean to. She may think that if she gives it up you'll fall for her later. If that's the case, when you don't, she could be hurt.
Unless you want to start a relationship with her, don't have sex with her. You might consider not touching, too, because she's not working on falling for someone else while she's being with you.
It's a rare 14-year-old who knows exactly what she wants, and is able to say it and mean it. Most are very insecure about their image. Chances are your friend falls into this category (as a normal, teen girl, I mean). Stay her friend and don't be her first.
Good luck.
...............................
|
