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writes:hello this is a single mother to my 3 months old son ... the father is a bad person he uses the drugs n goes out a lot with his wrong friends n comes home to cause a lot of problems for us (me and my son) i plan to leave him he is always asking me to stay how sorry he is of what he did .. but he does it over and over he has never changed and he s telling me how much he loves me and needs to give him some times to think but he has not changed at all! its all the same! i think he wants to stay with me cuz he s getting used to be with me?? or being afraid to be alone again?? i dont have a feeling that he loves me he loves drugs n drinks more than us what should i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): okey dokey.
ive been through a simlar thing.
the best thing to do is detach you and your kid from him,because its oviosley having a very bad affect on you both.
leave as soon as possible,leave when he's not there.
leave him a letter explainning everything.
and let him now your doing this because you love him and not out of spite tell him right now your baby is your main priority and untill he proves to be clean and healthy he will no longer be part of your family.
good luck x
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reader, Beery  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 My advice: leave him now, leave him a letter explaining why. Go far away, don't leave a forwarding address. Make sure he won't find you.
These kinds of relationships can be dangerous and his drug abuse can only get worse. You need to get out.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (23 October 2008):
 I'm sorry hon. You know what to do. You need to protect your son. You need to leave him.
Check out this site: http://nar-anon.org/index.html It's a support group for friends and family of people who use drugs and alcohol. I found it really helpful.
His using is not your fault and it's not your responsibility. Walk away with no guilt. The only person who can save him is HIM, and if he chooses not to do this he needs to be the only one who has to live with the consequences.
Maybe leaving will give him the kick-in-the-pants he needs to stop, but don't count on it. Until he decides to do something you and your son are hostages to his drug use.
Good luck.
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