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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 3months now, but she keeps thinking that im going to cheat on her, she says she trusts me, but i cant go out without her getting worried, and she hates how she is and wants to change because she doesnt like it, and niether do i. but i cant think of the write words to make her feel better, or to reassure her, can you help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danathal  +, writes (17 March 2009):
 I feel your pain, because I'm in the same boat you are. The best thing I've been able to find out is to reassure her. Tell her constantly that she is amazing. But don't be broad and general about it. Be specific in what you think is amazing. Tell her about different parts of her that you really like (her character as well as her body). I've found that girls like it more when you tell them EXACTLY what it is you like about them, rather than just saying "Oh your amazing babe!".
Be patient though, self-confidence doesn't grow over night. Just keep at it and she will feel better about things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): I know how your girlfriend feels, because I'm exactly the same with my boyfriend, only we've been together about 3 years now
the reason i'm insecure, is because i feel like hes going to think other girls are prettier, or have nicer bodies than mine.
it's all due to my self confidence.
so you could try telling her how much u love her, and how shes the prettiest/ hottest girl, and you could never see anyone like u see her
or something
:)
it probably won't work straight away
but if you keep telling her
it should eventually help
it helps me.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (2 June 2008):
 She clearly has no self confidence. Just keep telling her how great she is and she will probably soon cool off worrying.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (2 June 2008):
 She probably doesn't feel like she deserves you or that she's as good as you are, and so she doesn't trust the relationship. Until she gets some self-confidence she's not going to believe that she's good enough for you, which means she'll always feel that you will leave as soon as you find someone better. There's not a lot that YOU can do to change that -- she has to be the one to change.
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