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writes:Hi, I'm 18 and I'm not very experienced and I'm hopefully entering my first real kind of permanent relationship with this really nice lad.For some reason I am actually really afraid of giving a handjob! Not so much a blowjob because I've done that once before.. bad experience though!:LI really do like this lad and I've liked him for absolutely ages. I'm quite insecure and lack confidence. Maybe that's the reason I'm afraid to pleasure this guy!! If there is anyone that understands.. please help! thanks xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): i'm in the same situation as u basicly, im 18 to and just started seeing a guy that i like alot, im just going 2 go for it, if it turnes out not 2 b the way 2 please him then jus move on 2 doing other things.. not the end of the world if u cant get him off like that is it. guys like when u touch it, duznt matta how u do it.. any touch is a gd touch :)
all the advise there is good stuff. if all els fails just ask ..' am i doing this rong? ' what do u want me 2 do? .. if a guy asked me what to do then id b happy jus to tel him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): okay well, i prefer to give handjobs over blowjobs.
its easier, and and can tell my boyfriend like them better.
so, i use my spit, since i dont carry lube on me.
it works just the same and its easier.
so, just keep everything really wet, and if it makes noises thats okay.
its pretty simple. up and down. and i twist a little not, alot though. and i just twist my wrist and nothing else.
emphasize on the bottom of his dick with pressure from your thumb if your sitting or on your knees. or your fingers if your standing.
switch between really fast to more pressure and a little slower.
it makes it better.
i hope that helps good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Dear Poster
Herewith some info that might be useful, as you mentioned that you have tried it once and it was a "bad experience", maybe this can be of assistance to you.
Performing Fellatio (Oral sex on a man)
Find a comfortable position.
He should be immaculately clean.
You can begin by kissing and licking the penis; then, holding the shaft in one hand, swirl your tongue gently around the tip.
Next, explore the shaft, running your tongue around the ridge where it meets the head and vibrate it gently against the frenulum.
When you feel ready, take his penis into your mouth; do cover your teeth with your lips; take the whole head into your mouth; with your teeth well apart, move your mouth up and down, allow your partner to guide the rhythm with his hands on your head.
Maintain a steady rhythm and firm pressure.
Don’t bend the penis to far down; this can be painful
The penis should always point upwards.
Gradually increase the speed until he is ready to climax.
Then, if you do not want him to ejaculate in your mouth, withdraw and bring him to orgasm with your hand or switch to intercourse.
There are various other alternatives that you can practice when you are getting comfortable
Remember, the scrotum is also very sensitive so you can use your tongue and mouth there as well.
Hope this is of assistance to you.
Enjoy, it is much nicer then licking an ice-cream!
Deep-throating, if desired or preferred, is usually easier if the woman gets on her hands and knees, perhaps on a bed, and facing the man while he stands in front of her. This places her mouth and neck in a position that usually makes deeper penetration into her throat more comfortable for both.
Remember that he may be extremely sensitive after ejaculation. Very gently, clean his tip with your tongue if you wish, and cuddle up with him for a good night's sleep.
Best wishes, enjoy and keep SMILING.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Start out gentle. Just a soft warm caress is enough to turn a man on. Keep up the soft gentle touch until he shows signs of wanting something more substantial. At that point you'll need to make your grip firmer.
Towards the end you need to be quite firm and fast. You should be able to tell when he's getting close.
At the very end, when he's shooting his load, stop the movement and just grip it and feel the pulsations as it shoots out.
That's my experience, anyway.
Above all, be sensitive and gentle. Don't do it mechanically, don't go like a bat out of hell, and don't regard it as "rubbing" his penis. It's not "rubbing"; it's supposed to be more sensual than that.
Good luck!
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 As long as you don't do something that makes him go "ow" he'll like that you're touching him, so don't worry. Ask him how it feels; he should be able to tell you fast or slow. Watch to see what he likes.
You can use spit as lubrication or anything around the house -- lotion, soap, whip cream, lol. Spit is handy, though, and watching you lick your hand may turn him on.
Don't forget to touch his balls, too.
Good luck.
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