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Archived questions from: January, 2020 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Was he confused about his intentions or did I misread the situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1792 days ago

31 January 2020 (F) - Very long convoluted story here and in all honesty I think it is over and put to bed. It was a complete non event in reality, but it did affect me quite a lot at the time. I am in a happy relationship now so it’s not something I am going to actively ...

Did I say something I shouldn't have? Boyfriend got offended by a remark I made

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1791 days ago

31 January 2020 (F) - MOD NOTE: DID YOUR BOYFRIEND GET OFFENDED, WHY ARE YOU ASKING HOW THE VOLUNTEER AGONY AUNTS WOULD RESPOND? I was looking for honest feedback without me possibly swaying what they felt with the outcome. Yes, he was offended. His response was, a ...

My boyfriend doesn't know what's expected in a relationship.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1790 days ago

31 January 2020 (F) - Hi, What do I do if my boyfriend (Who is an adult.) was never been taught anything about woman/Being in a romantic relationship/ Has never had any experience in a relationship? Details: (Dating for 5 months, I'm his first relationship) My boyfrie...

I'm not sure if the new team member is trying to make connection or being inappropriate.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1793 days ago

30 January 2020 (F) - A new guy joined my company three weeks ago. he transferred over from another company in our group after I heard his work was really great (I run the company). He’s middle aged, been working a long time but in a different line of work to what we ...

Ghosted after 2 years

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1794 days ago

30 January 2020 (F) - My 2 year relationship just ended by the guy ghosting me. We went bowling for our 2 year anniversary had a good time and we got into a fight that night when we got back home over the status of our relationship. We have been on and off for 2 years ...

The woman I'm dating says I'm too much for her

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1795 days ago

29 January 2020 (M) - I've been in a relationship with someone for 3 months, I must stress, it's not sexual yet, but we both flirt and it feels like something we both like. Recently she told me I was too full on, too involved in her social media and that it was too ...

I'm uncomfortable with boyfriend's friendship with this other girl

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1795 days ago

29 January 2020 (F) - I would appreciate some advice on this situation. My bf and I have been dating for several months, we started long distance bc of college a few months ago, but we aren't out of hs we met at cc. So we started out as friends and we are each other's ...

I want to meet with him but don't know what to say and I'm scared out of my wit's after being antisocial for so long. What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1792 days ago

28 January 2020 (F) - I was badly bullied by this guy Dominic in school. He was part of the reason I didn't go to the 10-year HS reunion. (He wasn't the only one but he was the worst). We graduated in 97 and in 07 half my senior class friended me and I friended them back ...

I just need another person's perspective on boyfriend's attitude when we are gaming.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1796 days ago

27 January 2020 (F) - Hello everybody. I would like peoples honest opinions on the way my partner sometimes speaks to me, as I feel he could be more tactful with his words sometimes. I will give one recent example from the other night. We were playing a two player g...

He cried more over his old dog dying than he did over us splitting up.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1796 days ago

27 January 2020 (F) - Hi I’ve just ended a 6 year relationship he preferred being at work and spending time with his dog than with me and his twin daughters who are 3 years old the problem is he is still living with me until he finds somewhere we split up 6 weeks ago I ...

My step father is abusive but wants my mother to take him back.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1797 days ago

22 January 2020 (F) - My dad passed away in 2009 by suicide. I was 13 at the time my sister was 2.. In 2010 my mum met this guy -let's call him Jay. They dated for awhile until my mum fell pregnant and the family forced them to get married -she had a miscarriage. D...

I had an affair and my parents want me to return to my husband.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1800 days ago

22 January 2020 (F) - Im guilty of having affair with another man while im still married. My marriage was a wrong choice from the beginning. There is so much red flags that i ignored because of my low self esteem. Im told i cant have better relationship with other man ...

I don't know how to be alone.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1803 days ago

20 January 2020 (F) - I split up with my ex of 8years 7months ago but only stopped living with him 3months ago. Since splitting up I had a few casual dates that meant nothing and then met this guy I really liked him and I thought everything was going great but he just ...

Is there a cruel free way to break up?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1801 days ago

20 January 2020 (F) - Hello agony aunts, I've been with my bf for 1 year now, it's been a year full of ups and downs. The first few months of the relationship were great, well he's my first boyfriend, and I felt on cloud 9 with all those emotions and the love I felt, but ...

My boyfriend wont even text me while another boy will talk for hours on the phone.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1801 days ago

19 January 2020 (F) - my boyfriend don't give me the attention that I need in he always making excuses about why he did not talk to me. But it is another boy that like me in he been there for me more than him in. me in the other boy be on the phone for 10 hours or 8 ...

My girlfriend appears to be stalking people I know.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1804 days ago

19 January 2020 (M) - I was using my girl’s laptop to finish off some work when I ended up closing my windows and having to open them up through my history upon clicking I realized that she had been pulling up instagrams for people on my Instagram. Upon clicking the ...

I'm battling to trust my boyfriend's word about strippers and lap dances.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1804 days ago

18 January 2020 (F) - My bf and I of 5 years recently had an argument about him being at strippers and getting a dance. It was brought up again last night and his reaction took me by surprise. He had asked what was wrong I said upset still and he said after a week he ...

My boyfriend has a child already, but I'd like to have one of my own.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1804 days ago

18 January 2020 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together about a year now. He's almost 25 I'm 23. Hes already got one child a beautiful little girl whos 1 and a half. But lately I find myself wanting one of my own more and more. One who can call me momma. Her mother ...

I'm trying to put myself in my boyfriend's ex's shoes and wonder why she's behaving the way that she is, but I can't imagine why

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1805 days ago

17 January 2020 (F) - My boyfriend's ex is still in the picture but on the peripherals, and I'm finding it hard to understand why. I have tried, so I'm just going to put the facts, coupled with my thoughts, and would like anyone to give me their feedback on what they ...

Room mate blackmailing me and threatening to tell parents about my life if I don't go to church with her

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1792 days ago

17 January 2020 (F) - I live in the dorms and at first I had two roommates, "Sarah" and "Patricia". Sarah was/is wonderful: she is messy/clutter but she keeps it to her area and she's gone much of the time. She's a fine arts major with an emphasis in sculpting. She basiy ...

Is he trying to or currently cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1803 days ago

17 January 2020 (F) - I am a little concerned as to whether my OH is in fact trying to or is currently cheating. Let me give you a bit of background. 6 years together. Engaged. Living together 2 and a half years, dog, cat, saving for house etc. He has cheated in the p...

I've not met this girl, but we talk and I'm smitten!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1807 days ago

16 January 2020 (M) - I want a lot of advice so I'm not sure this question will fall into a single category. I'm a 34 year old virgin - something that I'm not proud of but I guess that's life. I've been with girls and done stuff before and even without the sex I think ...

My boyfriend treats me terribly, maybe I deserve it.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1807 days ago

16 January 2020 (F) - Hi everyone, hoping someone can offer some advice.. I'm a 31 year old woman and I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He's the same age. He's been living with me for six months, around the same time he lost his job. It wasn't something we ...

A man I had sex with keeps ghosting me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1806 days ago

16 January 2020 (F) - Hi all So I really like this man who split from wife last year and now lives on own - we have had one night which was amazing about a month ago but nothing since . I’ve decided if he isn’t contacting me then he isn’t interested so have left it...

Is it possible to have healthy relationships with family with mental issues?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1805 days ago

16 January 2020 (F) - It has only been recently I’ve realized just how toxic my relationships are with my immediate family members. I’m having trouble knowing how to proceed with them now that I’ve had this realization. I’ve always been aware that our family is ...

My FWB partner now wants to get serious with me but I turned them down

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1795 days ago

15 January 2020 (F) - Hi So I met a friend with benefits last summer, we both agreed we wanted nothing serious and were free to meet other people if we wanted to. We both really didn't want anything serious so this worked fine for us. As some time passed, i felt ...

Did my boyfriend cross a line or did I overreact?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1806 days ago

15 January 2020 (F) - Hello agony aunts, I broke up with my boyfriend about 1 month ago we didn't talk for 2 weeks and he was already dating and talking to other girls (I saw him in the university with them), he came back to me again and told me that he wants me back. I ...

Should my parents respect that I buy my own food and leave it alone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1806 days ago

14 January 2020 (F) - I don't know if I'm being selfish or not or if my parents are being assholes but I am 22 years old and I buy my own food because I am a diabetic, and can't have any of the food they provide so I buy my own. My wage isn't that great, I just have ...

I am uncomfortable with my partner going to strip clubs. Should I go myself to see what goes on?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1807 days ago

14 January 2020 (F) - I've recently had a conversation with my partner about strippers and lapdances. I told him it made me feel uncomfortable at the thought of it and it's inappropriate if in a relationship. I'm now wondering if maybe I've exaggerated it in my head and ...

Hes retired but I'm not

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1809 days ago

14 January 2020 (F) - Hello, not sure anyone can help. I have been dating a man for 1 1/2 years who is retired and I still work full time. How can I stop feeling jealous and wondering what he's doing all day when im at work. I am insecure due to the fact at the ...

My boyfriend didn’t get me a Christmas gift, not even a card!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1805 days ago

14 January 2020 (F) - Hello I have been dating a man for 1 1/2 years. We are both in our fifties. We have had our ups and down like most couples. And I have been very understanding with him and his issues, ex wife and ex girlfriend cheated on him and the passing of a ...

I think my boyfriend lies about what he does when out with his friends.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1809 days ago

13 January 2020 (F) - I suspect my bf is lying to me about his activities when out with his friends. We had a discussion before where he mentioned the sort of antics they get up to but he doesn't take part. I'm mostly concerned about his activities when they are going to ...

Was breaking up with him the right thing to do? How can I bite the bullet and just move on?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1709 days ago

12 January 2020 (F) - Dear Cupids, My long distance bf and I are breaking up and it sucks. We met in the summer and fell head over heels for each other. I returned home after the summer and we kept in touch, however at one point we had a fall out,and we stopped ta...

I hired a PI who tells me my wife has been cheating on me.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1490 days ago

12 January 2020 (M) - I recently found out that my wife has been having an affair for the past two years with a single male friend of ours who we had a drunken threesome with two years ago..that threesome which i initiated wasnt so fullfilling for me, since i had ...

I'm often left out because I wont put up with bad behaviour

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1811 days ago

11 January 2020 (M) - How do you balance between nice and reasonable. I feel like I’m kind and considerate of others but don’t feel the same about how others act. For example I have noticed that a friend of mine is very rude and everything is on his terms. He does n...

I feel lost and miserable around my long term partner

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1811 days ago

11 January 2020 (M) - Ive been trying to make my relationship work for many years and Im tired. I lack the motivation and positive outlook for our future anymore. I am not depressed but my partner has been for many years, up and down, but the last 3-4 years half been ...

I can't seem to get over that my partner cheated on me last year. How can l reconcile this and move forward with life?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1796 days ago

10 January 2020 (F) - I found out my partner cheated when he was out of the country last year. But he continued to call me every evening, said the I love you's, and the I miss you's. He was still plugged into the relationship. I've struggled since to get over it. He has ...

Work team of three, yet I am feeling excluded.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

10 January 2020 (F) - I entered this new workplace about two months ago assured that the new girl and I would be trained equally since she was only there two months prior to me starting. What was withheld until my first week on the job was that she was another managers ...

My boyfriend gives me the bare minimum of time.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

9 January 2020 (F) - I'm struggling with knowing if I should stay in a relationship and be patient or if I need to end things. I am 28 years old who has been in 3 serious relationships over the last 10 years. I've dated several people in addition to this. The man I'...

I'm uncomfortable with the thought of my boyfriend having lap dances with naked girls.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 1811 days ago

8 January 2020 (F) - My bf of 5 years recently went on a stag do and went to a strip club. I didn't have a problem with this as he was open about it and stayed in touch whilst away. We have a strong relationship and I trust him due to the honesty. However on a recent ...

I feel like quitting on my famiily.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

7 January 2020 (F) - Dear Cupid, I grew in a large family with 5 siblings. My mum had a career as a nurse and dad demanded she quit her work to look after is which she resented him for. Dad insisted he would provide for us but struggled to do so. But this was not the...

My family knows of my affair and my lover has distanced herself but I don't think I can return to my sexless marriage

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

5 January 2020 (M) - I'm in my 40s. Been with my partner for 20 years and married for 17. We have a 15 year old daughter. My wife hasn't wanted a physical relationship with me for a long time. It's been around 10 years since we had sex. She has made comments in the ...

He's all that I've known but I feel I'm stuck in a rut and that the relationship of 12 years has run its course

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

5 January 2020 (F) - I'm 34 and have been with my bf 12 years. I am pretty sure the relationship has run its course. I really don't want to waste the 12 years we have spent together but I feel like I'm missing out on something more real and passionate. We hardly ever ...

My husband acted like he didn't care, so I left him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

4 January 2020 (F) - I am hurting deeply. My husband of 6 years has a barber and beauty salon on the same compound of his mother's home. I work 12pm-9pm and my parents helps with our three children. My husband usually leaves his place of work at a reasonable time to go ...

I like my co-worker but am unsure how to proceed or whether to even try

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

4 January 2020 (F) - I really like my co-worker. Him and I we’ve worked together for a few months. I’m his boss but he’s older than me by 10 years. Usually he’s not the type I go for but he’s a gentleman. I thinks what’s one of the reasons why I’m attracted to him. ...

How do I stop feeling like I'm not good enough?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

4 January 2020 (F) - I need advice on how to stop or control the feeling of not feeling good enough. I’ve been with my partner for 5 years and I’ve always felt this way, I feel like it’s a bad trait to have but I can’t help but feel this way. My partners friend ...

How do I approach my partner's blatant lies when she gets home?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

4 January 2020 (M) - My partner and I have been in a relationship for a couple of years. Two weeks ago I had to have spinal surgery and I can’t get around at all (only can walk around house, not even allowed to lift washing or stand to make dinner) she has been great ...

My partner doesn't know how to be a family man. Should I end things?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

2 January 2020 (F) - Hi I’m just looking for some advice about my partner who doesn’t know how to be part of a family we have a 4 year old daughter and I am seriously thinking about ending the relationship soon he’s always been the same but I thought in time it would ...

My friend runs her mouth off and ruins everything.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

1 January 2020 (F) - Hello Aunt's and Uncle's this is about a friend and I'm going to use my real Aunt's and Uncle's names instead of the real names. Hopefully Amy or my parents won't get nosy and look at my phone! My (only) friends at school are: Amy, Laura, Matt, and ...

Have I blown it by asking for more?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

1 January 2020 (F) - Hi all Have been friends with gut from work for years , he split from wife last year and flirted with me - I told him it was too soon for him but that I liked him . He then started talking again months later but then went quiet again - I left h...