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writes:I entered this new workplace about two months ago assured that the new girl and I would be trained equally since she was only there two months prior to me starting. What was withheld until my first week on the job was that she was another managers daughter at another location. Ok, worked through that since she’s not working under her but now that I’ve been there awhile I’ve noticed that he never directly speaks to me only to her when he comes up to us. He also has decided to train her first then me. He continually lets her in on the workflow and I am continuously lost about what’s going at the location I work at. When anyone asks me a question be it a client or a co worker, she yells over me to answer even if she’s on the phone. I’ve spoken to my manager who assured me he wants her to train first because she’s been there longer and then she’ll train me. It’s really putting me in a hard spot because I signed a year long contract and can’t leave but I can’t be a part of a team that doesn’t want me or include me. Not sure what to do from here? Any suggestions? We do not have any hire ups and my manager is useless. I’ve thought about just going into the office when they’re having their “meetings” and just sitting down and requesting a team meeting since were supposed to be a 3 person team.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 January 2020):
 I have to agree here, SHE was there before you so her training might have been underway longer which means she is further etc.
It doesn't mean there isn't nepotism at play too, but it IS besides the point.
My advice? Do like WiseOwlE suggested, ASK for training manuals, if they have any. If they don't... MAKE one over time for the NEXT person, and for you while you learn.
When ever you do something new, ASK if you have question and WRITE it down. That way you can add to "your manual". It will be your go to resource.
I get that it sucks that she was there before you and thus is ahead of you in line to learn, but that doesn't mean you should sit on your ass and wait for training. Look around the place, after 2 months you MUST have an idea of what you are expected to work on, maybe not ALL of the ins and outs but a general idea. TAKE initiative.
If you have questions GO over to the person you are asking, no yelling should be needed then. And again, make notes so you after a time can LOOK up and see the answers and work independently.
Being pissed at her or not liking her is (for now) utterly irrelevant. This will NOT be the first time that you will work with someone who has either connection or other kind of favoritism. That is life. What you CAN do... is BE better. Be more professional than them, more organized, etc. Show than YOUR qualities not your pouts that SHE gets preferential treatment. Because OP, that is a fact of life. If you whine over that, you will not be seen as a team player.
It is what it is.
Learn your job and be good at it. THAT is how you get ahead of people with connections. Because Daddy's (or Mommy's ) connections will only get you so far if you can't do the job.
Teams work differently from place to place. Some work WELL together, others don't. If your team is working well, AT LEAST be the one noticed for working hard, not for complaining.
Hopefully it will get better. If not... only 10 more months on your contract.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2020): Take a really deep breath, then exhale! This is where we learn to deal with personalities, nepotism, and workplace-politics.
She was there first. She has company-roots through a parent in management. Therefore, she gets a certain amount of favoritism and prestige. You don't concern yourself with that. Envy of others becomes unnecessary baggage that will make you emotional and unprofessional. It will hinder your progress! It is likely she is at a more advanced-stage in training, and they have to get her trained and functioning as soon as possible. It would be best that the supervisor concentrates more attention on training her; than on you, for now. He's the boss, so he makes those decisions. The team happens to be his, not yours.
Meanwhile, swallow your pride, can the attitude, and listen-up! You've got eyes and ears. Watch and listen closely to what she's being told. If she yells something across the room, jot it down for future reference. They have but so much expectation from you as a new-employee. Your mind is not focused on what you should be focused on. Doing what they assign you to do, and they will help you when it's necessary.
The supervisor will notice if you're showing a snippy-attitude, pouting, or taking your frustrations out on the other girl. Watch your step!
Sometimes you have to work harder than others to get your footing. If you're hungry and motivated enough; you'll keep bugging your supervisor for training-manuals and materials that will help you to learn faster. You and the other young-lady aren't at the same level of training; so most of what she's being told is beyond your responsibility for the time being. At times, maybe your responsibilities will differ; and at others, they may be the same. If she's a slow-learner, that's between her and the supervisor; that has nothing to do with you. She has clout, being a manager's daughter, and you don't!
It is quite probable that your supervisor is brown-nosing by placing more emphasis on training her to make sure she succeeds at the job. To the company's benefit! That doesn't hinder you from being motivated, inquisitive, and eager to put your nose to the grind. If she fails, it's on the supervisor's head. He's under a microscope by upper-management; because she reports everything to her father, mom, or whomever. You wouldn't want to be in his shoes. If she can't cut it, they'll blame him for being a lousy trainer. She'll whine to mommy or daddy how hard she tried. You won't have that luxury. If she's assigned be your trainer, then pay attention! She has to be amply trained to take-on that responsibility. If that's what the supervisor says; then that's the plan! Do whatever you're assigned to do in the meantime. You're new, so keep your complaints at a minimum.
Apparently you successfully got through the job-interview, met the job-qualifications, and have the necessary skills for the job. They hired you as a result. If being a quick-learner was one of the required-skills listed. Then prove it! They may or may not take you by the hand, or lavish as much attention on you as on her. If you want to keep the job; then curb the drama, and be a professional! If he fails to train you, who's fault is it? He has the ultimate responsibility for his staff.
You can't really concentrate, when you're seething with anger and jealousy. Completely distracted by petty things you have absolutely no control over! You're the lowest on the totem-pole; so work harder to rise above that status. You better get in the team-spirit, or start looking for a job elsewhere. You're walking into the door with drama; and that will be your ticket out as well!
She doesn't seem to mind offering you coaching and help; so ask to see her cheat-sheets and any notes she has taken that you can learn from. Ask questions, even if you get ignored. Keep asking until you get an answer. Stop making this personal!!! She has the advantage of two months of training, practice by application, and receives special-attention. That means you'll have to be like the smallest baby-bird in the nest; and not let the bigger babies get all the worms! Take instruction-manuals home with you, and study them!
If the supervisor training you happens to always look at her when he speaks, then fine! You've still got ears, just listen more closely. Take notes! You're too busy feeling emotional about how she's receiving special-treatment to concentrate on the job at-hand. You'll learn, if you'll pay attention!
You ARE a team, if YOUR BOSS says you are! That doesn't mean equals!!! How you are trained, and how your assignments are given to you is at the supervisor's discretion. Crashing meetings in-protest of what you might consider special-treatment; will land you back out on the street! You may be on contract, but you can be fired at will!
It's not up to you to have any opinions regarding the privileges and perks of other employees; which in this case, just so happens to be the daughter of one of the company's managers! That's none of your business.
The company will lose money; if they can't get the both of you working and proficient at your jobs. They will do things according to their own policies and procedures. You are expected to simply fall in-line, get with the program, and do as you're told! If you're motivated, you'll find a way to learn, and excel at what you were hired to do.
No matter where you will ever work; there will always be personalities, nepotism, and workplace-politics. Even if you'll someday own a company of your own!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 January 2020):
 To be fair the other person HAS been there two months longer than you, it makes sense that she will be further along in any training process than you. And you cant link the fact she was hired two months before you to the fact she is the daughter of an employee or manager at a different location.
Maybe she did get the job through connections, and her training technique is a bit off putting (yelling answers at you), but if you are going to raise any issues you need to be sure your assumptions about special treatment of the other employee due to connections do not encourage you to speak out of turn.
Be careful if you raise any issues that they are true and factual and not coloured by your emotions or assumptions.
As for the staff meetings, maybe request you be included in them, because they will help you learn about the company and processes in a more timely fashion.
Good luck.
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