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writes:my boyfriend don't give me the attention that I need in he always making excuses about why he did not talk to me. But it is another boy that like me in he been there for me more than him in. me in the other boy be on the phone for 10 hours or 8 hours. but I don't want to don't want to dump my boyfriend but he wont text me for 2 hours or a whole day. so what should I do
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2020): The guy you talk to for hours.....does he have a job?Maybe your boyfriend is actually more responsible than that guy because maybe he actually has a life? Sure go with the guy who has all the time in the world.Just be ready to support a loser then.Grow up.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (20 January 2020):
 Your boyfriend probably has actual things that he has to do throughout the day. Perhaps he is working/studying. The average person does NOT have 8-10 hours available every single day for the sole purpose of texting. I actually ghost my cell for days on end due to the simple fact that I'm busy and everyone who knows me, knows that I'd rather be doing something over sitting on my cell, texting all day. I prefer to forge relationships in real time as opposed to over text which also means that, I respect everyone enough to give them my full and undivided attention when in their company as opposed to being glued to my screen the entire time. Perhaps your boyfriend shares in my sentiments. We will never know. I do agree with the other aunts that say to enjoy spending time with him in reality because that is, in fact, what really matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2020): You need a life - a job, a goal, something.
It's a wonder you notice your bf not being on the phone since you spend so long talking to another guy.
Do grow up please.
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reader, N91  +, writes (20 January 2020):
 You want to be with someone who makes excuses NOT to talk to you? Why? Why would you want to be with someone like that? Where’s the logic behind it?
Also why would you spend between a third and half of your day on the telephone? Don’t you have better things to be doing with your life?
Break up with your BF and maybe think about getting together with someone who enjoys speaking to you.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (20 January 2020):
 Who do you live with and what do you do for a living that you have 8-10 hours of spare time each day to talk endlessly on the phone? What on earth do you even talk about for 8-10 hours?!
I think this is a troll but just in case it's not, maybe your boyfriend doesn't text you because he has nothing to talk about or mostly because you don't make much sense.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (20 January 2020):
 If you text like you have written this post, may I suggest he may not actually understand your messages? I had to read your post through 3 times to try to understand it and even then I am not sure about all of it.
Some people are just not good at communicating by text. They find it hard work. Perhaps he is one of those people? Or perhaps he doesn't want to appear "soft" in front of his mates, or doesn't want you showing his messages to YOUR mates?
Why are you spending hours on the phone to a guy who isn't your boyfriend? Does your boyfriend know about this or do you justify it by saying he doesn't give you the attention you need?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2020): Do you really think this other guy will keep talking to you for 8 to 10 hours everyday? He's trying to capture your attention but I guarantee it won't be long before he slows down. It's easy to get excited when getting to know someone new.
I personally don't text my girlfriend very much during the day. It's not because I'm not thinking of her. Im just not much of a texter and I'm busy and I work hard during the day. If you really can't handle a guy who's not a big texter, then maybe you need to find someone else. But the time you spend together is what really matters. If your boyfriend is a good guy and he treats you well and makes you happy then my advice would be try to not worry so much about texting and focus on enjoying the time you spend together.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 January 2020):
 Why would you spend 8-10 hours on the phone with a boy you are NOT really that into?
Because if YOU were into him, you would have dumped your BF and started to date the "phone guy".
You don't NEED your BF's attention, you WANT your BF's attention. There is a difference between NEED and WANT.
And If your BF isn't really wanting to talk to you maybe, HE isn't the right guy for you. MY BET is that IF you dump him and start dating the other one, he will eventually have other things to do than talk to you for 8-10 hours or text you.
How much time do you spend with your BF IN person? Because THAT is what TRULY matters. Texting is definitely not a good way to maintain a REAL relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2020): Is English your second-language? Your post barely makes any sense.
Maybe your boyfriend knows you spend a lot of time talking to another guy.
Seems to me you answered your own question.
What should you do?
Dump your boyfriend, and date the guy you spend 8-10 hours on the phone talking to.
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