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Archived questions from: December, 2018 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My girlfriend went behind my back and told my parents about our future plans. Am I right to be hurt?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2188 days ago

31 December 2018 (M) - Hi everyone I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years, the majority of this has been long distance (10 hour flight). We've been trying to find ways to close the distance and one way is to get married so i can sponsor her. I felt ...

I feel like the laughing stock because I want boundaries

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2188 days ago

31 December 2018 (F) - I'm wondering if this situation is worth breaking up over. Right now we're on the brinks because I'm mad about it. The guy I've been seeing for almost a year now is a hippie, I'm not, though i like to party with hippies sometimes. We had a brief ...

My husband is abusive and I wonder what I'm doing wrong to provoke him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2186 days ago

31 December 2018 (F) - Hello, I have been married to my husband for 5 years. We have been together for 12 years. We have a 11 year old together. I so have 3 older kids. But he normally only tells people he has one child. He has always had a temper but it has gotten worse. ...

I've met a nice guy but my cheating daddy wants me back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2188 days ago

30 December 2018 (F) - Please help me I am in such a dilemma a few months ago me and my baby daddy split up due to a lot of issues in which one of them was him cheating I am not sure if it was physical but I know for sure girls were calling him and texting him and he was ...

Should I cut off my mom from my life without giving her an explanation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2190 days ago

29 December 2018 (F) - Guys... this new year I’m going to cut off my mom from my life. I have written a question regarding our relationship before and things have been going downhill from there. She has been mean to me and my family all year long. I have a sister w...

How do I change my patterns?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2189 days ago

29 December 2018 (F) - I have come out of a very long term relationship where my partner 'parentified' me. I've read a lot about how there can be a passive / active dynamic (or divide) between partners, where one acts like the kid and the other is positioned as parent, ...

Should I stay friends with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2187 days ago

28 December 2018 (F) - My close friend really confuses me sometimes. When we get too close she pushes me away...when i go far, she pulls me close. Intially we used to talk a lot over phone chats etc. Now she says she doesnt like it. She used to get jealous of other people ...

He constantly needs reassuring and I am being turned off by it!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2190 days ago

28 December 2018 (F) - Hi so I started seeing a guy about a month ago, he is lovely but lives like 400 miles away! I really fell for him, and him me, but he seems borderline obsessed with me, he got me presents for Xmas very sweet I thought, but he is very insecure and ...

My step children's mother is creating problems

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2189 days ago

27 December 2018 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles I need some advice please. Not sure where to go from here. I have 2 beautiful step children. They have just got back from a once in a lifetime holiday with their Mum. We didn’t know about this holiday at all as the...

Does he still like me? Am I over thinking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2192 days ago

27 December 2018 (F) - I ve been seeing this lad for a couple of months. We spend hours talking and he always asks about my life. On nights out he will.stay with me all night in the club rather than his friends. When people ask us what we are sometimes he says I m his mrs ...

How can I ask my family to back off from my pregnant girlfriend?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2191 days ago

27 December 2018 (M) - I’ve been dating my gf for 6 months. My family met her for the first time over the holidays and they weren’t very welcoming. When we met she had just found out she was pregnant. She also has a two year daughter. She left her ex because he was chea...

Older man wont leave his girlfriend for me.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2172 days ago

27 December 2018 (F) - I started an emotional and physical affair with a man I work with around this time last year. He started seeing someone about 3/4 months before me and him started talking. He's 15 years older than me,I'm 32 he's 47. We connected on a level I never ...

My abusive father has turned the family against us. Does anyone have any words of support/similar stories?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2188 days ago

27 December 2018 (F) - Hi, Im just seeking stories of others if anyone has gone through something similar. It would be comforting to hear, as I know there is little to be done about my current family situation. Last year I decided to cut contact with my father due to hi...

I can't forget the guy I cheated with.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2190 days ago

25 December 2018 (F) - About 6 months ago, I cheated on my boyfriend with a male friend. I won't go into details, but my boyfriend and I worked through it and I cut contact with the other guy. Today he sent me an email to wish me happy Christmas and said he misses me. I ...

Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2193 days ago

25 December 2018 (F) - My boyfriend of five years ordered an unborn pedigree puppy for a female friend. She walks his dog when he is at work. During the time he sought out, and checked out breeders, I told him that I found this to be a highly inappropriate gift. During ...

Should I even try to remain friends with her after the way she acted?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2193 days ago

25 December 2018 (F) - The other day I went to dinner with my friend who I actually considered one of my best friend so we were having dinner and it w and We ordered our food and both of ours took a long time to come but hers came before mine and she ate hers and she ...

Boyfriend lied about moving overseas to keep sleeping with me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2193 days ago

25 December 2018 (F) - My Boyfriend and I broke up I'm very depressed this Christmas we had been together for a year with a 2 month breakup in between because he refused to tell anyone about me... He claims to be private I took him back because I don't believe he was ...

My boyfriend regifted a present he had given to his ex

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2189 days ago

24 December 2018 (F) - My new bf gave me a regifted present! A mutual friend sent me a pic of his ex wearing this exact bracelet i received. Im so hurt and offended. I thought this person loved me. Who does such a thing? I am gutted. ...

Is my roommate pleasuring himself with my clothes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2194 days ago

24 December 2018 (F) - I have three roommates. Two of them, a man and a woman, are married. He doesn't give me the creeps or weird rape-y looks, and my gut feelings have always been spot-on in the past. However, this time, I think I have physical proof of sexual ...

My close relationship with my friends has changed ever since they had a baby

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2192 days ago

24 December 2018 (F) - Not sure what to do with my friends. We've been friends for a few years and we got on really well always having dinner together and drinks. Celebrating birthdays, Christmas's and new years together. We were really close. Then they announced they ...

My friend has gotten himself involved with a bad girl and I want to help him but unsure what to do

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2171 days ago

24 December 2018 (F) - I'm worried about a guy friend as he's got himself involved with a girl who is bad news. Hes started distancing himself from everyone who's warning him and is distancing himself from close friends She's a complete bitch sorry to say - take a mon...

We had a fight my children's present are at my boyfriend's house and he won't let me get them

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2193 days ago

23 December 2018 (F) - My boyfriend ruins every Christmas and I don't know what to do. We went last minute shopping today which was his idea. In a supermarket he said he needed the toilet so I decided to cash in a scratch card while I was waiting. The till is right by...

Is it possible to love 2 women the same way at the same time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2193 days ago

23 December 2018 (M) - When i was 13 i dated this girl, who we will call girl "A". After half a year she broke up with me. 3 years later i started dating one of her close cousin, which we will call girl "B". we ended up talking online and eventually getting together. Yes ...

He wants to spend the rest of his life with me but without marriage.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2193 days ago

22 December 2018 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have a child together. We are both divorced. We both have children from the marriages. We are in a serous relationship. He has talked about us getting a home together. He has said more than ...

The gossip has taken all the good that I do and turned me into nothing.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2138 days ago

21 December 2018 (F) - Hey Cupids, My questions are about moving on after divorce/separation. I met my beautiful lover earlier this year when he was in an unhappy marriage. We started seeing each other but feelings were serious enough that he left his wife after 7 wee...

How do I accept that he’s moved on with his new girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2201 days ago

18 December 2018 (F) - I am struggling to get past the fact that my ex-husband (of 20 yrs) has met a woman from another country on a dating website whom he has visited 3 times and holidayed in Europe with. We have a child who he is supposed to have for part of Christma...

I’m having trouble forgiving and forgetting! How do I get past this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2194 days ago

18 December 2018 (F) - I posted about a month or so back about a situation with my boyfriend. In the mist of an argument i took him to his old roommates place to check his mail and after about ten minutes inside i finally walked up to find out what was taking him so long ...

Should your spouse be prioritized over your adult children?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2200 days ago

18 December 2018 (M) - My question, Should your spouse come 2nd (God is always 1st) or your adult children? My wife's daughter (my stepdaughter) is a full on alcoholic/drug addict. For over 3yrs now I have delt with the constant absence of my wife because her daughter ...

He puts sex before my needs. Is it time to walk away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2202 days ago

17 December 2018 (F) - My partner and I have been in a relationship for just over 3 years and have a two year old child. I’ve been struggling to hang onto our relationship for a while but when I try to tell him what I need in the relationship he makes it out as if he’s ...

Why did he still help his supposedly awful ex despite whatever she did to him? Is he lying to me about his feelings for her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2200 days ago

17 December 2018 (F) - Hi, i hope i can get some advice here to move on in my life. I have been with my boyfriend coming up two years, we get on well and i feel we are compatible. but there is a problem. My boyfriend went to America when he was 19 years old, stayed with...

I feel overwhelmed with empathy for older folk

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2203 days ago

16 December 2018 (F) - Has any of you felt ever overwhelmed by empathy towards elderly people who are suffering? Ever since I was a kid, I've been helping out elderly people in my neighborhood without being told to do so. I always felt such a strong sadness whene...

How do I move on from a girl who has a boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2198 days ago

16 December 2018 (M) - I met a girl in September at college and was interested in her from the first time I saw her. She was very quiet and never really spoke to anyone but she just captured my attention. Two weeks in we had to pair up for an assignment, and I asked her ...

I've met a lovely man but my ex wants to pick up where we left off.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2204 days ago

16 December 2018 (F) - right now im feeling meh . everything but my love life is going great. I got into online dating and have met a fantastic man we get on so well apart from odd times he acts like a 5 year old espesh around his 8 yr old nephew. He really acts like a ...

Why do men string me along?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2204 days ago

14 December 2018 (F) - Hello. I am a 43 year old woman who asked for advice with her I’ll health and dead end personal life last hear and I got good advice. This year, I worked in a better job and started dating people in may. I do meet men but they are usually youn...

What is my sis in law suggesting here? That I'm a loser??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2204 days ago

13 December 2018 (F) - Was this fb post directed at me? and my “ettiquette” in talking with my sis in law and 11 yr old neice when I see them over new year? They live 2 hours from me in a small town. Im driving to see them in early Jan, sometime when its ok for ...

I wonder if forgiveness is the key to moving forward

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2207 days ago

12 December 2018 (F) - I, like many grew up with a toxic family. My parents where not there and pretty much abandoned me. I have struggled alot of my life due to this but also the last few years I have done alot of work and had therapy on this. This has made things easier ...

I'm not happy with my girlfriend and my crush is now single.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2206 days ago

12 December 2018 (M) - I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for past year and half. Because of her excessive mood swings, things have become difficult for me. I tried talking to her about this but she says this is how she is. We love each other and try to ...

I'm planning on getting married but afraid of divorce

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2208 days ago

12 December 2018 (F) - I am engaged and planning the wedding next year. But off late I have been having recurring fears about divorce. I am worried about my husband (to be) falling out of love with me when we grow older. Not because i will stop loving himbut because I am ...

I've grown to care for a sex worker that I see and feel I want to be more than her friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2207 days ago

12 December 2018 (M) - Dear Cupid, I've been seeing a prostitute for some time now. When I started seeing her, I was in a very bad place emotionally (borderline depression, work pressure, family issues). We didn't have sex on the first few "dates". We mainly talked an...

I'm being used by a totally useless boyfriend and I feel trapped

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2207 days ago

12 December 2018 (F) - When me and my guy first got together about 8 months ago, he had his own vehicle, his own place to live with a roommate, a good paying job, and was easy to get along with. After about 5 months i agreed to let him move in with me but things went ...

No sex in almost a year, he's watching porn but says nothing is wrong with our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2206 days ago

11 December 2018 (F) - Hi I’m 32 and in a relationship for 5 years the first 4 years were good then our sex life became non existent I asked my partner what was going on if he was depressed or stressed about anything he said no then one day I heard him watching porn while ...

How do I deal with my pregnant friend without upsetting her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2208 days ago

11 December 2018 (F) - My friend recently got pregnant. Now everything i do results in fight. I try to look after her but she tells me i am being irritative. I try to make her mood happy by sending nice texts so she says she is bored of them. Yesterday she said somethings ...

Am I being unrealistic. Is it too late to change my thinking?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2209 days ago

11 December 2018 (F) - I really hope that men in particular won’t take this question. Personally because obviously it’s not aimed at anyone and I realise that there must be good men in the world but I want to ask if any women have experienced similar to me and how they ...

Date wanted me to add him as a friend when I did he said I didnt need to

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2209 days ago

10 December 2018 (F) - I went on a date this weekend and had a great time. The man i was with said he wants to see me again. We had been chatting on social media and i decided to add him as a friend. When i checked if he had added me he had changed his settings so i ...

His ex was HOT ... is he settling for me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2208 days ago

9 December 2018 (F) - My bf and I have been dating a little over a year. This insecurity of mine is due to one particular ex coming up several times in our convos. Always comes up about how guys swooned over his ex because she was hot. My bf says I'm the best he has ...

I showed interest in a shy guy, now he wont leave me alone.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2209 days ago

9 December 2018 (F) - I've been acquaintances/friends with a guy from work for about 9 months, we weren't really close but had a lot in common and chatted when we saw each other. He's in his thirties and openly admitted once to not being good with women. Anyway we were ...

My boyfriend is generous with his mum and friends, but miserly with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2211 days ago

9 December 2018 (F) - I have been in a relationship for 6 years, we are put in outer late 20's. My boyfriend does not like to spend money on me but I find journals of all the expenses he pays for his mom, including a car he just bought her. He does not help me clean an...

I can't get my ex to leave me alone

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2210 days ago

8 December 2018 (F) - So, I was engaged to a guy and we broke up a year ago. So, my ex is military he moved to Germany while I live in the U.S. it was a toxic relationship. When he was in the U.S. him and I we’re together for two years. We broke up and got back together ...

Found out GF had 4some and 3somes with people I know

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2208 days ago

7 December 2018 (M) - Hello, I just found out my girlfriend of 6 years had multiple threesomes, and even a foursome MMMF. She was dating one guy but had sex with his three friends without him. When he found out she offered to have sex with him and another guy she was ...

2 months before our LDR is to end and we are to be together my fiance breaks up with me. Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2211 days ago

7 December 2018 (F) - Dear cupid , I was engaged for almost 1 year and a half , my fiance and i had a long distance relationship, he is deployed and at the end of this year we were planning to start wedding planning and for him to stop deploying and settle down , bu...