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Archived questions from: April, 2014 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

I don't know how to feel about my ex now!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

29 April 2014 (F) - I had my first bf when i was26. He's three years younger than me. We spent four years together and planned to have a family before he dumped me. Its been a year since we broke up. I'm trying to move on. I'm doing okay now, but I know I'm not over ...

Should I keep trying with this guy who says we are "friends with benefits", or let it fade away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

28 April 2014 (F) - Okay, There's this guy I've known for about 4 years but we only recently started talking properly. I like him but he's a flirt so I don't know if I'm special or if he's like this with everyone. About a month ago, he dared me to kiss him so I did...

Did I push my ex boyfriend away? Should I write to him to explain again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

28 April 2014 (F) - I have just realised, that I think I pushed my boyfriend away. I have been mad at him for leaving for the past 6 months but it's just occurred to me that I was the one that pushed him. We were together for 4 years we really loved each other (firs...

Retrograde Jealousy: After 4 years of marriage, out of nowhere, I have begun to play out the STI image and what went on in my wife's life

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

28 April 2014 (M) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, Please let me share my question with you which I have discovered by reading up on articles, is labelled as ‘retrograde jealousy.’ I am 47, (male) and my wife 52. We have been married for just over 4 years since 2010. We...

The memories remain and it still hurts

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3896 days ago

28 April 2014 (F) - ow do you forget someone you used to be in love with? We were on and off for nearly 3 years.We split up due to mutual agreement as we felt it wasn't working. I got my own place a few months later and he got in touch again and visited 3 times. We ...

I give them 110% but they still leave

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3881 days ago

27 April 2014 (F) - hi aunts and uncles, been a long time since i have been on here. i was left for a yonger woman, and thought it to be not right. i waited two years to get out and meet other guys, i finally met a guy who ended up being 18 years younger than me. we ...

My ex broke up with me, lashed out at me and left me bawling my eyes out, so why is it he's still trying to hurt/and or get a response from me?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3896 days ago

27 April 2014 (F) - Ok, long story as short as possible. My ex and I were together for 4 years. Towards the end things got absolutely horrible. We couldn't be around one another without fighting. He became a totally changed person. His entire attitude about me and our ...

I'm scared of my ex and feel extreme fear, panic, anxiety and pain yet I cant seem to get over her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3888 days ago

27 April 2014 (M) - Don't know if this in the right place for this? Anyone who has been through something similar your advice would be gratefully appreciated. Sorry if I'm a bit candid. My ex is a psychiatrist. She was controlling, abusive, cheated on me. She psyc...

I hooked up with my ex, but we're both seeing other people. What to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3898 days ago

26 April 2014 (F) - I'll try to make this as short as it can be! I broke up with my ex a few months ago. The break-up was sudden, but I was at a point in my life where I felt I was being tied down: he wanted to settle and I didn't, I also felt that I needed to be sin...

He is out of my life and I want him out of my head!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3898 days ago

26 April 2014 (F) - Hello guys. It's been a long time since I last posted a question on here, but I've been drawn back to this website as I am currently obsessing over a man who hurt me around 2.5 years ago. Basically, I got into a reflective discussion with ...

How can I tell my ex that he gave me an STI without freaking him out or sounding like I'm blaming him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3898 days ago

25 April 2014 (F) - I found out today that I have an STI. It's common and treatable and hopefully not a huge deal, but I'm still pretty mortified. I had negative test results before I got together with my ex, and I also had a negative test about 6 weeks after we ...

I have reconnected with her, and though I do not exactly see her as a replacement for my girlfriend, I can't keep her off my mind!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3898 days ago

24 April 2014 (M) - i met this girl some time back before i met my current girlfriend. she liked me and made it obvious to me. i liked her too. however i did not want to rush into telling her how i feel about her too early. i met her through my younger brother so i ...

I imagined having a boyfriend would be a nice experience, but I find myself alone, fighting to be by the side of a person who is thinking about someone else

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3900 days ago

24 April 2014 (F) - Today is my boyfriend's birthday, we've been together for one month and a half (we were friends before becoming a couple). I baked a cake, bought candles, made a card, bought tons of presents, I just want to make him happy. First thing he ...

He was almost perfect for me. If I should forget him, then how?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3897 days ago

24 April 2014 (F) - It's been 1 year and I still think about him every day! I met a guy that was almost perfect for me. You know what I mean by "perfect". Like you are the star of a drama/romantic comedy series and he's the guy that all of the show's viewers keep eag...

If it's over, why does he care?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

23 April 2014 (F) - I had recently connected with an old boyfriend via Facebook. When I was 20 and he was 28 we dated on and off for 3 years but he ended up breaking up with me to marry someone else. We went our separate ways, both married other, had kids etc... ...

My retroactive jealousy and negativity is ruining my relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

23 April 2014 (F) - I bring up one of my boyfriends exes a lot as I am very retroactively jealous of the girl. This has caused many arguments between us as I have been quite suspicious and controlling of my partner because of this. It's coming to a head now. My ins...

I hate the fact that I am with someone that carried on an affair with a married man in the past, and I actually know this guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3782 days ago

23 April 2014 (M) - Recently I found out that my girlfriend has (in the past) dated and slept with a married man. I happen to know him too. We're not close, but we've hung out before. I had no idea they had that type of situation in the past, and even though it is in ...

Should I consider dating my ex boyfriend's best friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

23 April 2014 (?) - Hey aunts, so I guy who I used to be good friends with recently got in contact with me. He is my ex boyfriends best friend. We have been chatting on and off for the past few days and met up a few times. We got to chatting about relationships and ...

Keep thinking about my boyfriends ex irrationally. Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

22 April 2014 (F) - Hi there, Having some trouble with my boyfriends ex. I am 22, he is my first serious boyfriend, and consequently the first guy I felt comfortable enough sleeping with. we've been together about half a year, but for some weird reason I cannot st...

My granny is still in business with my ex, who dumped me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3900 days ago

22 April 2014 (F) - Is it alright? My boyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago, it wasn't mutual, he wanted out and I was devastated. We met when we were 19 (now 24) and lived together for 4 years in a place owned by my grandparents. He broke up with me in a very cru...

My cheating ex husband is moving on and I am stuck in poverty with the kids!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3902 days ago

22 April 2014 (F) - Hi there guys, i really need help. I filed separation from my ex on account of cheating and abusive behaviour about 18 months ago. 2 children remain with me. When they went for a visit to their dad I have come to understand that he's sharing the ...

Is what I'm doing such a bad thing?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3899 days ago

21 April 2014 (F) - I am in a long term relationship but I still speak to an ex without my partners knowledge. Is this really that wrong? I know having my cake and eating it will probably spring to mind but it's really not like that. My boyfriend is a great guy an...

Should I tell his girlfriend he cheated?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

21 April 2014 (F) - Hello all, Apologies for the length of this question, but I'm trying to figure out what to do about a tricky situation. 3 years ago I fell in love with an old friend, and we started a long-distance relationship. I was 18 at the time, but was su...

I messed up big time!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

21 April 2014 (F) - ok i need advice. My ex bf passed away this year. our relationship was not healthy he was violent and i was co-dependant. I attended his funeral and have visited his family just to see how they are etc. I still have feelings for my ex ther...

I'm still missing my ex! I've sent him away again but I can't stop thinking about him!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3904 days ago

20 April 2014 (F) - Hi guys I'm in bit of a pickle right now .. I was in a relationship with a guy for about 2 years and we had a pretty bad break up. He told me many things, I told him many things, he was hurt, I was hurt and we just stopped talking. However, I got in...

I only reconnected with my ex so we could be friends, but I think he wants more

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3904 days ago

19 April 2014 (F) - A bit of an odd question. I reached out to an ex of mine because enough time had passed where we didn't speak and I thought of just asking to remain friends. We dated for only 4 months, nothing too serious. The awkward part is that he seems to...

I asked him to delete his ex's number ...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3904 days ago

19 April 2014 (F) - I am seeing a guy for two months and i found out that he texted his ex last week saying how much he misses her and how she would feel if he got a new girlfriend. Ex said it'll be weird but nothing I cant get over and I'll be happy for you. He ...

My new friend has confessed she's in love with me, and I wonder why my ex was so enraged by our friendship! Help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3906 days ago

18 April 2014 (F) - I'm in a very weird situation. I broke up with my ex boyfriend last August due to the fact that I was moving away, we ended on extremely good terms and the only reason we broke up was so the distance wouldn't ruin what we had and we could get back...

Should I ask her about her sexual past?

This question has 32 answers - newest was posted 3898 days ago

17 April 2014 (M) - I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...

I Need Serious Advice

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3907 days ago

17 April 2014 (F) - It has been two weeks since me and my previous ex-"boyfriend" ceased contact. The story behind us is very long, so I will try my best to keep it short. Basically, we met over the internet (Instagram precisely) last summer. You know the usual f...

I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!

This question has 40 answers - newest was posted 3773 days ago

16 April 2014 (?) - Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...

Should I stop seeing him if he doesn't pay for tomorrow's date?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3907 days ago

16 April 2014 (F) - Is this going to be history repeating itself, and if so, what should I do ?. I used to date a guy whose money would go really quickly when he got paid, and then the week after he got paid, he would ask me for money because he didn't have a...

I don't deserve the way he ended it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3908 days ago

16 April 2014 (F) - My ex broke up with me over a year. It was nasty. He's my first and it was his longest and the most serious relationship. However, he left without giving me the real reason. I initiated contact a few times. He still told me he loved me, but he never ...

I feel like I failed as a girlfriend

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3908 days ago

16 April 2014 (F) - I'm feeling hurt and in need of some advice.. I talked to my ex boyfriend recently (whom I am still in love with) and he said although I was "great" he was unhappy in our relationship. I am very hurt by this because I really tried my absolute best...

Is she just using me for attention?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3910 days ago

13 April 2014 (M) - So me and this girl have a history in that we tried going out but she decided it wasn't working, that's was about five months ago.. anyway she moved on very quickly. We were good friends before and we still kind of are. But in the last months I ...

How real are those 'hook up tonight' websites?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3912 days ago

12 April 2014 (F) - I was tempted to lie about my age when I was posting this question because anyone as experienced as I am have must leaned these lessons by now but I have not. When my marriage dissolved I had been with him from the time I was 14 until i was 27. ...

I left this woman to go back to my ex but I've never stopped thinking of her. Should I contact her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3910 days ago

12 April 2014 (M) - Hello, well about two years ago i met someone, it lasted about three months, she treated me fantastic, but then my ex poped back into the picture, she treated me really bad , even hit me but I was in love with her, so i dumped the new one, went back ...

I've caught LDR boyfriend lying. Should I just end it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3912 days ago

12 April 2014 (F) - I've been dating a guy for 6 months and the entire relationship has been long distance. I met him through friends last year while on vacation in his state and we talked for months online before I flew there to spend a week with him. For the m...

Why would my ex boyfriend get mad about me being with someone else and then assume I would tell my boyfriend about him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3910 days ago

11 April 2014 (F) - Recently my ex boyfriend started calling and texting me. He found out I've been talking to another guy. The new guy is in the army. I'm happy being with the army guy. Its just that my ex boyfriend is acting like doesn't like me being with someone ...

I'm at a crossroads, do I work things out with my ex or stay with my new boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3913 days ago

11 April 2014 (F) - Hello! I am taking the time in advance for taking the time to read my agony and for any help you may provide. I also apologize for the lenghty paragraph. I am at a crossroads. I have an ex husband who I was with for 6 years and we have a...

How can I get my ex to actually talk to me about the way he feels about me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3912 days ago

11 April 2014 (F) - How do can I get my ex to actually talk to me about the way he feels towards me? I recently broke up with my boyfriend and not on good terms I basically wrote to him on Facebook messages that I was cheating on him and it's best if we called it ...

I am a gay female and feeling very confused!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3915 days ago

9 April 2014 (F) - I am a gay female and feeling very confused. I was in a relationship with my ex for 5 years she was my first love but for the last two years of the relationship I was very unhappy and could not see a future . I hate to admit it but I cheated with ...

Is it possible to immediately go from being in a long-term relationship to being just friends?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3916 days ago

8 April 2014 (F) - Is it possible to immediately go from being in a long term relationship to being just friends? This guy who is interested in me tells me that he is over his ex with whom he's been living with for several years. They've just broken up a mont...

How can I move on? Still having trouble getting over my ex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3916 days ago

8 April 2014 (F) - Hi, I was with a younger guy (12 years diff) for a year. It ended messy and we no longer keep in contact. My problem is I can't get over him and still love him so very much. I feel constant pain and hurt and would just do anything to talk or see h...

We broke up but I don't want us to be over!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3917 days ago

7 April 2014 (F) - I am 19, my ex boyfriend is 20. We were together for 3 years but in January I broke up with him because I felt trapped and I needed to be single to figure myself out. We had an awesome relationship though. We were best friends, we laughed all the ...

How much is "too much" in looking up an ex on facebook?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3917 days ago

7 April 2014 (F) - I know exes are exes for a reason ... And some people think that once an ex they should be gone and forgotten. But how often should one think about their ex if they have been split up for over three years and in a relationship with someone els...

I want to use this meeting to get closure

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

5 April 2014 (F) - Hi My question is next weekend I will meeting my ex to return his dvds. It’s been 3 months since our breakup and this will be the first time we’ll meet. I am dreading this meet up but another reason to meet up is to get closure. We were togethe...

Have I ruined my reputation by going on a dating site? Did I need to defend myself?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

5 April 2014 (?) - Hello everyone I hope you won't be too hard on me. I may have ruined my reputation a little. My sister told me to join a free dating site to sort of distract myself from my boyfriend's absence. So I did and I tried it out even though I was hesitant...

Is my boyfriend pretending to be separated from his wife so they can collect additional benefits?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3919 days ago

4 April 2014 (F) - I met my boyfriend 3 years ago. He'd separated from his wife a year before we met but they weren't divorced yet. He'd managed to get his own council flat so I took that as proof that he was single. I now start to wonder if they are just pretending ...

The love of my life just confessed to having cheated on me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3920 days ago

4 April 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 3 years confessed to cheating on me. I never thought he was capable of doing this because he claimed he loved me so much that he wanted to be with me until the day he died whether it was in a week or 65 years... I found out yesterda...