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Archived questions from: September, 2016 (see latest in Friends category)

Friends: Help and advice

I scared him off but I want him back...but how??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3001 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - There was this guy. I knew him from high school and we were always friends with a very strong connection. He liked me but I always had a boyfriend and frankly I thought he was weird. We talked briefly in December and stopped because I was going ...

Do I back off and hope he'll approach me? Or do I make a move and tell him how I feel? Eight year age difference.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3005 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - I have posted about this before so some of you may be familiar with my story. Just need a bit more advice. I met a guy, he is a PT at my gym. Cutting a long story short. There seems to be an attraction due to the way he looked at me. I did not li...

Am I right in that my friend has picked yet another controlling unpleasant boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3004 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - Try and keep this brief. Best friend has form for allowing guys to treat her like a doormat. She's been single ten years and approaching 40 and she's suddenly thrown away all her previous dealbreakers - must have plenty of time for her, not hav...

Why he'd come back after 3 years after things ended so horribly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3005 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - Long story short, I was briefly acquainted with a man 3 years ago and it went downhill very fast. We were supposed to be strictly friends and things started getting weird and complicated with attraction and feelings and miscommunication. We were ...

Is this legitimate suspicion or paranoia?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3006 days ago

28 September 2016 (M) - As I venture more and more into the gay world (possibly the same in the straight world), I recognise that I have this unique skill in winning over guys and making friends easily. This gives me a great power, in that im not afraid to put myself out ...

Was she hinting that she wants me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3006 days ago

27 September 2016 (M) - My female friend sugguested that I masturbated then openly admitted she does it. Was she hinting that she wants me or am I misreading the situation? Basically I was saying I was having trouble sleeping and she was like why don't you go masturbat...

Should I back off and forget about him or am I being a bit dramatic?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3006 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - Hi, I really fancy this guy at work, the other girls have been trying to set us up for months but we're both a bit shy so nothing's ever happened. We were out with everyone from work a couple of weeks ago and he told one of the girls he was inte...

I told my chick friend who has kids that I won’t date women who have kids and she seems to have taken offense?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3006 days ago

26 September 2016 (M) - A couple of months ago I moved to a bigger city along with my chick friend who has kids. We don't live together but since we don't know anybody in this town we occasionally hang out. We are both really close since we went through a big ordeal in our ...

Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3000 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...

I'm putting up a wall. Should I show some trust and let him know how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3009 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - I'm having a really difficult time telling my best friend how I feel. Whenever I get unusually upset about something (and I try and hold it in), but he always seems to know that something's up and asks me about it. At first, I play it cool with a s...

Does my"friend" care at all??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3007 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - If a "good" long term, since childhood friend forgets to text or ask you how you are, you've been sick this week, in hospital overnight? Do you remind her you were sick when you see her Text her and tell her - needy Let her contact you and when...

Would it be acceptable to ask if our family could go again to their vacation home?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3010 days ago

23 September 2016 (M) - I have known a couple for a very long time and used to see them often, but for the last couple of years it seems like they only want to get together once a year. My family used to borrow their vacation house-- we haven't been in about 5 years. Do...

I don't want to cut all contact with him. But he has been distant with me ever since I asked if he was interested in anything serious. What do I do now?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3009 days ago

23 September 2016 (F) - Hi everyone. I hope someone can shed some light on my situation. Recently, due to a change in jobs, my weekends are free, giving me more time to go out and socialise. Back in April, I went out to a local pub with my best friend where I bump...

Frustrated by petty character assassinations and deceptions. Am I caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3011 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - I think i might be caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" Being of a kind nature i tend to help rather than hurt but if my intuition is anywhere over 50% ,then i believe i have seen my situation for exactly what it is! It is draining to m...

Will he come crawling back again, soon, to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hi I have gone my separate ways from my on off boyfriend again. We don't live together, and he has recently started back to college as a mature student and he told me hes very stressed out and has loads going on around his head and has family i...

Am I expecting too much for my friend to care?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Is it wrong to want a friend to ask how you are if you've been in hospital? I always ask! Friend or colleague, family etc its nice to be asked, makes you feel like someone cares even a little If you got home from an over night hospital stay your...

Male coworker blows hot and cold

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - I'm wondering about this situation. Explanation is a bit long so bear with me. I have a new coworker who is in the cubicle next to mine. He is probably 5 or so years younger than me. He is best friends with another coworker (female), which is how he ...

Two years and the relationship has never advanced?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - I've been seeing this guy on and off for almost 2years we have not advanced in our relationship yet he tells me he loves me but makes no effort. is it too late to ask him to just be friends?...

I'm feeling hurt after finding a photo of my Gf giving a kiss to an older guy at an outing with work colleagues. How do I get over this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3015 days ago

18 September 2016 (M) - i found a picture of my girlfriend kissing an older guy at a bar. My girlfriend an i have been dating for almost 6 years now and i always let her know that i do not mind her going out to hang with co-workers or friends. She never goes anywhere so...

Have I put the final nail in the coffin or is the friendship still okay?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3017 days ago

16 September 2016 (M) - I'm friends with a female co worker. we have had out fair share of fallings out but have always made up. as it was her last day at work, I shook her hand and wished her all the best with her new adventure as she is moving to start a new job work...

I need advice please? Because whenever I see them together it lowers my confidence in me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

15 September 2016 (M) - Basically this feeling of jealousy about my friend's beautiful girlfriend is making me feel down. Me and my friend have known each other since a year.This year in march a new girl joined our school and she was remarkably beautiful. Almost everyon...

I feel sad that he lost all interest. What can I do to avoid this happening again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3017 days ago

15 September 2016 (F) - I need some advice! A few months ago I started a relationship with my housemate but it didn't work out, and I'm worried it's because I freaked him out and made him pull away. I'd love to know how best to move on and learn from this. So we were onl...

His comments to his friend about this girl make me extremely uncomfortable!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

14 September 2016 (F) - Hi! My boyfriend lent me his cell phone and I found a conversation between him and his friend talking about a girl in his class, in the text he said he had a hot classmate and that he spent all class looking at her, he said he loved her face and ...

At 47 am I too short, or too big, or not pretty enough to ever be asked out by a guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3017 days ago

14 September 2016 (F) - I am in my 40s I never thought I was pretty or good enough to date any guys. I had never went on date before, no guys ever ask me out Sometimes I think there something wrong with me I guess I am pretty enough for any guys to ask me out, or smart...

He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

13 September 2016 (F) - I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...

It hasn't turned out as I imagined

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

13 September 2016 (F) - I was introduced to this guy three months by a mutual friend. We hit it off instantly. We would often hang out after work and have long conversations. He would flirt with each other. Often I noticed whenever I would talk about what I would like in a ...

Confused about our relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

13 September 2016 (F) - I needed advice on a situation I am in currently. I've known one of my friends for many years. Just under 2 years ago he told me he likes me more than a mate. The day he told me I told him I needed time and we'll see where it ends up as I wasn't ...

Why go through the trouble of introducing me to friends if it was just a fling?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

13 September 2016 (F) - I dated this guy for about 3 weeks. In that last week, we had sex. This is something I've never, ever done before (ever!) so I can't believe I slept with him so quickly. But I did, and things kind of fizzled out after that. We haven't seen each oth...

How can I explain to my friends that she's a great girl, despite what I said earlier?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

12 September 2016 (M) - When I was 9 years old I moved to a new town and my neighbour kissed me on the cheek and said that I was her boyfriend and she has pretty much been my life since then. We dated for as long as I can remember, she was my first kiss, first girl I t...

When does an age gap become too big?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - How big do you think age gaps in relationships should be? In all kinds of relationships: friendships, romantic relationships, sex buddies. Do generational differences get in the way? When does an age gap become too much to relate to someone in ...

Crushing on someone 31 years older. But how can we have a future?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - I am crushing very hard on a 57 year old man and he doesn't know. He's told me that he feels a "connection" to me is attracted to me and cares for me. We went out as friends and ended up talking for almost four hours in a restaurant. He was ...

How can I better control my emotions when I'm hurt during tae kwon do tournaments?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - Hi, i need help with stopping myself from crying when i get hurt. I was doing a taekwando tournament, i am a white belt and the person i was sparring with was a black tag. She battered me and punhed me in the face and head till i fell to the floor. ...

He's 30, and acts like a teenager. Doesn't want to do family things with me. What should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - Hi everyone ive been with my boyfriend for 3 year now we have a daughter together. Lately i dont feel the same way about him. The problem is his mate is always at our house. I finish work on a weekend on a morning, get home, and his mate is ther...

Should I be upset my toyboy wont spend my birthday with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3022 days ago

10 September 2016 (?) - Ok here goes ive been having a long distance relationship with a guy since March because of distance we see each other at weekends. I'm 40 hes 29. Which i worry about but hes okay about it. Its my birthday in 2 months but when i brought it up it...

Should my dinner companion have taken offence? An acquaintance said I was rude to check my purse while the other woman was talking. Was I rude?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

10 September 2016 (F) - Was this wrong? I only meant to check my purse, did not mean to be rude?!? Went out to dinner last night witha friend i dont often see.. We talked while we ate, as people do. After eating she was talking,i WAS listening but quickly checked my purse...

Do I drop these friends or just renegotiate my friendship with them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

9 September 2016 (M) - Now I'm 30 I realised I'm surrounded by people who push their own needs. Example 1 the friend who is unable to have fun if it doesn't involve alcohol and drugs, he has an infinite appetite to take drugs and alcohol and looks a state when he does. He ...

Should I say anything to my best friend about her new relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

7 September 2016 (F) - Just wondering what people's thoughts are on this. My best friend has been single almost constantly for 10 years and obviously at times this has got her really down and I've often had to pick up the pieces. She saw a guy briefly for about three ...

Is my past affecting my current relationships? what can I do ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3028 days ago

7 September 2016 (F) - I really feel that my past has been having a very strong affect on my relationships. I grew up with my grandparents, one of which was only my grandparent due to marrige. I lived with them most of my childhood ,things there caused it to be unsafe a...

Could this lead to more than a friendship? Do I talk to him about this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - I need advice on a confusing situation I'm currently in. I have been friends with a guy for over a year and a half now. We hangout pretty often with our common group of friends as well as just the two of us (Theater, diner, movies at either of our...

Why? All my life people have taken an instant dislike towards me and I don't know why. What needs to change?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - All through my life I have struggled getting people to like me, people take an instant dislike to me and I don't know why. I'm not rude, I'm polite, I can be painfully shy at times and I think people mistake this as being rude or stuck up. Been ...

I don't feel comfortable with who I am. How do I turn my life around and find contentment and satisfaction ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3026 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - So just a week ago I turned 33 years old. By now, a lot of people would know about my previous posts in regards to dysfunction in my marriage. But I want to change focus to think about my own personal development. Perhaps I am being too hard on ...

Do I tell some white lies? Or compromise and invite my Bf to visit me and meet my Dad?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - Hello! a few basic info first: I'm currently a 19 y/o college student and living with my dad and brother. I'm unemployed as for now but I'm also thinking about getting a part-time job somewhere. I have a boyfriend who's 27 y/o currently and he's got ...

Am I just the side chick? How can I go forward when he treats me as just a friend, never his GF?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - It has been a while that I have written on this. So, there is this guy I've known for the last three years of high school and we've kept contact streaming into the life of college. Throughout the years I 've known him since high school we've man...

Are we still friends or is it over?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - I am friends with a female at work. we have fallen out a couple of times but have always made up. last week i sent her flowers at work in the hope of she would put me back on facebook as one of friends but it back fired on me and things seem to ...

Do I break up with L and choose an untested but potentially amazing relationship with S ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

5 September 2016 (M) - Three years ago I met S., and we dated for a little while before he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship because he was getting over a recent breakup. Over the next year, he kept changing his mind between wanting to be friends and wanting ...

How do we find a healthy balance between sound judgment and judgmental?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

5 September 2016 (M) - My question is regarding generalising and friends of friends, and friends partners. I have a problem that when i see someone or a friend dating someone who I find to be unpleasant/ unkind/ judgemental/ rude, I start to view the friend dating the ...

Is he just friendly or he actually likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

5 September 2016 (F) - I can't stop thinking about this guy from work. We work together in a project for 2 months now and we're really clicking. He's always there to help me whenever I need him and always makes sure I'm doing okay. He jokes around and acts really ...

He doesn't want to rush. I really like him and want this to go somewhere. What can I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3026 days ago

4 September 2016 (F) - I've been talking to this guy since December 2015. We have been on two date and speak pretty much every day. He works away offshore so it's hard to meet up with his as he is often away. Part of me wants to ask him what are we? As it has been s...

Is she in to me and how do I approach her? What can I say to her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3030 days ago

4 September 2016 (M) - Hey. So I'm back again because I got some good advice the last 2 times I posted on here so I'm hoping for more. So as I first said I'm a African American age 19. In one of my college classes, one of my college classes, there's a girl who on the firs...

Having trouble reading the signs. Help. Does he really like me or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3030 days ago

3 September 2016 (F) - Hi everyone! So I have a basic question to ask you guys, do you think he likes me? I usually wouldn't ask something like this but I cannot read this guy at all, so thank you all for your help in advanced. Anyways I have known this guy for almost two ...