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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Friends category)

Friends: Help and advice

Can he be a virgin at 40 plus???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I've known this guy just under a year- both in our early 40's- we met at work but dont work in same place. We have a few friends in common and others who arent. Since we met we have seen loads of each other - we now see each other every week or so, ...

Any ideas for my friend's birthday?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5494 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. I need some good ideas. Especially from the ladies, but you guys are also welcome to throw some in there. My fiancé's birthday is coming up. And I want to make it really special. It's her first B-day since we have been together. She did ...

Would I be overstepping the mark with a birthday card?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi! I just have a bit of a small issue. I am friends (very close friends, but I want it to be more) with a guy, we are like two peas in a pod, and it is his birthday soon. I really like him a lot, but he has a girlfriend. Would it be inappropri...

How do I approach this without making it an ordeal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating close to a year and are happy together. Like all couples we have our fights and problems, but we get along well and we definitely see this as having future potential. The problem is the quinte...

Does my close friend like me back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Over the last few months I've started to really like one of my closest male friends. I've known him for a year and we lived together in halls at Uni. We have a little group of friends, us and a couple of others, who hang out together a lot. We ...

Don't play with my heart!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - i love a korran's girl but i don't know how to say to her. Onece i tryed to say her but she refussed to be gf and bf i relized she is serious so i told her why i love so much and i will do evrything for u but she didn't say anything after that i ...

Advice needed. I think I'm in love with my best guy friend but he does not love me back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I know this is a repeated question and it is quite long, but please bear with me. I have the most wonderful guy friend you could ever ask for. He is my best guy friend, and I love him dearly. He is always there for me when I am down, he tells me ...

Should I take revenge... or should I forgive and forget?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Back near the end of May I was in P.E and I didn't do it that day. I was sitting with a few of my closest friends and I suddenly got upset because I had a secret and knew it was going to blurt out. So I ran to the toilets in tears and my best ...

I somehow feel that he likes me, yet isnt interested in a serious relationship. Please advise.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I am in a stable relationship with a guy who loves me truly. We live in different cities and since last year I started to take liking for a colleague of mine. We talk to each other about work and personal stuff every single day. For the last 1 year ...

Is it just a friend thing or does he really like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Okay I have recently been busy and tired and was too nervous to say hi to my crush but during those days that happend he had been talking to my best girl friend and when i didnt say hi to him he asked my best friend if i was mad at him or if i was ...

Where do you think this reltionship will go?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - well, during the summer, i started going out with a girl im, 14 and she is 13, a year below me, but we were off school and i didnt get to see her, after summer, i moved countries and we were both sad that i could only speak to her on msn, but she ...

I seem to have no ambition to do anything...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - hey, lately i have been feeling unloved by my boyfriend of 5 years, i know he loves me but sometimes im just not sure. and i have gotten laid off work so im home a lot i never feel like doing anything, its a huge chore to leave the house, i have ...

He likes me a lot more than I like him... how can I let him down gently?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - A guy i've never met added me on facebook about six months or so ago. For some reason i accepted him, we had no related friends or anything and his profile said he lived nowhere near me but i just left it and didn't say anything. I soon recieved...

I'm confused that I'm sending him mixed messages.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - i like this guy in one class that i have and i'm confused because he is sending me mixed messages. first it started off as him staring at me and glancing my way then since he sits in front of me he moved in the back seat..i thought he was going to ...

I'm so scared for my friend, what can I do to help her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I'm so scared for my friend. She's not the kind to open up or anything and when she does it's just cause she really needs to get something off her chest. She recently told me she started smoking and drinking more and now she's talking to me about ...

Do you think I've upset or offended her???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hey there, last week i asked my best friend out (we're both girls and bi). She's known how i feel about her for about 6 months now, and she said she loved me back, but when i asked her out, she said no. this sort of crushed me and the last week ive ...

Is it a good idea for me to maybe send her a message on facebook?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - There was a girl at work that worked in another department. When I first saw her when she started at the company like a year ago I thought that maybe she fancied me and I fancy her and I caught her looking at me a lot at lunch. Time has gone on and ...

Are these signs that my coworker likes me??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 October 2009 (?) - Does my coworker like me or is attracted to me?? here are the signs: - He chats with me - He makes eye contact when we're talking and smiles but its an honest smile like he's happy and not just polite. I dont know if its just because he's hap...

I get jealous when he meets new friends... am I in love with my gay friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm a girl, 18 years old, I have a best friend and he is a gay.. we are so close to each other as if we treated each other as more than friends and as time goes by I felt something strange, maybe I'm already falling in love with him, he always ...

Should I just go with the flow and see what happens?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hi there hope you can offer some sound advice. went out with a guy for about 6 months we had a great relationship, amazing, in fact. However, I knew he was off travelling for a year on his own and we tried not to let it get serious but it did! It ...

How can I show her I won't hurt her again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - What does it mean when you went out with a girl for 2 years and broke up for 3 months and she has a new boyfriend and you try and talk to her but she acts like she doesnt wanna have anything to do with you and tells everyone that she doesnt care ...

How do I convey to her I love her personality without being totally shot down in flames?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Recently, I came out of what I call a "loner phase" where I think I don't need affection, and don't look for it. Ironically enough, I fell in love immediatley after "waking up" so to speak, with a girl I had a crush on in middle school when I saw ...

I think I love her, but she just wants to be friends. Should I keep being her friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Please Help!!! Ok so i really like this girl like alot i think i love her. I have told her that i really like her. She had also told me that she really likes me,but the other day out of nowhere she changed her mind and told me that she only sees us ...

How can I tell my friend I'm bi-sexual?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I'm Bisexual, but haven't come out to anyone yet apart from my friend who is now my girlfriend, we got together like 3 days ago after months and months of holding back and im soooooo happy i finally have her. One thing is this weekend we decid...

Help, my parents wont give me any freedom. What can I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5486 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My parent's wont give me any freedom. Im 16 and Im getting my license in a year which means I have to rely on my parents to drive me places the problem is they wont let me go anywhere without them. I can't go to the mall alone. I can't go to the ...

Help! Is he leading me on, or does he want to date me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Hey guys, I have been talking to this guy for a week or so through the internet, we met through a social event so its not an online thing. The other day he asked me for my number because he was asking me about going to the movies together. I gav...

Totally confused by all the mixed signals...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I am 16 and a sophomore in high school. I have liked this girl for a while and we have become pretty close over the past month. One of my close friends is also pretty close friends with her and he says she told him she likes me and always asks for ...

Can you suggest me tips on how to raise my chances with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I passed by our company during my vacation leave when I met this beautiful, smart, and interesting lady in our office (so far she is the most beautiful woman in our office). I successfully established communication with her through chat and text ...

She does not understand why I am upset. Should I be upset?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - My wife slept with my best friend, no sex, no touching. I was not present. The sleeping accommodation was not the best. First nite she called me and told me he invited her to the bed, there was only one. She was cramped where she slept. She told me ...

She tells me she needs me... but she's got a boyfriend! How do I handle this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - help!!! there is this girl who has had one boyfriend all her high school career, they have been going at it for over 2 and a halve years, i started talking to her 8 months ago. i have relaized that im and absolutly 100% in love with this girl, and ...

She's giving me the cold shoulder for no apparent reason... any ideas why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I started a new job about 3 months ago and met an attractive woman there. I found out through the other coworkers that she is single. For the first month or so I was working under her supervision to learn the ropes and we came to find out that we ...

If I like her should I convey my feelings or will she think I'm rushing things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I am in late 20s. I have been chatting with this girl for almost 3 months now. We initially chatted almost every other day for 2 hours. We also talked on phone for 4-5 times (everytime for more than 3 hours). We have never met due to geographical ...

Help! How can I get her to open up to me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I have been talking to a girl for while now. She used to text me every day and we would talk for the rest of the night. She knows that I have feelings for her and one day when we were talking she told me about how she had sex with someone three ...

How can I tell him I really like him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5500 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I met this guy at a wedding, he was the Best Man and I was the Maid of Honor. We hung out all night and he made gestures that made me think he likes me. The problem is, he lives 3 hours away from me and im afraid im falling for him. We just talked ...

Is she just a play around buddy or does she really want a serious relationship with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - So 3 week ago i met this really pretty girl at a pool hall. She was alone and i was with 2 buddys. Well this girl happens to live on my street too (wow). So anyhow she invites me back to her place after we chatted, which was surprising. So i ended ...

Is she just on the rebound / bored? Is this moving too fast?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - ok ive been good frends with this girl for a long time and she just broke up with her bf and me and her have hung out a lot the past few weeks just as frends like we go meet up with frends and get some drinks but last week we made out at my house ...

Why does my ex argue with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i agreed to just be friends - we talk to each other a lot, but whatever i say he always argues about it, even if it's just my own opinion, and i dont know why?...

Should I let my guard down and give it a try?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My best friend, who is a male, is soo great. we have been friends for about two and a half years. hes easy to talk and has always been there for me when im with "the other guy". when im hurt by somebody else, i run to him and he comforts me. he has ...

I lied to her... and now she ignores my messages.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5459 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i ...

Should I give her a chance... or tell her no chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - i fancy this girl and ive been told she fancies me back but i am fightened to go with her becasue she has a name for herself in out community and has been known to cheat on her boys :(..........should i give her a chance or just tell her to f*** off ...

How can I get on friendlier terms with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Okay so, im 14 and i am going to a new school new school now and ive been talking to this guy Randy for a while now and we have become pretty good friends but i could tell that he kinda likes me and i kinda like him. The other day he told me that he ...

How can I come off sexier and more girlfriend material?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - hey, my problem is that guys don't really seem to like me. Like I've been with loads of guys, at parties and stuff, (I don't have a reputation as a slut cos i have too many different groups of friends and i tend to give off a very good girl per...

Advice needed for a fellow Agony Uncle

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - My friend who is a gay man (I am too btw) has tried to dump his boyfriend 6 times to date. Each time he does this the boyfriend cries his eyes out and tells him (my friend) that he can't live without him, etc etc. My friend gets sad and takes him ...

Don't know which guy to choose. HELP!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - When I was around 13 years old, I got together with my first real boyfriend "A". We dated on and off for over 2 years. He was my first love. Then I moved. But guy "A" got back in touch with me. We had a long distance relationship for about a year. ...

He says he wants to be friends but is now avoiding me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (?) - Is it a bad thing that I feel as if the guy who wants to stay friends is avoiding me now? We do not have any of the same classes but we pass by every morning and he never says hello anymore. When I asked him out he said he wanted to stay friends but ...

My best friend has been acting weird!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - My best friend has been acting weird! Sometimes when I stare at him he stares back then smiles. I love talking to him but lately I’ve been to busy and haven’t seen him. Today I said that the bus driver’s son was so cute and he said well I’m cute. He ...

Pleas from a friend...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - Hi, I have a female colleague, who is in a relationship and has a young son. Things have not been good in her relationship for a long time. We started spending time together outside of work and became really close. We have so much in common a...

I've only just realised my feelings for him, am I too late?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Okay so this might sound complicated. I known this guy for as long as I could remember. On my last year of high school I had several relationship problems with a certain ex. So my friend who I known for ages was there with me all the time. He ...

Does he have an inside agenda... or what...???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Aunts please help? I've had sex with this guy twice. I've known him since childhood, but not personally. We didn't use protection but he pulled out the first time, this second time he didn't. What's up with this... I didn't know until after...

The Love Triangle

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I have two best friends that are not necessarily friends with each other. One of the girls was my aquaintance for the past 4 years and has now become very close with me. I go to her for advice and she comes to me with her problems. We can count on ...