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*lwayznd4eva116
writes:My best friend, who is a male, is soo great. we have been friends for about two and a half years. hes easy to talk and has always been there for me when im with "the other guy". when im hurt by somebody else, i run to him and he comforts me. he has shown me hints many times before, that he wants to be with me as more then friends. so now i feel kinda bad about running to him about the other guy since i know he wuld like to be the other guy. my cousin and friends tell me we would be great together, and i totally agree. hes sweet, caring, honest, funny. everything i would want in a bf, but for some odd reason, i cant see us together in a relationship. its like all the previous ppl i have been with, we had chemistry but still argued. thats what made it REAL. but with my best friend, i guess its like almost too good to be true. its also a matter of messing up our friendship. should i just let my guard down, and try it out with this guy?
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reader, alwayznd4eva116 +, writes (30 October 2009):
alwayznd4eva116 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah, you guys are right. Im going to talk to him tonight and tell him how I feel. I guess I'll never know if I dont try. Thanx soo much !!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (29 October 2009):
 YES! HELL YES!
You put him in the Friend Zone because he's been TOO good to you, TOO available and honest and supportive. You haven't had to work on it, fight for his attention, or put up with his crap. He's been good to you, so you've run off to be with worse men instead. This is just where you put him in your mind. Give him a shot, try being romantic with him (and I don't mean one quick dinner/movie date and call it quits) and see if you can't get him out of that mental rut.
The most stable, longest lasting, happiest and most healthy relationships grow out of friendship and mutual understanding. You already get along with him better than any of your boyfriends, right? Go for it.
There IS a chance it could fail, could turn awkward and hurt your friendship if it falls apart, but that's just why you need to talk to him, be open and honest and let him know that you're interested in giving it a shot but can't be sure how it will work. Talk to him, communicate openly, and then do yourself a favor and don't walk away from a good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): You've got nothing to lose, even if it didn't work out, there's nothing stopping you from staying friends. Personally, from how you've described him, you can't go wrong! If you don't give things a go you may spend the rest of your life wondering ''what if?''
Go for it!
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