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writes:ok ive been good frends with this girl for a long time and she just broke up with her bf and me and her have hung out a lot the past few weeks just as frends like we go meet up with frends and get some drinks but last week we made out at my house and last night she gave me a bj i dont know what to think is she moving too fast, is she only doin it on the rebound i dont even know if i like her like that Q#1 is she just on the rebound / boredQ#2 is this to fast we have never had a real date 1 on 1Q#3 should this be a worning that she is easyps we only get like this when we get real drunk .feel free to ask me more and thanks for the help
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): ok first if you weren't sure this is what you wanted why did you "let" her give you a bjm you almost make it sound like it's all her but you have just as much of a part in it as she does. Now onto the real stuff, when you get drunk your reasoning processes get a little blurry that's why you tend to do things you might not normally do when you're sober. If you've been friends for a while it is possible she was having these feelings for you all along and was just scared to act on them and when she got drunk it came out. I wouldn't say she's easy maybe she's just comfortable with you. Does she normally act this way with guys? I think your best option is to sit down by yourself and just think about if you like her that way and if you're willing to risk your friendship to take this any further. this kind of stuff has a tendency or ruining friendships. If that's the case you should stop messing around with her now and just chalk what happened so far upto being drunk and don't let it happen again. If you do think you might like to have a relationship with her then go for it and ask her out on a real date just the 2 of you not a crowd of friends. Then go from there if you feel like things are going too fast tell her that. I can't say whether you're a rebound or not only she would know that but it's not something most people consciously do. And not everyone has rebounds either but i doubt she's doing it because she's bored. Most likely she has feelings for you or you guys are just that close and comfortable that lust takes over. either way you'll only know if you talk to her and ask her if she wants a relationship.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 October 2009):
It does sounds like it's moving too fast. Certainly if you've never been on a real date and you're already acting this way, it's moving a little too fast. It could be that she's doing this on the rebound, but because it's moved so fast, and you don't really know how she feels, it's very hard to tell. Please don't think she's easy. When people are feeling low, or down about themselves, they tend to do things that make them feel needed or appreciated. If you really like her, then get to know her before anything else happens between you. Explain that you need to take your time just getting to know her and letting her get to know you. Do't get drunk around her again, because if it continues this way, you'll never get to know each other and you'll just end up doing things you later regret. Take your time, and let her take her time getting to know you. See what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): do you know why she broke up with her old bf? did she maybe like you? i dont think shes easy, maybe she was caught up in the moment, or she actually likes you. She could easily be on the rebound and needed a friend, and you were there. Maybe you should ask her if she wants to have a relationship with you, if it was a drunken one off or is she looking for a "friend with benefits". This is one of those situations being blunt wont help. You could easily insult her, you need to act like a friend when asking, try asking her what was going on with her that night, or just try and bring up that night in conversation.
and pretend what happened didnt happen. Think about her. The way she acts. How do you feel about her, what kind of things does she say to you. hope this helps
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