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If I like her should I convey my feelings or will she think I'm rushing things?

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Question - (29 October 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 December 2009)
A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am in late 20s. I have been chatting with this girl for almost 3 months now. We initially chatted almost every other day for 2 hours. We also talked on phone for 4-5 times (everytime for more than 3 hours). We have never met due to geographical distances. We got each other's contact through our parents (arranged marriage).

Since last month, she is having some problems with her professional life and is working hard to get it on track again. I totally understand that and we have reduced chatting to 30 minutes every 3 days, just to say "Hi, howz it going?". I don't buzz her even if I find her online (extremely difficult thing to do, especially on weekends)

Now, we have decided to meet. I am flying to her place. Till now, from talking on phone/chatting I feel that she has all the qualities I am looking for. Of course, I will be able to judge better when I personally meet her.

But if I really like her on meeting, should I convey my feelings? Will she think that I am rushing things (since we would have met only once) ? I don't even know if she likes me or not.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009):

You know what? I'm in a very similar situation! I met a very nice man about....well, I guess about three months ago. He is also in his late twenties, and we have only met once at a party that lasted about four hours, he and his friend were very nice, so interesting and fun. We have chatted online ever since for about 2-3 hours each day, it's been fantastic converstation, a few flirts here and there, talking about life in general and other things. And you know what? I would LOVE it if he would share his feelings with me!!! I'm far too shy, and am waiting eagerly and I might add hopefully, for him to come over to me in england (he lives in Aussie) and give me a long passionate kiss and tell me he loves me.....but thats me of course, I don't know how daring you are :P , and to be quite honest I am a hopeless romantic.

Good luck - you should tell her.....x

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