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writes:My wife slept with my best friend, no sex, no touching. I was not present. The sleeping accommodation was not the best. First nite she called me and told me he invited her to the bed, there was only one. She was cramped where she slept. She told me by phone she did not feel comfortable doing that, and I agreed that would be a bit too close for comfort. The next nite after she went to bed he slipped in later. She does not understand why I am upset. Should I be upset?
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reader, openmind +, writes (30 October 2009):
I do believe sir that you do have some reason to be upset with her as she could have told him to please exit the room but from what i read she went to bed first and he came in later so you should be more upset with your best friend than your wife. However the fact that they did admit it to you and you didnt have to find out on your own should give you some kind of peace of mind that it was completly innocent. Hope this offers some peace to you
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (30 October 2009):
Well, I'm still a bit confused why 1) you would leave your wife alone at your sons house and go home, knowing there was nowhere for her to sleep there, and 2) If you live that close why she wouldn't just come home after the "event"... or 3) if you don't live close to home and it's far away why wouldn't you make sleeping arrangements ahead of time? All in all the situation sounds like the result of poor planning and poor communication. In any case regardless, what's done is done. What is it exactly that you want for your wife to just acknowledge that you are upset? So you can either stay upset about it or you can let it go. I'd recommend just telling your wife that in the future you prefer she not sleep in beds with males other than you, and then if you know your wife will be sleeping from home, be a responsible husband and make sure proper arrangements are in place for her so she doesn't end up in this situation again.
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reader, ydnas +, writes (29 October 2009):
ydnas is verified as being by the original poster of the question This was during a event and I left to go home, which left them there. They were staying with my son in his house (1) bdr. My brother in law had a travel trailer on site, that one of them could of slept on. My big problem is that the nite before it was not a good idea, then some how it became ok to do. Then myself and his wife were told about it a week later. My wife commented, "arn't you going to say anything" I do believe they did no sex, but if so innocent what would of happened had I walked in while they were in bed? I would start beating folks.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 October 2009):
I think you should to be fair. But not necessarily with her. Your friend was the one who invited her, and she didn't sleep in the same bed and even phone you to ask you. Then the next night he was the one who joined her. You do need to talk to your wife and explain why you feel this way. Tell her that you were uncomfortable with it, and that she had decided not to sleep in the same bed, and then tell her that you were upset when she alllowed it to happen the next night. Hopefully she'll understand.
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reader, openmind +, writes (29 October 2009):
I need more details why is it they ended up having to sleep in the same bed was she at his house if so why tell me more so i can help you out!
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