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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

My mentally ill sister is preventing me from having a relationship with my parents

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3701 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, I desperately need some advice, please please help me. My sister is mentally ill. Has been for over a decade. Her mental illness, which my parents have, till this day, chosen not to acknowledge, has destroyed my family. For the p...

My husband stays in contact with his racist father

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - Dear all, I am a black woman and my husband is white. We've been together four years and married this summer just gone. The problem is this. The rest of his family are lovely and I have never encountered any problems. But his father is seve...

Is he feeling threatened? Jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Ok so for the past month I have began to meet my fiancees family a bit more especially his first cousin who he is very close to. I was nervous to meet this guy for two years as I heard he was very sarcastic however after meeting him found that he ...

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...

My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...

Why are siblings so resistant to giving any support to our mother?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid,I am the second oldest child and I have four other siblings who just act as if they don't have a living parent.I can't get them to do a single thing for my for our mom everything has a price on it they won't go to the store without ...

Since my parents divorced my mother has changed. Why does she continue to reject me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - My parents are divorced. It was a messy, painful battle, and my mother is the one who initiated it. Since then, she has moved away and changed into a completely different person. Her social life is so busy she no longer has time for me. And when...

He's controlling and abusive. What's the best way to handle this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Been with my partner almost five years, we have a four year old son together. For the last two years our relationship has been very rocky. It has been an unhappy relationship for me, since being with him he has stopped me seeing family and frien...

How do I rise above the bullying and develop confidence in me and deflect bullying?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3687 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid I feel unsupported in life. I experienced poor treatment from my dad from the beginning of my time and my mom has never really praised me that much; I felt that both my mom and my dad saw the worst in me, unknowingly. They didn't se...

My fiancè cheated on me with his ex! I am so angry at this woman, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3360 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I need to know what to do in my situation that I know im not the only one that is dealing. Ive been with a man for just over 2 years now. We are engaged. The problem is this: He has twin boys with his ex. Now I understand that ...

Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that a...

Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ...

My parents need me to get in contact with my ex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have an issue. My mom and dad need me to get in contact with my ex. My ex and I dated last year, and it was a horrible, horrible relationship. He broke my heart, and made my life miserable. By far, the worst relationship I ever had. He left me ...

Big difficulties ahead. Will this relationship last? What other options are open to me, to consider?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - A year ago, I was ready to move to another city, transfer to finish school and leave sex work behind. I had been an escort for over 2 years, had a failed marriage and a child not living with me because of my unstable and crazy lifestyle (he lives ...

Only ever had sex with my BF so how could my BF have given me HPV? Is his excuse plausible? Or has he been cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - It seemed really strange I developed HPV from my boyfriend. I confronted my boyfriend after my doctor told me I had HPV. At this point I'm sure he was cheating, how else would he get it, how else would I get it. We lost our virginity together, so I ...

He's abusive. Why do I take him back, even though I know he is not good for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid Where do I start? I was with my ex was 4 years. Earlier it used be fun, for past few months the verbal emotional abuse is more than I can take. He withdraws affection and love. Makes me beg with him to even talk to me, at last talks to...

What should I do about my partner of 5 years who has recently become aggressive and has come close to fighting with my family?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3709 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years now We live together but are not married nor do we have children Recently he has become very aggressive to the point where he has been nearly getting into fights with my family I feel lost and heart brok...

Feeling guilty about ignoring my family. How can I explain that I want a relationship and to see my family?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - Hello all... Briefly, i am in a new relationship.We have been together a month, met on the internet. Yes we had sex soon!too soon, i;m 24, hes 25. He lives in london. He is lovely! we went to wales last weekend and man treated me like a queen,...

I'm worried my lack of sexual experience will drive my boyfriend away

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - I am 43 and have had a few boyfrineds but it never lasted so am a virgin at 43 and all my life i was a carer for my parents and never went out, since they died i have tried to meet new people but find it hard until i met somebody that is 15 years ...

My family kept asking my much older boyfriend how old he was and now he's not responding to me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is 14 years older than me and has 2 children of 24 and 26, he is 58 and i am 44 and have no children and the age gap has never been a problem to either of us until i took him to meet my family last week who no joke asked him how old he ...

Should I come clean to my boss, who is my father-in-law?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

23 October 2014 (M) - Hello everyone, I need your advice on this. I have been working with my father in-law's company for close to three years and ever since I joined, I have turned a few things around. The company is now doing great and I have been complimented on a job ...

No one will rent an apartment to me because of my children! Advice?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - I've been apartment searching for 3yrs and I have been rejected hundreds of times. I have no criminal back, my credit is decent because I never had credit cards. Its not great but not bad its almost 700. People have been discriminating against me ...

My parents object like crazy that I wanna go out with a guy alone!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3714 days ago

21 October 2014 (?) - Hi there :) I recently told my parents that I like a guy and that he likes me too. And I really wanted to gain their trust of just hanging out with a guy. They object like crazy that I wanna go out with a guy alone. Which in a way I understand...

Is it shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2941 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - It's is shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence? I'm having a hard time being in this relationship because my boyfriend's lack of intelligence and common sense. His decision making is poor, and his mental capacity is ...

After enduring so many personal difficulties I now discover the man I've started seeing is HIV positive

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi everybody. Please don't judge me, I feel horrible enough. I just want some advice and opinions please. I have had a difficult last ten years probably. My father had an affair and as a result of that my mother and father divorced. They a...

Strict parents and I'm nearly 16. How can I convince them to allow me to be more independent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

20 October 2014 (?) - Hi everyone :) I need some advice on how I could convince my parents to let me be more independent when I hang out with my friends. This is what I mean by independent: I am almost 16 (in 3 months), whenever I go out like to hangout with my ...

Do I accept the offer from my ex? Or continue to put up with my Bf ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi, I will try and keep things factual! I have a bf who I have been seeing for 4 years, we don't live together but there is a strong feeling of love between us. He tried to move in last year but I stopped him because I wasn't ready. partly because ...

Wondering what might have been. Do you think he regrets that he was rude to me? Or has he moved on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3715 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - I met a man last year who expressed interest in me. To say we met at the wrong time is an understatement. When we met, I worked for a bully boss and helped take care of my ailing grandmother. Very stressed out during that time. I have since f...

How do I stop beating myself up for my stupidity at spending my money?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - My grandparents sold their house at the start of the year. From the money they got from it, they gave they're grandchildren some of it. I got around £1500. At the time I was in a job that paid horrible money, less than minimum wage. The plan was to ...

Advice for dating someone who has children when you've never had any?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Hi I was wondering if someone could share their experience dating with kids. My boyfriend has two children, 14 and 9 and I have none. I have never been a kid person and never really wanted any of my own. The 14 year old boy is ok because he is very ...

First my Dad cheated. Now I don't know how to face my Mom now that I know she's having an affair with a married man. How can I face this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3717 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - please help me, my mom and dad are divorced my dad cheated on my mom when I was 9 years old. I went through what I thought was the darkest moment of my childhood. Because of this my relationship with my dad is almost non-existent. I survived thi...

After I married her I found out she had worked as a hooker. Can I make this marriage work? Or should I divorce her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - A year and half ago i happen to know a girl through her relative. She was living in (Country 2) and i was living in (country 3). But we both were from (Country 1) She was there since she was 8 or 9 living with her parents and two siblings. ...

Does it mean anything that my boyfriend's family still have photos of his ex in their home?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3708 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I stayed with my boyfriend at his parents place recently. We have been living together along with another couple for a year and together for two years. I went to put some clothes away in a drawer for him and found a photo of him with his ex girlf...

What can I do considering it seems that I am in another abusive relationship and pregnant too?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I am so depressed and need some help/advice... I am 22 on Thursday. I have two kids (3 and 5) and I am 23 weeks with my third. I have messed up my life up so much... I was with a "man" for 5 years and he physically and emotionally abuse...

Turns out that my mother is a prostitute and everyone at University and school knows. Should I move away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - Turns out that my mother is a prostitute and everyone in school and my university knows. OMG!!!!!!!! what can i do? should i move? i cant believe this, i cant even go out! my life sucks, hope no one other than me ever has to experience this. Every...

Is there a way for me to make my mother understand that she's not being left out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

17 October 2014 (?) - Hey everyone, I'll keep this short. Basically, I have never been the sort of person that discusses my feelings or anything relationship related with my friends and family, there is no reason for it, I just don't like talking about it with people. ...

I lost my virginity. What should I do? Talk to my Dad? Or talk to my Dad's apprentice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - I'm a 16 year old girl and I ended up losing my virginity with my dad's apprentice. My dads apprentice (J) is 18,and I've known him for 3 years . He came round last week to drop off the keys to my dad's work car. I was home alone as my family was...

I'm pregnant and the father of the child wants me to terminate. I'm confused

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I need sum help.. I don't need people judging me or giving me grief. I'm 25 and 9 weeks pregnant. I have been in an on/off relationship for some time. We were together for a few years and he cheated.. so I moved out and went no contact. 6 month...

As an adult do you discuss your sex life with your parents?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - As adults, do you discuss any of the details of your sex life with either (or both) of your parents? Is it normal for a parent to want to know about your sex life? I am 23 years old. I recently started dating a new guy exclusively a few weeks ago,...

My mother in law acts like a jealous lover towards her son, not a mom!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3718 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - Long story short.....my mother in law had an affair with a married man when my husband was still little with a married man with kids, they both left their spouses to be together. she told my husband she's in a unhappy marriage with his step Dad and ...

Do I marry him? Or go with the reality that sometimes love isn't enough?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - I am very torn as to going through with marrying my fiance. My fiance is a wonderful man-he is a great Father to his kids and Father figure to mine. He treats me amazingly well, and is just honest, kind, etc-all the good stuff. However, he has...

I'm worried about my daughter never having a family

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - My daughter is 28, her boyfriend is 32. They both graduated long ago and both have masters in different fields. They both have VERY good jobs with VERY nice salaries. They both travelled the world. My daughter was on every continent, and more tha...

How do I tell my father that I am pregnant?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3720 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, I need some advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. My parents divorced when I was 9 and I have lived with my dad since then. I see my mom a couple of times a year but we are not close at all. My dad has been amazing ...

I haven't met my LD boyfriend yet but I'm not sure if I should!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - Hello! My LD boyfriend wants me to visit him but I don't know if I should and to even have the guts to tell my family about what he's planning? When he was in the same state as I am currently in now, he had plenty of chances to meet me, sometime...

I just lost my baby and her father is cheating on me, how do I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3720 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I just lost my daughter at 7 months pregnant. I had an emergency c section. I'm staying with family because the father cannot support or take care of me. I can locate his phone and he's been with another woman. He's introduced her to his coworkers. ...

Rude abusive brother. He's especially nasty when he can't get his own way. How can I stop him speaking to me like this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I suffer from depression. My younger brother and I used to very close, but over the years he has grown distant. Although we live together, we rarely speak anymore because he is always out. When he wants something from me, he will speak to me, and...

I'm in a new relationship. But how do I stop being so untrusting anxious that he'll leave me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I had been in this new relationship for about two months. We first were just working on a construction job together but it gradually turned into us living together in the house we are working on and him working for me. I have 4 children that don...

Family secrets: The only two who were not told about the cheating? Myself and my son. How do I deal with their toxic actions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - My husband had an affair with his sister in law. His older brother was 20 years older than her, they married because she was pregnant. He had another younger girl pregnant, but chose to marry ''C''. He never had contact with that child from the...

Is this really a ''Guy thing,'' as my fiance implies? His remarks upset me.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - My question is for guys. When you're in a serious relationship do you look at girls and think in your head if you could get with them, or not, if you were single? My fiance and I have a baby together and we went out to lunch near his work and he s...

Torn between my ex husband and the other guy. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - I am torn between my ex husband and my new guy. Here is the story, My life overal was not too bad but I have been unhappy from some issues which my ex wouldn't do anything about it. The main issue was him being over passive and his family over ...