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writes:I suffer from depression. My younger brother and I used to very close, but over the years he has grown distant. Although we live together, we rarely speak anymore because he is always out.When he wants something from me, he will speak to me, and if I dont give it to him (like money, running an errand, or using my computer) he will get angry. If I try to assert myself, he will immediately become vicious and say very hurtful things about my depression and me. (Like that I am a failure.)My depression really has nothing to do with him needing to borrow money, or having me run an errand, but he uses it against me anyway.I have tried to stand up for myself, but he just gets nastier.How can I stop this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2014): You're right depression has nothing to do with favors.I too suffer from depression,when he tries to ask you for a favor just ignore him,no matter the possibilities, because if you're curious you'd just end up in the same place you were.He might be insecure, or anger management problems?Who knows?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 October 2014):
 When he starts getting nasty do you just stand there and take it? If so walk away.
REFUSE to engage.
And depression doesn't = failure. You know that. He knows that but he also knows exactly which buttons to push.
Have you considered seeking help for the depression? You know that it doesn't "just" go away because you wish it away, right? YOU need to be proactive about it.
And have you tried talking to him when he ISN'T asking you for favors?
It sounds like something s going on with him too, and instead of dealing with it, he is taking it out on you.
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