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51-59,
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writes:My boyfriend is 14 years older than me and has 2 children of 24 and 26, he is 58 and i am 44 and have no children and the age gap has never been a problem to either of us until i took him to meet my family last week who no joke asked him how old he was 4 times and each and everytime he replied with how old he was and i just felt so depressed that they kept on asking him, after this i received a text from him asking me if i think that he is too old for me and i sent a reply saying no and said sorry to him for what my family said to him but have not heard anymore from him and sent another 2 texts but have heard nothing at all from him.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (25 October 2014):
 Im guessing your parents/family (I am guessing it was your parents as you just ay family) are a bit old fashioned in the whole age gap thing. As you are both well into adulthood and mature enough to know what you want I don't see an issue with the age gap. Most people wouldn't batter an eyelid. Its not like he is old or massively older than you. Neither is he or yourself hugely younger than they other and wet behind the ears.
I do understand how he feels though as I always get asked how old I am as I look a lot younger than I am. I get embarrassed and stressed when I have to explain that I really am 36, nearly 37. When I last had a GF she introduced me to her parents who, through narrowed eyes, kept asking how old I REALLY was :-( I felt like a liar and it was horrible.
I guess he is at an age where he knows he isn't the spritely young guy anymore and your families comments rubbed it in. He may already have been insecure about the gap between you and felt worried your head would be turned by a younger man, therefore your families remarks would have made him feel worse.
All you can do is give it time. Hopefully he will contact you but f he doesn't you need to accept it wasn't meant to be. If he wants a relationship with a younger woman he needs to be able to handle the comments that sadly come with the territory.
Mark
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 October 2014):
 Your family was incredibly rude. But you have apologized for them so there is nothing you can do at this point other than hope he can put this behind himself and move forward in your relationship. I wouldn't send him anymore messages just wait for him to contact you. Good luck.
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