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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Is he ashamed to take me out and be seen with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5371 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi folks... look at me the bore sitting in on a Saturday night!!... Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We dated loads before we said we were 'official.' And in any respect, we've done the whole relationship thi...

I feel so lost in life...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5770 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I really need advice as I feel I cannot see straight. I am in my mid-20' but I feel so lost in life. I live at home with my loving, but strict parents. I can't really invite ppl over bc my family is so dysfunctional. But I can't stay out late or...

My b/f didn't call me because he said he was emotionally drained

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Yesterday, my boyfriend and i made tentative plans to get together. His parents were in town so he was not sure if he would actually get a chance to see me but he told me he would call me when he knew for sure if he could. well, he ends up not ...

I want to continue this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Me and my sister were drunk and horny and had consensual sex. How do I tell her I want to continue having sex with her?...

Why is my brother taking it out on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5767 days ago

31 January 2009 (?) - My brother (he's 19 and I'm 15) has been acting a like a huge jerk lately. He wont talk to me or seen me in weeks. It all started when I told him that I didn't like his very (very) annoying and rude girlfriend because she gave my sister (shes 24) ...

Is it completely wrong to think a second-cousin is physically attractive?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - First of all, I'm definitely not going to pursue a damn thing when it comes to this because there are just so many factors against it. I also personally think it would be wrong to actually pursue it. But I do have a question: Is it completely wrong ...

Help me to stop hating my dad

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - It's gotten to the point that sometimes I wish he'd get terminally ill and just die. If he did, I'd finally feel free. I am so sick of him putting me down all the time, saying I am pathetic, worthless, he even said that he'd never want a daug...

All my life, I have tried to show everyone that my family didn't beat me, and now I don't know how to deal with my problems.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have had a problem for quite some time. I need some help with it. It started with my grandmother, she was very controlling, and manipulative, just generally a sick person. My dad was the first, and he was the favorite. There were four kids a...

Am I bad? Have I done such a bad thing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Six years ago I left my husband for another man. I have never been able to quite forgive myself because I know it hurt me children very much. I had been married for 21 years and had suffered badly. My husband took our first child from me in hospital ...

Would I be wrong for not telliing on her???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5773 days ago

30 January 2009 (?) - My niece is 14 and says she is pregnant. What should I do? I really don't want to tell on her but I just want to make sure she gets help what should I do???Would I be wrong for not telliing on her???...

My husband won't stand by myside

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5774 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - So I have been married to my husband for 3 years, generally as a whole we have a really good relationship. We really only fight about one thing, his parents. I don't agree with the way they treat me and talk to me, he thinks I am over reacting. They ...

I think my mum is just trying to scare me to put me off having sex too soon.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - hey, I'm 16 and thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. I'm on the pill and we're going to use a condom. The thing is my mum has made me really paranoid about having sex. We had a talk the other day about Sex and she said knowing my family's ...

A foolish affair turned sour.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Regretfully, I have been having an "affair" with one of my husband's oldest friends. This guy lives over 500 miles away from us, and we have met up a few times, and talk for hours on the phone/e mails. I've left my husband, not for this guy, but for ...

I messed up! What can I do to get my girlfriend's trust back?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5771 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I tried X the drug, well her mom hates me and the step dad also. My girlfriend's mom took all her stuff away for me to contact her with we have been sneaking around to see each other, she's 17 and I'm 19. What can I do to get her ...

How can I stop worrying so much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm 19 years old and have a lot of worries at the moment, to list a few: *my dad was made redundant just before xmas, he's trying so hard to get a job but can't, our family arent very wealthy anyway and although my parents always try and stay hap...

I sent a text about my husband TO my husband by mistake!!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi. I accidentally sent a text message to my husband that was intended for my mom. His parents had asked him to do something that I felt was unfair and at a bad time. I am a stay at home mom of his three children. His mom, dad, sister and her live ...

How can I propose to her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - It's a little bit big qstion, I dont know how you'll react but I need some real guiadance, I am 19, and the girl I love is 15, she is my first cousin, please don't choke. I am in love with her for 3 years, but never told her. She is my first love, ...

My mum is so overprotective of me because of all these feelings I'm having...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5764 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am 14 years old, and am really protected by my parents. As I am 14 I feel as I am growing up as a person and feel that I could handle teenage stuff like getting a boyfriend. I currently have got feelings for this boy but as hard as I try to ignore ...

What man stares at another man with passion in his eyes?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been married for 1 year but with this man for 6 years. Before we got married any woman would have wanted him, strong, smart, handy, a great lover, a good friend, I can go on , but I will stop there because it all was a bunch of bull sh!t. Maybe ...

How can he change so quickly???? I KNOW he's hurting here too...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am a 30 year single mum of 4, over 3 years ago I split with a violent ex. I met a fantastic man last year, he was a few years younger and didn't have children of his own. We met online and we chatted for 8 weeks, sometimes we were up all night. He ...

My sister saw us making out!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5767 days ago

29 January 2009 (?) - My boyfriend came over over to my place. We went in my room (my parents weren't home at the time) and one thing lead to another we were making out like crazy. Until my sister (she's 9) came in without knocking. Let's just say she saw some stuff that ...

Gang intimidation!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - The other day my daughter came to me with a problem that she is having and although it is horrifing me, I am not quite sure how to handle this because I am afraid that taking the wrong actions on my part could possibly place her in a dangerous ...

A baby coming soon and a dog who's afraid of loud noises! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - so many of you know i am pregnant... well the baby is getting closer to its due date and i was talking to my doctor and we came across a problem. I have a rotwiler shepard mix dog. She is an older dog about 11 years but still... she is a rescue ...

B/f thinks we're too young to french kiss!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Okay.... So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a while. Four months. And we are both very much in love! But I've never French kissed and I think I'm ready to. But when I brought up the topic he said it had something to do with a promis...

Daughter's friend raped by her grandfather

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - My daughter aged 17 has just told me how her close friendship with another girl gradually ended. The two former friends are in separate 6th forms, my daughter in a college, her former friend in the local sixth form attached to the local high school, ...

My brother is messed up and our family is falling apart

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I need some advice. I want to know if anybody has been in a situation like this before. I have a brother who is 16 at the moment. It's probably not a very good thing to say, but I am ashamed to have him as my brother, because of all the stupid c...

Should every free moment be spent being constructive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - When i get back from school, or on the weekends if i'm not doing something to fill like every minute then my parents complain about me not being 'constructive', just so that i can hopefully confirm, does everybody have free time to do as they please ...

Am I in love with him or do I just want something I can't have?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5774 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - ok so here it goes im attractive im 17 and im very confused!! Thers this boy and we have known eachother for 5 years and we have admitted to eachother that we do have strong feelings for eachother but agreed they were just like a brother would love ...

My BF is being forced to marry - should we run away together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5752 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - my boyfriend of 3 years is being forced to marry someone else, my parents do not no about us as they are very traditional but his parents do. What should i do should i just run away with him, i cant live without him but i know it will destroy my ...

My guy and my half-sister...I am convinced something is going on...please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Somebody please help me???!!! I have this aching feeling that my half sister whom i have had a rocky relationship with is creeping with my dude!!! He once had a show 2 years ago..and she showed up wit friends because she knows someone else in ...

Stubborn brother

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - Hi I am currently at college with my older brother. I am finding him a bit stubborn and is always arguing with me on certain things. When we are in the common room, also, he does not really give anybody a chance to say what they feel. Have yo...

Step sister pregnant with my child, will we have problems in future?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - my mother died when I was 1,after 3 years my father remarried,but my mother was from London,We stay in India,I have a step sister,she is 8 years younger than me.we started having sex when she was 15,my parents do not know about has they are very ...

I want to leave my husband and take my kids with me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have two kids, 2 and 5 years old respectively. My husband and I sleep separately since a year ago, no sex, and we only fight every day. I am not employed because I have to look after the kids, but I attend night classes. My husband is working. ...

One day you'll read my book..I need help..I'm a train wreck!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5775 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - long story short... adult story girl meets boy on lake, 2 weeks later he moves across country... their friendship turn to love and he moves back for her. They get a house things are going good and SNAP everything goes to shit. He basically rap...

I want out, but I fear it will hurt my daughter.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I live with my fiance of 2 years (we been together for 6) and our 4 year old daughter. We own a house, live a quite life. I have recently realized I am not happy! My entire family lives 14 hours by car away. He is an only child with only his father ...

Is it time for me to leave him and move on with my life and try to make things better for me and our son?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5776 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - My husband works, I'm the mom/housewife. He never hardly ever gives me money, we hardly ever communicate like we used to, we've been together 3 years and married one year, we just got some taxes back and he's spent his half and most of mine that we ...

My girlfriend's dad is behaving very strangely!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I'm sure one of my friend's dad fancies another one of my friends. She is 16 and he is 59. Do you think it is normal that a man of his age would say to his daughter he will unground her if her 16 year old girl gives him a hug? Also when is planning ...

Is it legal to marry your first cousin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5774 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Would it be right marrying my first cousin??? We don't want kids but is it still right ...

I want her back, I know she still loves me! What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I am 44 and met this lady who is 28 at my sons baseball league. first time we both seen each other from first day we fell for one another.. she was in an unhappy marriage. she fell in love with me and thru our relationship she had gotten divorced.We ...

I love to steal my sister in laws bras and panties.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5775 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I love to steal my sister in laws bras and panties. Is this ok because I think she suspects something?...

My mom thinks of my g/f as a "fatal attraction"

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I have been dating a girl for 6 months. To full understand this situation perhaps a brief back story is needed. She was involved with one of my friends for a period of time, while they were together he encouraged her o begin becoming friends with ...

DON'T share your wife with anyone!!!!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I was married with my wife for 3 years we had no children. We went to the doctor but of no use, they said my my sperm was not fertile, my younger sister and I are the only "children" of my family and my mother is dead. My wife suggested we adopt ...

I am confused... Please suggest

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5755 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I am 27 years old, mother of 2 kids. I met my husband about 8 years ago. He told me he loved me, I didn't feel like that initially but after 1 year, I felt I had met the love of my life. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years. Ever...

My boyfriend just joined the Marines, how can I feel better about this new situation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5776 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 3.5 years just came home today with big news. He enlisted. He's a Marine. We have been talking about this for about 10 days, but he's been thinking about it for a long time. We're both liberal minded folks, me definitely more of a ...

How do I get rid of my reputation from the past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Hey Well this mey be kind of long but this is more something i need 2 get off my chest rather than a qustion. When i was younger i used to be quite popular in my class at school, but i have a older sister and she was always coming top in cla...

How do I break it to my family that my uncles b/f & I are in a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5777 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - hi im 18 and i like to do things that normal 18 year olds do, i love anging out with my friends, going to college, and partying, theres just one difference, recently i have started a relationship with a 36 year old man, ive grown up with him as my ...

My sister is paranoid about me sleeping with her husband!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5777 days ago

26 January 2009 (?) - My sister is paranoid about me sleeping with her husband. I would never do that and I already have a (hot) boyfriend. Ever since our other sister slept with her ex bf (which was 3 years ago and she didn't even let her come to her wedding) she been ...

In a rut....please give some advice

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5772 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - Hi, This is my first time posting on a forum like this so please be gentle. I just can't seem to get any solid advice from my friends or family. For the longest time I did great with dating. I lots of friends that were women and I had lots of ...

My family is being cruel towards me and accusing me of lying, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - When I was eight years old I was raped in my bedroom by my Mother's then boyfriend while she was out. After that I was always afraid of men until my late teens. I am doing okay for myself now and have a very successful career. I finally decided to ...

I want to do what is best for me and my child not is what is best for my family or my ex. Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - My ex and I have been broken up for 5 years. We have a 5 year old daughter together, that he has only seen twice. He was horrible to me the entire 3 years we were together. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and moved back to my hometown. He ...