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writes:I need some advice. I want to know if anybody has been in a situation like this before.I have a brother who is 16 at the moment. It's probably not a very good thing to say, but I am ashamed to have him as my brother, because of all the stupid choices he wants to make. Everything changed when one of relatives passed away. Like the whole family became suddenly more tense. My brother wants to drop out of school, doesn't want to get a job, says he just wants to die and not do anything. He complains about school and the teachers there every single day. He says the only thing that will EVER make him happy in life is earning tons of money and having fun with it. I asked him how he's gonna get this money if he never works at a job, and says by scamming people. I know you might think he's joking, but he is completely serious. My parents try and try to talk to him, but he won't listen. He says he's not gonna go to college either. He just wants to completely ruin his life. He said that in one class, he didn't like the things they were doing, so he just spent the whole hour drawing a picture of him killing himself. He also has some horrible anger issues. Sometimes when i hear the conversations he has with my parents, and he starts getting angry, (I mean REALLY angry.) i'm afraid that like in the middle of the night he's gonna kill us all. I honestly think he's capable of it. I don't know what to do. We asked him if he wants to go to like a shrink or therapist, and he says yea he's up for it, but i don't think the therapist will tell him anything that my parents haven't already told him. Our family is falling apart. I can kind of tell that some of the things he says just hurts my mom. Does anybody have any advice?Thanks
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reader, sk8erboy_Jaxon +, writes (29 January 2009):
 i'm sorry thats happening
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): I don't think he's suicidal.Sounds more like deep depression. He cannot handle the trauma your family has suffered and he;s doing whatever he can to run from that.No matter how fast, or how far he runs, he will never escape his own thoughts.Take him to a psychiatrist, perhaps they might be able to help him where a family can't. Some people find talking to a stranger easier then friends or family.Flynn 24
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reader, nikki485 +, writes (29 January 2009):
He just has to striaghten up his life.
Try doing family activitys that he would like, (paintball, basketball, waterpark)
Once he's in a good mood try making a fun-free-spirited conversation. Dont get serious and dramatic. \
-Hope it helped and anser some of my questions!
--nikki485
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