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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Faded love category)

Faded love: Help and advice

What are some things we could try to bring the romance and spark back into our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5803 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. When we first got together I was absolutely smitten by this man. I had found text messages from another girl on one occasion and he had actually cheated on me on another occasion. ...

Abusive husband and started divorce proceedings, is he making me jealous on purpose?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5803 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - if you finally had enough of your abusive husband and started divorce proceedings to which he never answered back to the petition and then you saw him with another woman but still continued with the divorce and got your divorce and never had any ...

What's the best way to get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5803 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi all, theres this guy I really really love and I know we wont work and it's best to get over him :( But whats the best way to do it ? Should I delete his number and msn and bebo ? Its far to hard to remain friends with him :( please help ! xxx...

He proposed, but now he's not sure. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5804 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - my boyfiend and i have been going out for about a year and two months everything seem to be going ok but not we are constantly fighting about silly things and i just do not know what else to do.i love him and he loves me and he had proposed to me ...

Is there hope for this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5805 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been sick for the past two days, and thus, have had a lot of time to think about my relationship with my boyfriend. We're been living together for half a year now, and he's starting to get to me: - he's childish. IE: he's 21 and still ...

For three months everything has been perfect, why now is she acting different?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5805 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I've have been talking to this girl for about 3-4 months and we never had an issue on communication or distancing, until recently in the last week. She would text me and call me regularly and I would do the same also. We would spend our latter half ...

Am I just imagining things or is he not in love anymore?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5805 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have this problem. me and my boyfriend are only for about 5 days. i am really in love with him.. and i just want to make him happy. my problem is: he doesn't reply to my texts, calls and messages. it was wednesday, he told me he's not feeling well ...

I'm in love with my boyfriend but its getting boring

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5807 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I'm an 17 year old girl.I've been daiting my boyfriend who's also my best friend for a year now (he's 20). We have what you'll call “the perfect relationship”.everybody wants to hve wht we have and we're happy with each other and we really do lov...

I want out, but I fear it will hurt my daughter.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5806 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I live with my fiance of 2 years (we been together for 6) and our 4 year old daughter. We own a house, live a quite life. I have recently realized I am not happy! My entire family lives 14 hours by car away. He is an only child with only his father ...

How do I tell him that I don't feel the same way any more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5807 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I have got a new bf and hes a really good guy, we have been together for a few months now. We have been getting on so well up till now. We have been arguing over stupid things, like music, films, even games, if I don't like somthing that he does ...

We've been together 2.5 years but now I'm questioning our relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5806 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2.5 years, and we have had our many ups and downs, but lately I've been questioning my relationship. We live together, have come through many arguments and problems, have lost and regained trust, pretty ...

If it werent for our infant daughter I wouldnt even be trying to save this marriage

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5807 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - Do I stay or go? My wife and I got married in April 2008 principally because she was pregnant - we had a daughter in september. Before we married we both lived in our own houses about 50km apart. After our marriage due to location of work etc I mo...

Do I really want to be with her or am I just lonely?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5807 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I need some advice. I started dating someone a while back and we had basically both just come out of long-term relationships. After awhile it was because clear she just wanted something casual, although I had wanted more of a relationship at first. ...

I recently moved in with him but now I want to move on!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5809 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - How do you tell your partner of 4 years (with whom you have recently moved in with) that your heart is just not in the relationship and that it is time to move on. This will seem really out the blue, and i am so afraid of breaking his heart. :(...

Battling my thoughts vs obsessive vibe

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5809 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - Sorry if this is long, but any input will be appreciated. I am currently 22, and in all of my relationships I have always been the type of guy who was never fully committed. Even is I was taken, I would still hold sexual conversations wi...

Is my little sister attracted to me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

25 January 2009 (M) - My little sister is 13 and I am 19. The last two times that I was hanging out with her in her room she says, "I'm horny". Not just once but on two different occasions. I just say like yeah me too... and blow it off. I'm starting to wonder if she has ...

Do all married men want to make love to other women?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

25 January 2009 (M) - My problem is I can't stay away from other women. I have been married 9 years and we have two children. I love to flirt and make love with other women but I feel guilty. I am happy with my wife and we have good sex every week (or so). I don't want ...

I'm pregnant, boyfriend doesn't understand I want an appartment of my own...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5809 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend has been living together for almost 1 yr now. I do love him, but I think we should get seperate apts. I dont want to break up with him but he thinks I does. By the way, I am 7 months pregnant with my first child, his second ...

I've been patiently waiting for her and now she wants to cool things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5810 days ago

24 January 2009 (M) - My question is about my girlfriend with whom I have been for about 7 months. The story is that we met through a mutual friend - her best friend is a work colleague of mine and he invited me out. After a month or two it became apparent that we liked ...

Why has hegone off me sexually? I haven't changed

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5811 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - I am a mother of 3 aged 45. I am attractive and in good shape and very indepedent with a good job. Why has my boyfriend gone off me. Its been 9 months since we last had sex and normally we are so good together. April he took me to a hotel an...

Are these signs that he doesn't want me anymore?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5722 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - me n ma bf have been getting along fine but this last week he has been himself. I met him on Sundaii he ifngered n i pleasured him but then on Mondaii he promised me to wotch a film with me he dint so he sed tuesdaii he dint he sed thursdaii he dint ...

In love, but getting into boring habits!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - soo..seems petty but..! Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year, and were really good friends before that. Hes lovely, attractive, charming, outgoing and I really genuinely love him. We had sex for the first time about 8months in...

Is there a chance he will fall in love with me after all this time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5786 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I am the one who has the boyfriend of four and a half years. We have been living together four of the four and a half years. I am so in love with him. We never fight. We have alot of fun together.We have alot in common. He has been the best ...

How can we reignite the spark in our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2 months now, and now it just seems kinda boring and we dont really have that spark that we use to have. and i dont want to loose her cause i really like her alot. But maybe u can help me recreate that ...

Does romance really fade away so fast?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I am 26 years old and I've been married for a little over a year. We've known each other for 10 years and had several ins and outs with our relationship. He was my first serious relationship at 15 and I've loved him ever since..We have a son whose ...

Is there a chance that my guy will fall in love with me after all this time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

21 January 2009 (F) - I have been living with this guy for four years. We have been seeing each other for 4 and a half years. Everything is good we don't fight we get along. On news years eve of this past year he told me that he was not in love with me. He told me he ...

How do you know when you're tired of someone?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5786 days ago

21 January 2009 (M) - How do you know when your getting tired of being with someone? I've been with this girl for seven months and I think starting to lose my feelings for her. Can someone help?...

He doesn't seem so into me any more and never wants to have sex with me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. I starting living with him this past October which really has been great. My problem is that he never wants to have sex with me. He never compliments me any more or seems interested in my ...

The spark seems to have disappeared from both of us and I can feel the distance...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5814 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, it will be 2 years on the 30th of this month. At the start of our relationship we saw each other all the time, every weekend and some times a couple of days in the week too. That lasted for about...

Do most men lose interest in sex over 40... or just with their wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

20 January 2009 (M) - Do most men lose interest in sex over 40... or just with their wife? I didn't feel like having sex for a long time. I haven't tried looking at other woman but sure I never think of having sex with my wife, or nobody.. What happens to man? Do they ...

I'm afraid I might be getting bored and I have been getting tempted to cheat.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5814 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - I'm in such a good relationship at the moment and want to be with my partner for the rest of our lives, but I'm afraid I might be getting bored and I have been getting tempted to cheat. What can I do to spice up our relationship?? x...

We got into a bad fight and he slapped me!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5815 days ago

20 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. Our relantionship has always been up and down. He has cheated on me couple of times and I've forgived him. Just last Sep we broke up and got back together in late Nov. Things were going good trying to ...

Love my husband so much, not sexually attracted to him, adicted to my lover

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5160 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my husband for 12 year, married for 5. Although we once had very steamy sex and were completely in love and "in like", for me, the attraction is completely gone. It has been for probably 9 years. There's a lot of resentment on my pa...

Is he still interested in me??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

19 January 2009 (F) - I'm having trouble. I don't think my boyfriend is interested in me any more. We've known each other for about 5 years now and dating for about a month now. he doesnt act like he's interested in me any more even though he says he is. For some reason ...

I have been married for nearly 6 years and I am so confused as to whether I want to remain in the marriage.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5816 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have been married for nearly 6 years and I am so confused as to whether I want to remain in the marriage. My husband appears outwardly as a caring man but the longer I know him the more I realise he is actually quite a self centered man who ...

My wife of 34 years has left me...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - Yesterday we should have celebrated 34 years of marriage. Unfortunately last Friday 9th, my wife told me that she was unhappy and simply left! It was a very cold conversation, no discussion, no big row, so she'd obviously been thinking about it for ...

Married with kids and in love with an old lost love

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5815 days ago

18 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 6, We have two kids together a son 16 months and a daughter 4. Recently I have found a lost love online that I have been searching for since before I was married. I love my husband but feel I am ...

We agreed to be friends but it hurts so much

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5811 days ago

18 January 2009 (M) - Hey everyone. I have been in a Long distance relationship for 1.5 years. I am a few years older then the girl, shes going into last year of school now. Pretty much We had a GREAT relationship for the whole time, I was in love with her, and she was ...

My attraction level waning in my relationship. Am I being shallow?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5818 days ago

17 January 2009 (F) - I need help. I care alot about my boyfriend but lately i've been stressing about our relationship. We've been together over 3.5 years and while I care about him, I've begun feeling really frustrated by him. I look at my friend's pictures with their ...

I think he will get tired of all the drama

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5818 days ago

16 January 2009 (F) - Hi, My problem is that i feel like i have become a bad girlfriend and i dont deserve my boyfriend anymore. We been together for 7 months and up until the 5th months things were wonderful, but majority of the problems stems from my side of the r...

Unsure of the girl

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5818 days ago

16 January 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend love each other, but I'm not really sure im the one for her.So, my question is this, What do you do when you're not sure if you are the one for your girlfriend?...

I'm in love with a man and it is not my boyfriend! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5819 days ago

16 January 2009 (F) - I'm in love with a man and it is not my boyfriend. This man makes me feel like I am on the top of the world, he is a amazing person the thing is he is much older than me and has a girlfriend in his hometown; we live in two different states. The th...

I don't feel that "spark" any more between us.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I'm engaged to a great guy. Treats me better than I feel I deserve sometimes. We've been together for 5 years. We met when I was 19 he was 21. He had been engaged to a girl he had dated sense high school. She cheated on him and they broke up. Not ...

Do I finish with my baby's dad?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5819 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I don't know if I should stay with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is a lovely guy, but I don't feel in love with him. We also have a baby together. I would love 2 make it work for all of us. One problem I have is I can't help this feeling of ...

I feel as if our love has faded... gone...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5464 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - Hello, It's been nearly 6 years since I started dating my gf. We've been each other's first serious partner, and, as you might have guessed, we've gone through a lot together. We're almost 22 now. We've had our little troubles, yes. I broke up ...

I just recently started talking to my ex again, but I have a fiance, how do I make the right choice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5818 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I just recently started talking to my ex again, but I have a fiance, how do I chose the right choice? I have been dating my fiance for 2 and a half years now. My family loves and I do, too. But just recently my ex started talking to me again an...

I want to leave because I can't trust him any more.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5818 days ago

15 January 2009 (M) - hello i have a question to ask should i stay or leave him alone. hi i am 24 yr old male from chicago, illinois i have a boyfriend who i have known for almost for two years and i been through so much with him. he had a stroke in feb 2007 when we ...

We can't stand each other but I'm addicted to him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5378 days ago

15 January 2009 (F) - I have known this guy for a year and a half now, we've been going as a couple well we suppose to! Anyway during our relationship we broke up so many countless times, we have an arguement or something over very meaningless stuff and then we break up! ...

I don't want to throw away 20 months of my life, but should I let him go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5819 days ago

14 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had a long discussion the other day. He said he felt empty with life and that he hates his life at the moment. He says he doesnt like living a black and white life and doesnt feel like he has control over his life. He then look ...

My wife of 7 years says she isn't in love with me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5821 days ago

13 January 2009 (M) - I have been married for 7yrs and been together for 11yrs i love my wife to bits but she has recently told me she is no longer in love with me and she doesn't want to be in the relationship any more we have 2 kids aged 3 and 6 i want her and love her ...