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writes:I am 26 years old and I've been married for a little over a year. We've known each other for 10 years and had several ins and outs with our relationship. He was my first serious relationship at 15 and I've loved him ever since..We have a son whose a year old now and yes I got married preganant! The thing is our relationship was always really deep. The really great kind of love that you always dream about.. He's just my perfect man.The problem is lately we've both been super tired with work and our son and its been really hard. But I still love him to death and although it's been a rough couple of months I love my husband dearly. But he isn't romantic any more.. He's just not into the thngs that made me fall in love with him. All the simple things he used to do for me isn't there anymore. I've tried talking to him but it always leads into big arguements because he thinks I'm picking on him and being petty. Little things like a random tex mesaage during the day to say he loves me, all those cute things that used to make my heart flutter has stopped. And I miss it. Am I being to petty? Is this what marriage and responsibilty is all about and do you really give up the romance so early on in life?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tamara Hanley  +, writes (22 January 2009):
It sounds as though you both are suffering from work commitments and also caring from your son. You need to make time for each other as a married couple as well as a working family.Sometimes you just need to break the routine a bit. If you are constantly bombarding your husband to show you affection he will back away further and you both will end up in a rut.Men are not so open to talk about feelings and tend to back away, deal with it on their own and when ready they will open up.Maybe if you give your huband a bit of space will help. Take a step back and look at yourself, are you the person that he fell in love with all those years ago? Maybe you just need to look back on the beginning of the relationship, what he loved about you, what made him romantic and what made him show is love and affection towards you.I would advise you not to push him into showing or proving his love to you, he is already committed to you. Maybe if you give him a bit of time to himself and show him subtle ways that you appreciate and admire him.Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Remember love is a two-way thing...start doing all these little things to him and make him realise how loving you are and i bet he will start doing the same back. Just cos he's not sending you random txt messages doesn't mean you cant be romantic to him.Give it a go - good luck!
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