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writes:How do you tell your partner of 4 years (with whom you have recently moved in with) that your heart is just not in the relationship and that it is time to move on. This will seem really out the blue, and i am so afraid of breaking his heart. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): People always say that moving in before you get married is not a good idea, but do you think you would’ve known what you know now if you havnt moved in with him??? Moving in living like a married couple obviously made you realize that this is not where your heart is, and thank God that you realized this before you got married to him. You need to sit him down and be honest, completely honest, you never mentioned a 3rd party (good for you) so make sure that he understands that you not leaving him for another man, but because of what your heart is telling you.
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reader, Leo Gallagher +, writes (26 January 2009):
Hello, thank you for writing. It is very admirable that you are considering his feelings amidst your upcoming breakup.As in most cases with relationships, open communication is key. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. If you're heart is not in the relationship and you want to move on, tell him.Also, you need to tell him as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the worse it will be, and the more you will break his heart. If you continue to be in this relationship without telling him, you will be deceiving him and yourself.I wish you the best of luck. And who knows, once you are open and honest with him, you may find a way to save the relationship.
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