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writes:I am a mother of 3 aged 45. I am attractive and in good shape and very indepedent with a good job.Why has my boyfriend gone off me. Its been 9 months since we last had sex and normally we are so good together.April he took me to a hotel and we spent quality time alone together. Over the summer I saw a lot of him due to my son. We has been supportive with troubles I had with my son.A few weeks back I said to him I wanted a kiss and a cuddle and he appered horrified and asked had I been drinking.Over xmas did not see him. He attempted new year but I was sleeping.Has he really gone off me - a stuning mixed race national!I have no evidence of another women and I am always quite to pick up on this.Look forward to your comments.Ann-Marie Reply to this Question
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reader, lovesalias  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 It may not have anything to do with you or the way you look. You said you are beautiful with a good paying job and previously had no problems right? How is his life status? Does he make less than you? Is he able to freely conversate with others as you? He may feel inadequate and unworthy to be with you so he makes you feel the way he feels the only way he can by not giving you the attention you desire. Have you had a talk with him to find out what it is that makes him not want to be intimate with you? I am sure that this can be frustrating for you but if any of what I said about him is true then surly this is the problem. You need to help him figure out what is bothering him and if you love him and want things to work out the most important thing is communication however be careful of your tones and how you word what you are saying. You don't want to make him feel any more insecure than he already does and point fingers at him because he will just become more stand-offish. Talk to him about how you feel. You could start with. I feel that we have not been as intimate as we used to like we are growing apart and become room mates rather than lovers...do you feel this way too? or you could say...I feel that we have not been as intimate as we used to is it something that I did or said to you can we talk about this? If you put your words in a form of a question it is less threatening so he doesn't feel defensive in answering. Try these things and see if it helps your situation. I hope this helps..Good Luck!
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