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Archived questions from: December, 2011 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

What do people think of an 18 year old guy dating a 16 year old?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - ok i have been talking to a girl who is 16 and i'm 18 we have basically got straight on and i feel like i have known her for years and we both have basically shown we like each others personallity and like each other. id like to ask her out and ...

Real deal or is he blowing me off???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - Hello, I am talking to a guy who is 11 yrs oldcer than me who has been divorced and has kids. He is 36 and I am 25. He seems to be a really nice guy, and has a job in law enforcement which requires him to be on-call at all times. When we first ...

Is he more than a friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - Ok, so after 4 years after my husband's death, I think I finally found a guy worth my attention. I was online doing the dating thing and stumbled across a guy who I went to high school with 20 years ago. I asked how he has been doing, and we started ...

I want to be more proactive with guys. Should I just go for it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - I asked this question last week http://www.dearcupid.org/question/have-any-of-you-felt-hopeless-or-clueless.html I saw this guy a few days ago at a friend's house when he finished work. I didn't stay long when he arrived given it being 1-2am but...

How do girls really feel about shy boys?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - Girls tell me that they love me but they say that's as a friend. What is their fucking problem? 2nd Question: what do girls feel for shy boys? ...

Would texting him at midnight on NYE be a good move? we fell out, but he said to try things again in 2012

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - i really like this boy and we've been meeting up, texting and stuff like that. we fell out but we are ok now, he said to try things in 2012.. seeing as its new years eve i was thinking of texting him how i felt at midnight? but i wouldnt know what ...

To text or not to text? And if I do text her, what should I say to her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4715 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - Hello! I am a 16 year old guy and I've been working at a pizza place (Donatos) since I was 14. I got a girl's number when I was working the other day, she wrote it on the back of a receipt that I gave her to sign (and she tipped me xD). She was real...

Is it too soon to send a flirtatious text?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - Hey there, I have just started seeing someone and I am wondering if it is too soon to send him a flirtatious text? We have gone on two dates, both of which were really fun and I think I might really like him. I have never had a real relationship ...

Who is better for me? who will be better long term?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - so i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, it has been a rocky relationship from the start, so much cheating, he's cheated on me and i have cheated on him, but he changed and became a better person these last 7 months, but then about a ...

I need advice on getting into a relationship with a divorced dad with young children!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - I am in a bit of a strange situation, one that I never thought I would have to face. I have recently been introduced to a very lovely man, 32 years old (I am 28). He is very lovely, totally gorgeous and seems to be a very good catch. But, he i...

Ways to get over the crush who rejected you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) - Best and most effective ways to get over the crush who rejected you? It feels like I've tried everything but it still doesn't seem to help. I did what most people would say; "Cut ALL contact". And now a friend of mine told me that this girl h...

Create A "Plan-List" For Your Relationship In 2012!

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30 December 2011 (M) - Are you looking forward to 2012? Have you already created goals and resolutions for the upcoming year? I know that I have. I plan to offer lots of help and advice to more couples looking to have a good relationship. But I also must make a plan...

Would it be harsh of me to tell my b/f he can't move in with me till he finds a job?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hi all heres the thing i wrote recently asking advice about telling my bf im moving in alone as hes unemployed but i have recently found out im pregnant i work 40 hours n he dont. Now im stuck my parents kicked me out which is fine ive gt money ...

First just friendship and after a few years it is suddenly love?

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30 December 2011 (F) - ok I have 2 friends to who this happened: a guy fell in love with a girl but the girl just wants friendship about 2 years later the girl also wanted a relationship. it lasted about 8 months and guess who ended it? the girl! now nearly the same hap...

Our almost non existent sex life....are all these factors adding to that problem?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4712 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) - Dear all, I hope you had a good Christmas and are prepared for the coming year. I need some relationship advice. I am 27 and my girlfriend is 28, we are dating for 1.5 years now and moved together about 5 months ago. We are both in grad school f...

How do I stop this guy's invasive presence?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - OK, maybe this is a stupid question, especially at my age, but here it is: I met this guy exactly three times, once when we met at a party, once we had coffee and once we went together at a workshop with a lot of other people, and now he is writing ...

An ex wife, an Autistic son, a crazy ex girlfriend, and another son-that's my B/f's life. Any thoughts on how best to handle this situation?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for nearly 2 years. We were talking about marriage..etc. He has been divorced for over 10 years and has a 10 year old Autistic son from his previous marriage. He is a dedicated father and pays ...

My fiance doesn't want to disown the child that he is said to have fathered with this dubious woman, for fear of hurting the child!! What do I do?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Could anyone who has been through this help. My fiance has a child. It appears that no one in the world believes the child is his. The mother became pregnant within a month of them getting together. It has now surfaced that she was sleeping with ...

I honestly don't know how to date again.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Ok the thing is that this whole dating thing is all new to me. I was with my ex since I was 19,broke up when I was 25 I'm 27 now and I've been single for 2 years and I've been pretty much scared to date.. I tried going out with this guy like months ...

B/f can't have children, when I asked him if I changed my mind about wanting them, he said "go find someone else"

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I met a guy who had a vasectomy and I didn't want kids either so we were dating for 2 years but I've asked him recently what if I change my mind and he says go find someone else. Should I go now or wait and see if my feelings change? I felt kind of ...

I feel like a closet girlfriend. Is it time to move on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hi I'm shy slightly overweight and I've been seeing my bf of 17 months regularly. He comes over between 1 and 3 times a week, lives just 4 miles away and we love each other. I love him because he's attentive in many ways, has a lively personali...

Swore I wouldn't fall for someone since I'm leaving for the military, but it happened anyway! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) - Hi - I am leaving for the military in just under 4 months. I am older (mid 20's) and have been working for this for years and am dead set on going. About eight months ago, I made the decision then and there not to date. I wasn't in a relationship, ...

Why do I have such trouble getting boyfriend to talk to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I have ai have such trouble when it comes to boyfriends not talking to me (like not answering my texts and such) I tell myself they are busy or they aren't at their phone. Or something has come up. But then I check their online social network page ...

Can anyone think of a way we can talk my Indian girlfriend's parents into letting us date?

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30 December 2011 (M) - Ok so I am 15 and I have a girlfriend who is also 15. We've been going out for 7 months and I really want her parents to let her date but they say she can't. She is Indian and her parents don't believe in dating. I am american and my parents let me ...

Is it normal to suddenly feel insecure in a new relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I am a 29 year old woman with a not-so-great track record with relationships. I have not been in a normal relationship for several years. I have been dating a wonderful, kind man for almost six months now. I took things very slowly in the beginning, ...

My BF's teenage child is coming to live with us - But I don't think I'm ready for that!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I am 28 yrs old and have been dating a guy who is 43 for nearly 4 yrs now. He was married before and has one kid who is 16 now, he is divorced about 13yrs. My problem is the ex took his kid out of state over a yr ago and just a couple of weeks ago ...

I started gagging when I tried oral sex on my Bf, my eyes got watery, I felt like I was gonna throw up. Now my Bf's very upset with my reaction, and doesn't want to try ever again

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - My bf and I are both in our first serious relationship, and also inexperienced. I am more shy while hes a bit more adventurous and doesn't mind trying new things regarding physical intimacy. We haven't gone all the way, because I dont want to. But ...

Partying causing my relationship going down hill

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4711 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) - Okay so heres the thing, ive been dating this girl for a while and im certain that i love her but i have some problems (problems which she knew about prior to the relationship starting because i dated her sister before her) and the problems are that ...

He's my ex. I still love him. Why does he keep me as his FWB? How do I heal myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hello, I will make this brief. I am a 23 year old female, who just got out of a relationship with a 22 year old male. We'll call him K. He and I had a lot happen between us that was mainly my doing, I was not ready for a relationship since I had ...

I’m just wondering if I should wish my ex a Happy New Year

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4716 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hiya, Me and my ex were together for a year (my first boyfriend and the one I lost my virginity to) and we broke up the at the beginning of October this year~ it was mutual between us and he called me up to say it~ we had both gone off to differen...

Is my boyfriend being thoughtless by refusing to change his facebook status?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Hi, I was having some issues with my bf because of his ex and his friendship and working with her. Anyway he swore to me that although he did really like her, they didn't really have a great relationship, that they didn't have a connection l...

My younger man wont pull his weight!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - OMG!! I really do not know what to do? My situation is cunning, baffaling and powerful. I am a 37 young African American Female who is a college graduate, hard working, intelligent, parent. Who tries to do the best in all situations. My problem is ...

What exactly goes through a women's head when they allow me to keep treating them like trash?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

29 December 2011 (M) - I am in awe at the way women let me treat them and I just don't get it. Ill see a girl I like and treat her like complete garabage but she still chases after me so I continue to do it because it works every time but I've had enough, I just don'...

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend will not tell his parents. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Dear cupid. Im 20 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. my bf of 2 years. still has not told his parents and I dont know what to do. I gave him option to leave if he wanted and he decided to stay but is still making no effort. His parents need to know ...

He cheated with me, now I am paranoid about people finding out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Well i met this guy the other night and the first time we met we connected like he was the one to say this too me and that we couldn't stop looking at each other... The next night him and his girlfriend who is one of my good mates came around to m...

He said to try things again in 2012?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4710 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - i've been talking to this boy, texting, faceboook, meeting up.. it was all going great until we had a little bit of an arguement but we both said were sorry and all. he started talking to a few girls on his facebook, liking there photos etc.. his ...

I became too controlling and she wanted out. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

29 December 2011 (M) - i have being going out for a lass for 4months it was all good until we started rushing things abit n seeing each other everynight. thats when i started making mistakes n became over protective of her i deleted her male friends numbers of er phone n ...

No present for Christmas and not being enthusiastic about New Year's Eve. Is this a reason to dump the guy I've been with for 3 months?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - No present for Christmas and not being enthusiastic about New Year's Eve. Is this a reason to dump the guy I've been with for 3 months? We were casual for the first month and a half. Then we agreed to date exclusively. He swears he wants to be w...

Should I just take those months off and leave those crazy people in my family behind or should I listen to their opinion and give up on my fiancé?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Hey there! My mom passed away last spring and it's still pretty hard for me to bear. Plus, my fiancé had to move abroad (2hr plane ride) for work and although we get to see each other every other week, i miss him incredibly. I also miss my mom like...

Should I make the first move? Or should he?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - I need some help. I am in love with a close friend but I don't know what to do about it. I am a girl but I am like 4 years older than him so who should make the first move? Who should make the first move me a girl or him a guy 4 years younger ...

I just went on a vacation and fell in love with the waiter

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - OK I am going to sound absolutely ridiculous. I just went on a vacation and my waiter and I fell in love. He works every day on the cruise ship and gets only 1-2 months off a year, and when he is off he goes home to northern africa. I can go see him ...

Puzzling male behavior with this guy! Male advice appreciated!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Well, this guy invited me out once, during the date he arranged to go to the cinema together, then we go to the cinema and he doesn't really talk a lot. then he suggests to have some dinner. then he makes me pay for everything. no problem, I get it, ...

My boyfriend wants these poisonous "friends" back into his life, but I feel as if my life is being turned upside down again. Am I being unreasonable?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - I have been with my partner for 4 years and we have had a great relationship - he's stuck by me through everything even when my mum and brother passed away 2 years ago and everything was hectic. We are now living together, we both work and are very ...

I want to move out. Without him coming too. But how do I tell my BF this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Hi everyone here my problem my boyfriend and i been together for 4 years since we been together he hasn't worked. But i work 40 hours a week. we said from the start we.want to move in together but i'm thinking of moving into a studio alone for a wh...

I like him, but don't know if he's too messed up to make it worth pursuing. Should I?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - My lab partner in my chemistry lab is probably one of the best looking guys I've ever met. The problem is that he doesn't appear, on the surface, to care about anything. He goes to lectures hungover, currently drunk or, on a few occasions, clearly ...

How do I get my family to show my boyfriend the same respect that the other men in the family get?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - When my boyfriend tried to help with some clearing up my mom was icredibly rude to him instead of just saying no thanks. My sister is also sort of rude and sarcastic when she speaks to him, and the attitude seems to have rubbed off on her husband ...

I don't have any female friends to interpret this girl, so can you lot shine some light on this please..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (M) - Hi all :) I have a friend who ive known for a good 5 years, although last 3 years we only meet every few months due to university. I went out with with her and few friends on a night out. When we got back home from the night out, i went into h...

I don't know what to do I just can't seem to make the break.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - I have been having relationship problems for the past 15 months. It all started with me going away on a hen weekend. Upon my return i told my partner who i live with that i would like to take our relationship to the next level. His response was ...

He prefers to spend NYE with his mates rather than with me

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - My question is quite a short one, and I’d love to hear lots of opinions on this – since I have been with my bf I have always felt that he likes to be with his friends and not me NYE. We tend to spend Xmas together and although last year we were ...

He didn't tell his ex he is TAKEN so she keeps texting him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and we have a great bond. I trust him fully and trully. He is very honest with me and tells me everything about him and his only ex. They have been together for 2 years and so. He thinks that ...