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Archived questions from: 15 December, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

How much does appearance affect overall attractiveness?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5460 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - The basics are simple, I'm a little over 300 lbs(mostly fat), I'm a virgin, and I'm 25 years old. I've been losing weight rapidly, lost 25 lbs in 2 months and continuing to lose for my own self esteem. My question is, do girls judge a gu...

I'm dating a man who seems geniune, but I want outside perspective

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15 December 2009 (F) - I have started dating this guy and he is really nice and it feels he is very interested. We met through online dating. He is 46 and has been single since last year. He was with a woman for 15 years and she could not have children and he wanted them ...

Should I tell my Dad I'm dating a black guy when he said he wouldn't approve?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - I'm dating a black guy, we're both 16. My mom is fine with it, but my dad has always told me he wants me to date white guys only, which I think is awful for him to say. So I haven't told my dad yet. I'm worried how he'll react. Race has not come...

Why won't he spend his money on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend recently lost his job, and is now on unemployment, so we don't go out as much as we used to. If we do go out, I usually pay for myself, and he pays for himself. It is just expected for me to pay for myself now, and that's fine,but I ...

Are my feelings for her real? What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5460 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Over the last 12 months i have lost an amazing amount of weight (6 stone in total) and all by doing keep fit classes with 1 fitness instructor. I do 3- 4 of her classes a week. Because of this i have to feel alot closer to her and have a lot of ...

I caught him flirting with another girl, now he's unsure whether he wants to see me again!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5434 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Ive recently started seeing this guy that I met at school. We liked each other then but nothing ever happened. 15 years on we finally get it together so there is a huge amount of expectation that I feel I cant live up to. Ive been hurt this y...

I love him but don't know if this will go any further, what do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - I am in love with a guy i work with. He says that he will not date anyone he works with because of problems it has created for him in the past. after i expressed how i felt about him we became even closer friends. he'll call me around one in the m...

I'm confused! Does he want us to get back together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5460 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - I'm still confused me and my partner split up four months ago we have a child and one due anyday he's really good with our son, we haven't talked about getting back together for a few weeks but the thing that drives me crazy is he still got a tattoo ...

I need help to drive my boyfriend wild!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Hey all! I'm an 18 year old female and I was just wondering if anyone had some tips for me. My boyfriend is great and he does things to me that just drive me crazy (in the good way of course) and i was just wondering if anyone had some secret things ...

Overwhelmed by insecure, needy boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4448 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - This is going to be long, so I apologize in advance and thank you for reading this. I am a 21-year old, divorced single mother and full time student. When I was married, I had been cheated on multiple times, lied to, called names, neglected, and m...

I get an erection too easily!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - hi. um i want know how stop an erection when im with my gf? even putting my arm around her waist when we watch tv gives me a woody what do ido?...

Do guys always take action when they get a hard on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - hey guys, ok my question is mainly for guys. I was just wondering if when u guys get hard do u always act on it! like the other day me and bf where sitting on the couch kissing and just chatting away when i could feel him get hadr but he never tr...

Is my boyfriend backing off?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - I'm so confused that I really don't know where to start. Basically my boyfriend's best friend came on to me around a month ago, he got quite pushy but I turned him down repeatedly even though I am a woman and i'm not blind, he is a good look...

I'm scared my family will disown me if I marry my bf.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5416 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - hi, i'm 25 years old muslim girl. i'm currently in a 5-year relationship with the man of my dreams, he is african and a christian. he treats me with respect, i have never met a man who is as driven, understanding, supportive and kind as he is. and ...

Why cant I move on?! I just want to be happy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Why Cant I just get over him?! He treated me like I was nothing I knew this and now I know what a stronghold he had over me.I have no contact with him at all, yet still some part of me still melts when he walks past. I hate that part of mys...

Does he want me back but he's afraid? How to encourage him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5460 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - T. and i were together as a couple for 7 months. Before that we both were alone for 3-4 years (we had sex with other people but not real relationships). We are both very attractive and social people, we picked each other right away, had a "one m...

Women's feelings about "needing time"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - i cant really make this clear, because im not seeking a clear answer, i just want a generalization from female members, what are reasons for a girl telling a man she wants time to work on herself? I ask because ive recently had a neighbor with whom ...

How do I get my girlfriend to play hard to get?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - I've been with my GF for several years. how can I get her to flirt, be coy or evasive, and make me work for her? I've secretly researched how to make myself sexier and it definitely works on her. Currently, I can get any sex act I want at the ...

Stimulating my boyfriend...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Hi can anyone help me. I have met a new guy and we have had intercourse on a couple of occasions but he has hinted that he would like a hand job. One problem. He doesnt seem to have any skin to pull up and down over his penis. he has a plump shiney ...

I've really messed up, is there any chance of fixing this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - I've messed up with a girl I care deeply for, is there any chance of fixing this? A girl I've been friends with for six years has recently become more interested in me. We've had the beginnings of a long distance (2 hours by car) relationship, an...

Where do I begin with dating/socialising?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - Hi! I've recently become very interested in girls. I'm going out a lot more now in the hope that something might happen, or I might meet someone. But i'm not sure where to go now. Is my urge for sex wrong? Looking on a possible opportunity in the f...

I wish he would treat me better and be there for me as a friend! Is that to much to ask?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - How can I move on when whatever I do he still talks to me? I and my friend/crush have been having some problems. He ignores me and treats his other friends better than me. So I’ve been confused. I already told him that I like him and he acted nor...

What should I do with this girl? I think she still has not gotten over her ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - I met this girl a while back and we have dated a little, hooked up a couple of times and ive been to her place a few times, but we never went passed kissing and everytime I asked to stay over she refused. I asked her why and she says she broke u...

Are these normal customs in Switzerland or am I being taken for a fool?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Hi Thanks all of your time. Dear All I with my BF have been together around 2 years. We are stay together about 2 years, He is a Swiss guy (from Switzerland), and I am Asian girl (Chinese). We were break up with 2 month+ ago. I was confused and...

Will my dependency on sex workers affect any future relationships with women?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5017 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - I'm worried that my dependancy on sex workers might one day make it impossible for me to be in a real relationship with a woman I see strippers about 2x a week and visit prostitutes 3-4x a month. i also call sex phone lines or watch pornogra...

What should I do if talking to her about our problems doesn't work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - I've been dating a very sweet loving and charismatic girl for just under 6 months now (6 months exactly on the 27th of December). I'm really worried about our compatibility; although I sincerely am in love with her, we share almost zero common ...

She is more concerned about the age difference than I am, how can I help her get over it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - Im a 21 year old and I met this beautiful waitress at a local club(didnt know her age at the time). She had a great personality and she was really easy to talk to. I could really tell that she was into me so i asked her for her number and she asked ...

Ever since we have fallen out he ignores me, how do I move on from this?

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15 December 2009 (F) - The guy I cared deeply for and I had a falling out recently. I met him in 2008 and we were briefly "dating" for a few months. At first we saw each other a lot and he would always bring me around his friends. He was affectionate and seemed like a ...

Did our date go well?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - This post has more than one q wrapped in it. I recently had a 2nd date w. this guy.He made a candlelit dinner. there was a wine, dessert and we watched a horror movie,chatted and just hung out. He was a gentleman and I was the one he prett...

In love with a dj

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - there is this popular radio station in my city and i have been chatting with one of its well know dj for 4 years via emails,we became very good friend we know almost everything about each other. we call and text but when have never met and wh...

How can I help my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5462 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, looking for a little advice here. My boyfriend of a few months/friend of several years has a lot of general issues. I love him dearly and I'm sticking with him, I'd just like some advice on how to help him. He has mild anxiety and ...

Found messages on his phone am I being jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - I've been together with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. When I knew him, he was somewhat of a player and just liking to get attention from the ladies and stuff like that. I didn't really think anything of it at that time because I didn't expect ...

What turns women on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - We all know what the female sexual assets are that make guys drool. They're pretty much all physical ones. However, guys' sexual assets can be intangible. Just wondering, what are the intangible male sexual assets that make girls go, 'I Want'? ...

Guys is this sweet or weird?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Guys is this sweet or weird? So I am a broke college student and I have no money to buy my boyfriend of almost two months a Christmas gift. (We were close friends two months prior) He insists on getting me something... but I keep telling him n...

Serious doubts... or marriage jitters?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Hi, i have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we are making plans to get married. i have known him and his family my whole life, i love him and so do my parents wich is a big plus. But for a couple of days now i have been feeling really ...

Why do I need so much love shown to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - I am a 23 year old male that finally found the person that ive always been looking for but for some reason i always feel as if she doesn't love me when i know she really does. she is really independent and self confident and i admire her sooooo ...

Help! My fling was talking to my boyfriend!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - I mistakenly diverted incoming calls with my fling boyfriend's cell number because I didnt want him to call me while I was with my boyfriend. This fling is also a colleague and I have to explain to him tomorrow at work why he was talking with a man ...

Tips on taking steps?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - Okay so i've been in a relationship for a while and my boyfriend wants to do some stuff. I've been fingered before and that's it. I started giving a guy a handjob but had to quit. My current boyfriend is older than me and i'm nervous about doing ...