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writes:Hi can anyone help me. I have met a new guy and we have had intercourse on a couple of occasions but he has hinted that he would like a hand job. One problem. He doesnt seem to have any skin to pull up and down over his penis. he has a plump shiney purple head at the end of his penis. It dont look anything like my two previous boyfriends. Where would i start, i dont. There dont seem to be any skin. It would look bad if i asked him.any advice.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 Well, since legal age in Great Britain is apparently 16, then I'll respond.
All you need to do with a circumcised male is to take a grip a little lower down the shaft. There will be plenty of skin to give a sliding motion with any normal circumcised guy. Add some moisture by spitting into your hand if you like. Otherwise, this is no problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): You probably never had sex before him w/a man who is circumsized. That's why he doesn't have skin because skin goes down after circumsizion. That's o.k. you can still do a hand job, it's also o.k. to tell him that you need a little instruction on that. Men ussually don't mind explaining these things.If I can mention one thing here for aunts when they response. Intimidating frases like" you have so little respect for yourself' or 'you really rushed into sex w/him' are unnessesary if not harmfull for a young person self esteem,and will prevent a poster from sharing her thoughts here on this site again.Advises about safe sex are off the topic here, thats not what the question was about here at all. I am sure w/all the propaganda in school about HIV and AIDs, poster is very well informed about the decease.Hope i answered your question, dear poster. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): Why would it look bad if you asked him? If youre comfortable having sex with him you should be able to talk to him about this. Theres nothing to be embarrassed about just because you dont know certain things. If you dont know you must ask. His foreskin has been removed, so there is no skin to pull down. You will need some lube over the end of the penis thats where it will be sensitive and he will feel the sensations hes looking for. He will let you know how he likes it done. As mentioned though, do use precautions like condoms to begin with. If he looks like a steady boyfriend after a while, ask him to get checked out at a STD clinic and you go too, do that lass, before you just rely on the pill for protection. And remember you can pick up HIV and other STD`s by oral sex so take proper care and look after yourself.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 December 2009):
Wow you really rushed into sex, if you don't know anything about him, and are too scared to ask.
I really really hope you are using condoms.
The reason this guy looks different is because he has been circumcised. This means he's had the skin removed. People have it done as a baby for religious reasons or in their early teens because it is causing them problems.
You give a hand job in the same way you would for any other guy, just get some moisturiser, and use your hand to make him feel good.
But can I suggest you figure out why you have so little respect for yourself that you have sex with guys without knowing them well enough to talk to them about sex?
Good Luck!! xx
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