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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

One day he's really attentive, the next day he ignores me! What's up with this guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I have absolutely no idea what to think about this guy. This guy is the co-owner of a bistro that is next to my work, a place that I eat at when I work (I started because there's nowhere else to eat over a 30min. break in the area!) I'm 18 and I ...

Insecure about my Vagina's appearance! Help!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - okay big time help needed! i have really really really low self esteem when it comes to men. Not about meeting them, but 'otherwise'. Whenever i am getting intimate i never allow a man to go near my bottom half because i have a vagina that has ...

How do I find a good strong man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - How can I find a good, emotionally strong man for a shoulder to cry on, hold me, listen, etc? I'm 5oish woman in southern California, USA....

Speedo watcher

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I am in love with a guy at the gym who wears speedos! I can't take my eyes off him when he gets in or out of the pool. He is tall and thin but looks incredible in those skimpy speedos. When he gets out of the pool, I have asked him some question...

I just found out that he has a girlfriend, I'm distraught, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Ive been talking to this guy from ireland on msn for about 7 months and im really in love with him. He told me he really wants to come see me and that hes saving up to see me. I never btw pushed him to come visit me it was all him and his idea. I ...

I'm 16, and my 20 year old boyfriend has 3 kids, am I in over my head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I am sixteen and seventeen in under a month. I am with a guy who i've been with now over a month he is 20. And even though it's only been a month i am really falling for him, he is amazing when i'm with him he makes me feel happy. The only problem ...

I don't know what to say anymore after texting all the time!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - hello, well wen ever i text mt girlfriend in the morning and i really enjoy it but wen we get later in the day , say about 6ish, things kinda slow down and im tired of texting her. every day since Christmas ive been texting her, dont get me wrong...

He wants to be with me 24/7

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I need some help my boyfriend follows me every were evan if I go in the kitchen or to my bedroom iv evan spoke to him about it and he's says he's wants to be by my side 24 7 but I need my own space and can't evan have that I think he's obsessed and ...

I love her but her behaviour and mood swings are making me question it all, please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - I need some really good advice. Please... My fiance and I have been engaged for about 6 months. We met one year ago. I realize most people will think that was way too soon to get engaged. It was a little fast but i don't regret it. I love her d...

Problematic choices and I don't know which one to pick!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5473 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Hi, i'm looking for some guidance. The scenario involves 2 guys; lets call them Nick and Andy. I've known Nick for over a year, me and him have got very similar personalities and get on like a house on fire! Although, we have drifted apart ...

Her parents are keeping her from me but I love her, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - my girlfriend's parents are against the whole idea of having a relationship. Recently, they saw my relationship status on facebook with her and caught us. Her cell phone has been taken away, and she has been locked up in her own house. Things have ...

What deos it me when a guy says he doesn't want a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - ive been talking to this guy i met on plenty of fish.. on his profile it says hes looking for dating.. he calls me alot even though hes on holiday.. he have good conversations and make eachother laugh.. but he says hdoesn'tnt want a relations...

Attracted to another guy, but I love my boyfriend, help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5207 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I need help. I have a boyfriend who i have been dating for 11 months. i love him so much and i really don't want to lose him but a few days ago i went to my friends birthday party and there was this boy there who i have met a few times and have ...

My boyfriend appeard to throw up after I told him about my past! Why??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - ok so last night i was on the phone with my boyfriend and we were talking about something, and he asked for a pic of me in a new shirt i had told him about wearing it and a thong only, i told him maybe then asked for one of him in boxers and asked ...

I recently found out that my boyfriend is married with kids...and dating other women!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - well i have a big prob i don't know what to do. I have been dating this guy for nearly year and a half now, About 8 months in the relationship i found out he is married and had kids. I was so upset. I asked him about it which he denies at first an...

I lost interest in a lady fast

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - Please i dont know what to do or say to make a girl say 'YES' instantly for a relationship.I usually lost interest when she decide to play hard to get....

He is sweet to me but his friends call me bad names

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Helo I'm Chloe. I'm 13. I've got a boyfriend. Me and him have been fine. Getting along perfectly. We have been together for nearly 7 weeks. Not a single argument. But his friends are always calling me spotty and ugly. I do have a major spot pr...

She's controlling me with sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - So I am dating this girl and we have been have sex for a awhile but one day she randomly decided that she wouldn't have sex anymore because she's in a bad mood indefinitely. I feel its a power play on her part and so I told her to enjoy her time and ...

I don't love her, like she loves me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - Hey I need some advice, i've been going out with this girl for almost 9 months now and she is in love with me, at one point I thought I loved her too, which I do but i'm not in love with her. We get in fights pretty often over little things, but ...

The player who fell in love

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - okay so there is this guy and he told everyone of my friends that he liked me/loved me/would never get over me. he didnt know that i really liked him too but he knew i was attracted to him (we wanted to hook up) but since he told my friends, he ...

Am I jealous?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - hey, im 14 and in a relationship with the most beautiful girl ever. and wen ever we talk about my best friend i would get jealous. so in the past she ask me if he was going out with someone for a friend and he was so i said yeah. well the point...

Don't know what to get for 2 year anniversary

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - I am in the longest relationship I've ever been in and this is a busy time for us. There's christmas, we both have birthdays in January and then there's valentine's day. In the midst of all that is our anniversary (of the day we met). For our 1...

How can I be less predictable?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - Hi, i've been seeing someone for 3 months and recently, we've been more honest with eachother; like noting flaws that the other has. She told me I can be predictable, i've been told this before, and I want to work on it because i'm determined to ...

Loving 2 guys at once but cant choose what to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - There are 2 guys I like Corbin and Kyle. I have known both for 3 years and I love them both. Corbin tells me flat out that he loves me and what not but I'm not sure if he wants me for me or for my body. Kyle told me he likes me but when I'm around ...

Can't stop thinking about wanting a boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Well i really need help well i am 14 nearly 15 and lately i have been getting this feel that i want a boyfriend and i know that there will be plenty of time for that when i am older but i dont know how to stop this feeling because i cant stop thin...

How do I get my parents to compromise with a little freedom?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - my problem is having a boyfriend. My parents won't allow it. I'm 15 in my last year school, and he's my first boyfriend. I really like him, i usually don't pay attention to stuff like that, but i felt that he's different. He likes me for who i am...

Lied about my age .. again :(

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Help :( I have always had a problem with revealing my true age, I guess it relates back to primary and high school days where I was bullied and I guess I have had a "make up for lost time" kind of attitude towards life. I am currently 26 and...

How do I get over this stupid guy!!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Hey so this summer I worked at a camp from june to july. I met this guy that I had seen 2 years previous who I had thought was cute when I was at the camp as a camper. He was my CC (camp crush).A camp crush is just an innocent crush campers have on ...

I don't want to blow this chance to date her

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - i have been working in a supermarket over christmas a temporary job. i got the job because my mum works in the same shop full time. i have really enjoyed it and one of the first people i met was this 18 year old girl i don't believe in love at first ...

He is sweet but lacks the initiative, does he really care?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Which one says the truth about my ex who I recently reconciled with? When I am with him, he doesn't want me to do anything but sit or lie beside him. He stares at me all the time and like to cuddle the whole day. When I am not beside him, he g...

Attracted to a colleague who has suddenly turned cold

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - im sitting here needing advice-this is so sad. i met a guy at my job two months ago-i cant explain it but we clicked and get along so well-we have coffee breaks etc-he says he likes working with me too and we had a coffee out once and i sent a t...

I don't have any parenting skills and she has a 2 year old...should there be some instant bond or something?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - I have met a old flame from school, I havnt seen her in 6years. When we met the same chemistry was still there and we hit it off as though we hadn't stopped seeing each other all those years! She has recently came out of a relationship as have I. ...

Its complicated...please some objective input?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Hi there I've searched for and read so many of the emails from guys in the similar situation to me. I can never find one "relationship situation" that is exact to my particular situation, but at the end of the day, the expected answers I will g...

In love but the feeling isn't mutual, help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - I am in love with someone but she ignores me and I get the feeling that she just doesn't like me. What can i do, please help?...

Does a woman become clingy after losing her Virginity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - They say that when a woman loses her virginity to a man she becomes clingy. Is this true in all cases? In addition what are the other signs that a woman is truly a virgin, one pattern I have noticed is her behavior to make elaborate fantas...

I'm dating my teacher, and I'm confused, Help!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5113 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I have had this enormous crush on this teacher of mine for almost 3 years. Actually it's not just a crush, it has turned into an obsession kinda. I've finally worked up the courage to tell him of my feelings a few weeks ago because I just REALLY ...

Why doesn't he take me out on a proper date?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Its kind of difficult to know where to start. I think that i am head over heels in love with my friend(male)but he doesn't seem to share the feeling. We have known each other for nearly a year but been really good friends for the past 6 months. I ...

Is our relationship ever going to settle down? Is he ever going to change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I met my bf when we both werent looking for a relationship. we never wanted to be apart, he made me feel wonderful, he was inspired to change his outlook on life, we were both so alike(and still are in some ways). passionate, kind, thoughtful...

Embarassed by drunken friend in front of my date! Will he want to meet up again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I had a date tonight w/ this guy but had canceled before.So despite the fact I had a killer migraine tonight - We got together (i didnt want to cancel again n come off as a flake).I had an obligation to be a des. driver for a friend later in the ...

Attracted to a straight man, I am bi sexual, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - If you have an attraction towards a straight man but he is unaware that you are a bi sexual, what do you do?.... i have a real close friend that i do a lot with ( getting girls, playing sports etc.) but i'm attracted to him more than i think im ...

Her kiss felt different to his, I can't understand why, advice please?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I'm 14, female and bi. A while ago me and my closest friend who's a girl kissed (So I could "experiment"-I told her that, but I actually just wanted to kiss her) A few weeks later a guy I've known for almost a year randomly wanted to hang out. We ...

Should I ask out my cousin?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Okay, this is a... predicament, so i will remain anonymous for obvious reasons- Here's the story: I recently traveled out of state to visit aunts, uncles, cousins, and so on... I was hanging out with one of my male cousins, when two girls ...

She doesn't want to risk our friendship so how do I move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - I have known a girl for about 6 years. I have always liked her. She tells me I am her best friend. Even though I have feelings for her we have both dated different people, but we're both currently single. She seems to date guys older than her. ...

Why doesn't she talk to me anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - There is this shy girl, who happens to be the sister of one of my best friends. I’ve known the two of them (off and on) for the past nine years. Back then she wasn’t so shy. She would talk to me all the time and play games with me and her brother. ...

Is he giving me a second chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I dated a guy for 2 months. He broke it off and said he wanted to stay friends. So it took about 3 weeks and he took me to lunch was good had good conversation. And now were gonna be going to the movies in the next week...now is he maybe giving it a ...

Should I see him again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I am so confused! I just don't know whether I should go out on a date with this guy I saw over the summer. I didn't tell him that my mother died just two months shorter before I met him and he didn't tell me he broke up with his ex just two months ...

Am I wasting my time if he doesn't love me yet?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - hi everyone, me and my bf have been dating a bit over three months now, and have pretty much spent every day together (we attend the same college). on christmas, he left for a trip to asia. on this day, i also emailed him telling him that i loved...

Age difference and disapproving parents?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - i decided to go back to college and further my education. I am a bit older than normal college age (late 30's). While there I've met a woman that I fell for. She tells me that she has the same feelings for me, but her family disapproves of it ...

Does a player ever change?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I just started a dating this guy i liked for a while (lets call him D) but the problem is another guy i know(M)is causing problems. I have never dated M or did any more then flirt with him and play games with him but we didnt really talk as much the ...

Are these feelings wrong for me to have?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - i am in love with my boyfried we have been together for over a yr. i was talking to another guy when we hooked up. i recently chatted w/him and i kind of feel like i want to talk more to him. i feel quilty b/c i like i wouldn't mind seeing him again ...