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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've messed up with a girl I care deeply for, is there any chance of fixing this?A girl I've been friends with for six years has recently become more interested in me. We've had the beginnings of a long distance (2 hours by car) relationship, and I recently went to visit her. My roommates, while good intentioned, had become nosy and wanted me to "seal the deal" with this girl already. On my way back from the visit, I told my roommates that I had indeed slept with her, which was a blatant lie.Here's where my guilty conscience flared up. For some reason I told the girl that I had told my roommates we slept together so that I could avoid all of the pressure / comments about it when I got back. She responded with "I'm not really sure what to think right now." I've since come clean with my roommates and told her that I did. I've apologized profusely, but I'm just letting her be until I hear from her.I don't normally cave to peer pressure like this, and she knows me to be a better guy than this. I don't take other people's privacy lightly, but for some reason I just cracked this time. I'm wondering if I might have messed up badly enough that there's no recovering from this? Can a track record of 6 good years go spiraling down the drain because of one stupid lie? I'm sick about the whole thing, and this waiting is absolutely killing me.Thanks.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 December 2009):
 Hun, by telling your friends that you had slept with her infers that she is 'easy' or 'loose'...
Your sex life or lack of it with this girl has absolutely NOTHING to do with your friends... it is not a competition, and I am sure that eventhough you told her what you had said, she will probably not trust you enough because for all she knows, if she did sleep with you, you might broadcast to all your friends exactly how she is in bed....
The best you can do is apologise and then wait and see if she still wants to be with you.... if she doesnt, well then use this as a lesson!
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