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Big Questions: Help and advice

How can I stop thinking about this teacher?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2615 days ago

31 October 2017 (F) - How do I get over thinking about a former teacher. I’m 21 years old and ten years ago, I had a huge crush on my teacher. Whenever I felt I needed to talk to someone he was always there. He was also the reason I became so close with my best friend ...

I'm not being asked out by suitable men!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

30 October 2017 (F) - I'm 31 and single. I've wanted to be married for years, maybe since 20. Part of that is my south Asian culture that puts a lot of importance on marriage and family. But I never had any substantial relationships. Over the years I've discovered ...

My past has led me to hate sex, relationships and even the human touch

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2615 days ago

30 October 2017 (F) - I hate sex, masturbation, porn and sex toys. I even despise human touch and being social, including relationships. I'm very happy being single being alone by myself, but my family and therapist pressures me to date and socialize, which angers ...

I'm dating someone who has a twin brother and when the brothers and the sister-in-law get together, they make me feel very left out

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2614 days ago

30 October 2017 (F) - I have been dating an identical twin for the last 4 years. We have been doing well except when it comes to spending time with his brother and his sister in law. When we are all together, I am always to one that is left out. I always get left out of ...

How do we settle on the temperature issue? My partner and I find it difficult to adjust to each other's preferences

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

30 October 2017 (F) - It's a bit of a funny thing that is becoming not funny really fast. Me and my partner have vastly different temperatures at which we are comfortable. It's especially pronounced at nighttime, as the temperature that makes him feel OK-ish feels ...

My husband is inefficient and forgetful. How do I deal wth him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2614 days ago

30 October 2017 (F) - My husband is inefficient, forgetful and I can’t count on him to get things done or remembering schedules. Any advice? Last week, he fixed something at work on Friday and spent the whole day playing games on Saturday. On Saturday evening we were ...

Why would he say "I love you" if he has no intention of changing his life for you?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2617 days ago

28 October 2017 (F) - If a married man you've been involved in a long term relationship with tells you he loves you, could he really mean it, even if he will never leave his wife to be with you? It's a terrible predicament to be in when you realize you now love this ma...

Fantasizing about older men. Is it normal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

28 October 2017 (F) - Hello. I just have a simple question. Is it wrong for me to fantasize (daydream, or think..) about dating an older guy? Like five to ten years older than me? I already am dating and my boyfriend is three years older than me. I am 21 years old. I ...

Why did this woman pass such a comment on my 'almost' boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2617 days ago

28 October 2017 (F) - Hello. I'm a fitness model and I train at a studio with my friend who is also my trainer. We've just got involved together outside a business relationship. There's this other girl who he also trains. She's been with him almost as long as I hav...

How do I explain to my fiance that I want to go out dressed up as a female without hurting her feelings?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

27 October 2017 (M) - I'm engaged to a wonderful girl. I've always considered myself a female in my heart. I have been crossdressing secretly in the past but I can't anymore. I really want to go out and be feminine once in a while. I explained my fiancee my situation. I ...

Is it wrong if I want to be a housewife and not work for a living?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2617 days ago

27 October 2017 (F) - Hi , is it wrong to wants to be housewife? I want to get marry and want to have kids. I don’t think I will be able to work. Since, I am taking care of my elderly mom and I am going to have kids as well. I want to be housewife. Is it wrong to think ...

Finding my move to a small town difficult

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

26 October 2017 (F) - I moved from the city to a very small town on the other side of the country. I know no one from this town and I find adjusting to "small" town harder then I thought. I've been here for three months and I have heard more stories about "me" then I ...

I want marriage and emmigration with him. How do I approach this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2620 days ago

26 October 2017 (F) - I have been dating this man that I love for a year now. I do not get (on) very well with my family, nor am I adapting too well with in my country and culture. My boyfriend is English and he is working here until summer 2018 then leaving. I wan...

Why do people always tend to ignore me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2620 days ago

26 October 2017 (F) - People have always tended to ignore me socially, at work, in groups, meetung new people as I’m quieter, it’s made me want to give up? On meeting new friends and chatting to people Im always ignored or excluded, Im quieter but not snobby o...

Do I need to' know' he is the one?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2621 days ago

25 October 2017 (F) - I’m 29. My parter is 10 years older. We’ve been together 5 years. I love him; he loves me and everything is great. I just want to know what people think of soul mates? Or when people say ‘when you know, you know’ i guess i just know that our re...

He's changed how the trip expenses will be split!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2621 days ago

24 October 2017 (F) - So, I'm in a relatively new relationship.....we met in June but things have gotten more serious in the past 2 months where we now are exclusive......he's been talking about an event he wants to attend in the big apple in december and so we've been ...

Can he be a sucess when he neglects everything around him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2623 days ago

22 October 2017 (F) - Need opinion on this person. Thank you? Can ignorant, careless and not taking care of self person going to be succeed? Please give example and opinion? Do you believe ignorant, stupid, and not take care of himself person can be succeed? Is ther...

Two guys... So whom should I go for?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2624 days ago

21 October 2017 (F) - I have an issue where I'm interested in two guys and I don't know what to do about it. The first guy we met on a night out (he's 21 and I am 18) and there was this instant thing between us, an attraction, but also we got along really well. We've be...

Given his past, do you think that this man would be a good parent to my daughter?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2625 days ago

20 October 2017 (F) - I recently left an abusive marriage, and have been seeing a man from work for almost a year. He moved in with my kids and I over the summer. He has always been very sweet and caring to all of us, but the relationship isn't perfect, though I love ...

This woman is getting close on the train!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2626 days ago

18 October 2017 (M) - I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...

My boyfriend used to be a nerd but now acts like a 'Gangsta'

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2627 days ago

17 October 2017 (F) - He's a middle class white boy whose parents pay for everything including his Mini but he keeps acting like he wants to be the "gangster hood" stereotype and idk it really annoys me for some reason. My parents are also middle class but I was raised ...

I'm struggling with taking care of my ailing mother!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

15 October 2017 (F) - I'm struggling right now. I'm feeling guilty and I just don't know what to do. About 8 months ago my mother suffered with gout. During the time she suffered from anxiety and depression. She found it hard to get out of bed. She self diagnosed herself ...

Have I blown my dream job with a wrong answer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2628 days ago

15 October 2017 (F) - Hi I just applied for my dream job in an IT company and got invited for interview. Interview had 4 rounds and I cleared all of them. But after the rounds we had a small question answer round about the job. They asked me whether I'm okay with ni...

Men don't see me as dating material - why?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2628 days ago

15 October 2017 (F) - Hi, you know how people like to use the term "friendzone" in situations when girls only see guys as friends? Well, i'm the opposite. I'm a 25 yo girl and find that most guys see me as a buddy or undateable. I've gone on dates with guys but nothing ...

My brother's wedding showed me how regretable mine was

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2628 days ago

14 October 2017 (F) - Jealous of Sister In Laws Family Hi community. I just attended my brothers wedding and it was amazing! Such a great day with lovely speeches and an amazing vibe. I got married two months ago and looking at both I'm so jealous of my sister in l...

I need people's approval before I make changes in my life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2628 days ago

14 October 2017 (F) - I need help. I guess that's pretty obvious. I just wanted to preface this by saying thank you if you just hear me out and listen. I've always had low self esteem and lacked confidence and it's always pushed people away, even though I didn't ...

He has kept in touch, but I thought he only wanted sex.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2633 days ago

12 October 2017 (F) - Hi there! So i went on a date a few months ago with a lovely giy who i knew from primary school who just happens to now have his own tv series. We went out for a drink, had a lovely time. Then the next week he drove 3 hours to see his father (...

Do any girls here go to bars alone?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2631 days ago

11 October 2017 (F) - I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...

Was my colleague right to feel left out?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2635 days ago

10 October 2017 (F) - After opinions here.. A colleague A, has recently been off work sick for 3 1/2 weeks with tthe flu, most of us knew she was off, managers and some of us knew why. Shes a good worker, like us all! No different. She returned this week. As soon as...

I feel like I was second servings!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 2635 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...

Am I being too materialstic and self sabotaging?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2636 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - Am I being unrealistic? I am 50 and dating a man for close to three months who claims he is retired, I came to find out he was laid off and doesn't want to go back to work. I find myself paying more often when we go out, it is a huge turn-off. I ...

I feel I can't even communicate anymore because of his crazy reactions!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - Ok so myself and my husbsnd just had a huge fight. It happens every couple of months but ive just realised that i think he oveereacts. He shouts, spits, throws things and wont talk to me for days. This time it started like this.... We h...

Why am I having thought about having passionate sex with my friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2614 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - I think somethings wrong. I am in college, and one of my classmates, I have known since high school turns me on. Every time we talk and see each other (which is all the time, because we have the same major and minor) I have thoughts and fantasies ...

I'm pressured to get married how can I cope?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2636 days ago

8 October 2017 (F) - Is it too late to have kids in your 40"s . I am 31 and single and not dating - I have chased men for the last decade and have only LAnded on abusive men. I don't know why family puts pressure on me to get married and do things by the book but they ...

I want to build better relationships with my family

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2636 days ago

8 October 2017 (M) - I have an unusual issue that I've not really heard of many people discussing on this site before, I've asked questions in the past and received good advice but never on this topic. Basically, I feel like I don't really have a great relationsh...

My girlfriend is blaming herself for an early miscarriage.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

6 October 2017 (M) - Dear Cupid, The other day my girlfriend had a few drinks and on the way home started going on about how she thinks she's pregnant. She hadn't done a test and was purely going off her breasts being tender and feeling "weird" plus she rambles when she...

Other people have forgiven him, so why cant our children?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 2627 days ago

6 October 2017 (F) - One year ago my husband of 23 years was arrested, he had been looking at underage pornography. 45 counts of category a amongst other. Myself and our family were totally shocked as he had always been a very good person who helped all the family and ...

Should I move out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

6 October 2017 (F) - Hello, everyone! I am here to ask something and hear your opinions. I am a romanian girl which moved to Germany about 5 years ago. I am in school and to be honest, is going pretty well. But my problem has got nothing to do with my school. I turned ...

Is my Supervisor in the wrong for telling us about a colleague's mistake?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

6 October 2017 (F) - The other day my supervisor told me and a colleague during a meeting a mistake a co-worker made. This mistake is something that did not affect me or my other colleague whatsoever. Was this appropriate? I just feel if he was attempting to tell us the ...

Is my married boss hoping I will ask her out. ?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

6 October 2017 (M) - Hi this only happens at work lm a guy and really like 2 women 1 is married and find it hard to ask her out for a coffee and chat l feel she's still interested but she wants me to approach her and ask her out l don't think it will happen also cause ...

Engaged to be married and have a crush on another woman

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

6 October 2017 (M) - So to start off I have been with my fiancé for 11 years since we were both 18. In that time we have both been through a lot, however I have never in the last 11 years had a crush on another woman. She has always been the only women who i had any ...

I keep comparing myself and feel like a loser!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2641 days ago

4 October 2017 (F) - How can I stop comparing myself and feeling like a looser - I am 31 and I feel like I haven't accomplished much in life nor have I enjoyed anybting . I come from a broken home - nothing I did was ever good enough - I have two degrees a corporate job ...

Does looking at nudes lead to objectifying women?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2619 days ago

4 October 2017 (M) - I understand how wrong it is to regard people as objects. That's why I never stare at hot girls on the street, talk about their bodies or "hit on" them. But privately, I am curious about the female shape (being very inexperienced and never had a ...

How do I make this work for us both?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

4 October 2017 (F) - I've been talking heavily (throughout the day and he calls me everydau) to a guy that I have known for that I have really grown to like. He works two jobs and at first this was really trying on the budding relationship in that, he was really ...

Is life passing me by?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2641 days ago

4 October 2017 (M) - Hello everyone, Next month I am turning 30. Every birthday usually leads to some analysis and evaluation but this one at the end decade is feeling like an assessment of whole life. Right now I have MBA degree from one of the best schools around,...

How to come to terms with my academic failure?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

3 October 2017 (F) - So basically, I've spent the past two years working towards my masters degree as well as working full time. Up until this summer I've been doing really well (average grade 75, on track for a distinction), only to choke in my last few months and ...

How do I politely ask that they donate my fee to charity?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

3 October 2017 (F) - Hi Aunts and Uncles, I have a somewhat boring question, but never the less I need some advice. How do I politely ask that the money I earned (which is not a lot) be given to a charity? I don't want to sound weird or arrogant... A friend o...

Any tips for choosing Mr Right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2643 days ago

3 October 2017 (F) - I've never had a relationship longer then two years and those were pretty rocky for a good portion. I've been known to pick the wrong guys and so I'm trying to do things different lately. Marriage is a big goal in life for me and I would like t...

Will men care if I live at home?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2643 days ago

2 October 2017 (F) - Will men care if I don't have my own place? I am 31 years old and I have been hit with a financial hardship in life at the moment. For the first time in my life I am trying to not care what people think and focus on solving my financial situation ...